Seoulsearch Tries To Date Multiple People At Once -- Ending In Epic Failure!

Ok im gonna chime in. I couldnt date more than one person at a time because id have a guilty conscience let alone trying to keep all the details straight haha.

another thing imagine if they had kids and trying to remember their names and their likes and dislikes haha id think kids would be the quickest to catch you in a lie too.

Excellent point!

I am definitely at an age where most people have kids, and sometimes even grandkids.

Keeping up with family and friends (and all the new additions, including pets) is challenging as it is -- I would definitely have to take a lot of notes if I were meeting several people at one time.

I have to say you must have an active imagination because ive seen quite a few threads youve created on here. it definately gets the conversations going and lets you get to know people on here better. I think i saw in one of your threads you saying your an introvert...you wouldnt know it on here thats for sure.

Aw, that's very kind of you, Stingray, thank you so much.

I have been writing paper letters to people since I fully learned how to write -- so starting at about 9 years old. And I've written letters to all kinds of people in all kinds of situations throughout my life. At one point I was writing inmates in prisons (until God told me to stop for my own safety,) and it was an inmate who gave me some amazing feedback. He told me that I had a way of writing letters that made it feel like I was right there, keeping them company, and having a conversation in person.

Ever since, I've taken that and ran with it. I came to this site in 2009, and I was incredibly nervous when I put up my first thread. And the even the next several ones after that. But eventually, it became very familiar to me, and the mods have been kind enough to allow me to keep doing so ever since.

It's all been a big part of "discovering God's calling" for my life. I'm not a teacher, I'm not a writer, I'm just a plain everyday person. But what I do think God has called me to be is a facilitator -- so my job is to get people talking... to each other. And God seems to have specifically designated this assignment to writing.

This site used to have voice chat rooms, and I quickly learned that I can't do the same thing in voice chats or in person. I could manage, but it would be very difficult for me and would drain all my energy. That's why I say I'm an introvert. Even these online discussions eventually exhaust me, and I have to step back for a while and recharge. Sometimes it takes months, so you'll see me come and go.

But the best part is that sometimes, I get to know a few people online very well and for a very long time, and we are eventually able to meet in person, which is such an amazing blessing.

It's part of what keeps me going. I find almost every conversation and everyday real-life events to be good thread inspirations, so God provides an abundance of ideas.

Many people have come and gone on this site, but a few told me that the threads here helped them feel less lonely in their daily life. This has become one of my biggest goals when starting these discussions -- to help people feel just a little less lonely.

Thank you so much for being part of all this! We're glad to have you here.

seolsearch i know you talked about dating in the first post above but are you searching or dating anyone now?

I'm currently not dating or really looking.

I'm not opposed to it, but I'm kind of an accidental dater -- I might know a guy for a long time and we've become good friends, and then, maybe, possibly, we might consider dating.

I'm also at an age where life isn't as flexible as it used to be -- it's important for me to be there for my parents, who are doing well but you know how life can change in an instant.

In the past, I probably could have moved most anywhere, but for now, I feel a strong need to be wherever my family is in case they need me.

How about you, Stingray? Seeing anyone or looking?

im glad to have found this site and the people in it they all seem to come across so genuine...except for maybe some of the bible dicussion threads trying to prove they are right or something.

im not seeing but am looking but realize i have to be selective where i look because for example i go to the gym and work out and see women there but i quickly realize this world is becoming less and less aware of God and wanting him to be a part of their life. i know that i dont want anything less than a woman of God to accept less would be less than God desires for me and HER.

Please don't be offended but I am wiping the tears away from laughing so hard.
You go girl

There are good people in the Bible Discussion Forum -- it can take a while to find those whose posts you want to follow.

This is just me, but I look for people who don't post just in the BDF, but in other parts of the forum, too.

I like it when people give a more rounded view of who they are.

nothing wrong with that im sure youll find someone that God has just for you and it will be way more than the guy you mentioned in your past.

*Lynx snickers.

*Lynx also kitkats for good measure.

Yeah seoulsearch. You wouldn't know it from your activity on the forum.

*Lynx proceeds to laugh so hard he falls off his swivel chair.


Ahem... Sorry to hijack your post for this stingray, but this fits perfectly into an ongoing joke.

as long as im not the joke im good with that haha.

Hush, Cat.

You're blowing my cover.

The more people start to realize the truth, the less I can get away with!!

Never mind the Lynx, he occasionally likes to pop in and talk a bunch of nonsense.

I think my introvertedness shows a lot more in person though -- more than one person I've met says something like, "Wow, I was expecting you to talk all the time, but in person, you hardly talk at all!" And I will often slink off into some quiet corner for an hour, half a day, week... until I once again emerge from my cocoon.

With writing, people can take a break or walk away at any time.

In person, they can't get away as easily, so I try to cut people a lot more slack.

I really thought we might get some honesty here about some who have tried dating multiple people at once. But I see that ship has probably sailed

im a little introverted myself but when i get to know you it quickly fades.