Here is what I see needs reconciling betweenst Arminianism and Calvinism.
Arminians, are ones reaching out
to God. Usually, at a very low point in their life situation. And God, in His Loving Kindness, and mercy, reaches out to them, in helping them get out, or away from their situation. So, the Armnian gets what
he/she wants, and the
rest of the time they are
resisiting God's attempts at
reaching out
to them!
The way I see Calvinism, is that God is the One reaching out
to man! And God?
ALWAYS gets His man!
Now! If you could get an Armnian to remember how they felt, when they reached out to God for their deliverance? Because
NO One FORCED them to cry out to Jesus. Right?
Then, the Armnian could begin to understand how
Irrestistable God's Grace is, when He reaches out
to man!