Blessings to you LLH.
Thank you for what I consider to be an honest post and you have addressed a couple of issues.
Yes being in Christ removes fear, it should remove fear.
Walking like Jesus means there is no reason to fear, and that should be true as well.
Your sentence "Is the problem not fear but terror and intimidation that some have grown up with?
I wonder because this has never been part of my life?
That hits the nail on the head for many people.
That was my issues.
Upbringing and life's experiences can and do give a very distorted view of God.
Fear and terror and anxiety and depression.
This in their minds leads to not being good enough, not being loved, being smacked about at the slightest mistake (my experience).
In order to be loved, accepted by God then people are told to just do, believe the Bible and so on.
I have to work hard to earn Gods love, be perfect and not sin.
Then when they fail it just adds to the issues. More guilt, more anxiety, more works and it goes on and on. A vicious cycle.
People need healing from the past in order to be set free to walk as Jesus has asked us to.
People need to be taught to forgive their past and those who hurt them.
To forgive is to set the prisoner free, only to realise the prisoner was you.
Given what you have said above, the church needs more people like you.
Willing to come alongside others who fear, and I mean by this, frightened of God will enact their life experiences on them.
The word does bring comfort to our soul, but if the word, Jesus is distorted in your mind all a person will see is the negative when reading the Bible.
When I come alongside people like I was the first thing I say to them is what Jesus says.
John 17:23
23 I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me.
God loves you as much as he loves Jesus.
I have to be honest. When I have said that to people, most respond with "Thats not true"
So I then show them the verse.
When they read it, some have said wow and accept it.
Some just cry and ask God, help me to accept it.
Either way it's the start of the process to set someone free.
Free to be loved, forgiven, believe in a loving Father then to walk like him.
The fear is being replaced with love.
That is why I am so passionate when someone says "Fear God to a believer"
Because the person who says that probably had no idea what fear means to the person who they are talking too.