I'm not sure you can have true community without a certain level of accountability to a common standard. It often gets distorted in practice but to a certain extent you should have trusted people in your church who have the right to get involved in your business and call you out on hypocrisy or sin. Faith is personal but it isn't just personal; it's about being part of something larger than you are.
One of the most interesting comments I ever read on work, church, and community life was about how the early church decided to think of and call their meetings a liturgy. Because at the time, a liturgy was a great public work like oh lemme just go grab the book and quote from it:
Liturgy's an odd word, even awkward, for the early church to have chosen to describe its acts and forms of worship... Liturgy originally meant a public work - something accomplished by a community for a community. A town bridge, for instance or a village well or a city wall ... The oddness and awkwardness of the church's decision to import this word is even greater when we realized they had a word for worship close at hand, a word within a wide circulation within a religious context: orgy. ... Orgy described a public even that produced a private, usually ecstatic experience. It was the word pagan religions used for their worship... the emphasis was always squarely on the emotional experience of the individual.
So this personal faith you talk about (and it's not just you but a good chunk of what passes as popular Christianity in the US as well, so don't feel like I'm singling you out) sounds a whole lot more like orgy than liturgy or to put it another way: Yes we need a personal connection to God, but our life with God is lived out in the context of other people and our interactions with them and how we treat them are also part of our relationship with God and we should all encourage each other to more faithful living to God in our personal lives. For each of us our faith is not meant to be solely for our own benefit but also for the benefit of the others around us.
I would also say that back when I was part of a church that was big on emotional worship; I loved it but I also sometimes referred to worship as my drug of choice since sometimes I did escape into prayer and worship when I was having trouble dealing with life (which is much better than escaping into destructive behaviors, but God isn't there just to give us warm fuzzies everytime things get hard either).
One of the most interesting comments I ever read on work, church, and community life was about how the early church decided to think of and call their meetings a liturgy. Because at the time, a liturgy was a great public work like oh lemme just go grab the book and quote from it:
Liturgy's an odd word, even awkward, for the early church to have chosen to describe its acts and forms of worship... Liturgy originally meant a public work - something accomplished by a community for a community. A town bridge, for instance or a village well or a city wall ... The oddness and awkwardness of the church's decision to import this word is even greater when we realized they had a word for worship close at hand, a word within a wide circulation within a religious context: orgy. ... Orgy described a public even that produced a private, usually ecstatic experience. It was the word pagan religions used for their worship... the emphasis was always squarely on the emotional experience of the individual.
So this personal faith you talk about (and it's not just you but a good chunk of what passes as popular Christianity in the US as well, so don't feel like I'm singling you out) sounds a whole lot more like orgy than liturgy or to put it another way: Yes we need a personal connection to God, but our life with God is lived out in the context of other people and our interactions with them and how we treat them are also part of our relationship with God and we should all encourage each other to more faithful living to God in our personal lives. For each of us our faith is not meant to be solely for our own benefit but also for the benefit of the others around us.
I would also say that back when I was part of a church that was big on emotional worship; I loved it but I also sometimes referred to worship as my drug of choice since sometimes I did escape into prayer and worship when I was having trouble dealing with life (which is much better than escaping into destructive behaviors, but God isn't there just to give us warm fuzzies everytime things get hard either).
Just sought out some christian peeps a few months ago. I cannot speak to family and former family and friends about God so much. They get very emotional and angry when I point out that some things are sins, and some are mortal sins. And I believe that non christians will go to hell. Meaning they will go to hell. They want me to stop being christian and is very angry that I am old school christian, because it is a 180 from how I was. Few of that type of christian here. Priests are not allowed to preach of hell in our statechurches. So, forced to choose between God and the attheists I believe will go to hell, easy choice. better for them too, if they are to live happy atheistlives, it is not helpful to have me sitting with them at gatherings, not engaging in conversations about stuff I think is wrong, unless I chime in and tell them it is sinful. And forcing me to tell them I think they head to hell unless they repent, with direct questions.
I also have some social anxiety, so being pushed into social gatherings is not for me, being forced to speak honestly in a group and tell them I think they are sinful, is not enjoyable for me. Then angry people raising their voices, cussing, and carying on about how I cannot tell people they will go to hell. Was a thing with one of my former brother in the summer, he came, we talked about something. I had forgotten the name of the woman he lives with, and just called her, the woman you live with. And hot into a thing about him being married, which we did not agree on.I told him that he may be legally recognized as married, but unless he gets wed in church, it is not marriage. It must be under God. Now there is a humanethics confirmation for one of his girls in 1 month, and they want me to attend that. Drive 9 hours, sitting through a phony confirmation, I know how that would end. A bunch of blasphemy, me pointing it out, and the entire table going at me. Kind of funny, while also tiresome. I kept religion to myself till they saw that I read the bible, after forgetting it outside at the table a few times. Then continuing to create all theese situations with direct questions with option of being honest or lie, me choosing honest, them getting angry. So cannot be communal, when my surroundings are angry at me for being orthodox, and want to end my faith, at least become fake christian in lying about the holy book.