What Is YOUR Kryptonite? (What Things About Others Make You Go Weak In the Knees?)

[Mordy]

A tall man with glasses and a beard who loves Jesus and is kind to everyone until that person puts his family in danger, in which he turns into a protective bear. Plays the guitar and plays the bass and loves music and serving the Lord through music. Who makes me laugh and prays for me and loves to cook because errbody knows I hate to cook. Who is quick to apologize and has no problem crying in front of anyone when the Lord moves his heart.

If this sounds awfully specific it’s because it is. lol!

P.S. run on sentences are on purpose

Well, I could do most of that but not really play the guitar well or the bass. So I won't be joining any worship teams in the near future except perhaps to do a bit of percussion on a simple hand drum. But in a quiet room, I can pick a little bit and make up a few little tunes for you.
What kind of cooking dishes do you require my dear
.... but your husband would probably not appreciate my playing very much

 

[Jared_K]

@seoulsearch I wanted to say I really like the creativity behind your topics. You certainly put a lot of effort into them, have been for years now, and I acknowledge and appreciate that.

Personality matters to me above all else. It doesn’t matter to me if you’re unemployed, you don’t have a cent to your name, you’re living in mom’s basement, you have over 100,000 dollars in debt, you’re overweight and have self-esteem issues all combined into one package. I can’t and won’t change you, but I will lead you in the right direction. I don’t just grow myself, I inspire those to grow around me. Some of my friends just listening to my stories for years have started eating healthier, they are exercising regularly now and it all came from sharing my successes and my struggles. Being consistent in my own growth and they’ve supported me along the way.

What matters to me is a woman who prioritizes selflessness, reciprocates effort, loves and adores her man despite what anyone else says. The one that goes against the grain and pleases her man despite anyone calling it “babying him“ or “being mommy.” Fully embracing her femininity and submitting to him and allowing him to lead. Being a light in this world of darkness. Being a rose that stands out in a garden of daisies. The kind of woman who says “I want to go out on a date” and he says “Bills were expensive this month so money is tight” and she answers “I don't care about that, I’ve got you. You hungry? Let’s go eat!” The one that feeds and takes care of her man when he comes home from a 13-hour shift, tired and hungry, takes his socks off and rubs his feet even if she hates feet. That said, everyone has their flaws, everyone has their bad days, but it’s the little things that add up that truly matter to me. The effort. That’s what I see the most and I appreciate that.

And don’t think for one second that I wouldn’t jump in and do those things myself. That’s what a good relationship looks like. I just watched a video about a guy talking about his wife who has started menopause, and the whole time I was thinking “I’d be holding a fan up to cool her off.” And then he mentioned if you’re holding a box fan up for your wife to keep her cool, you are a ANGEL sent from heaven! But that’s just who I am. I don’t want to see people uncomfortable. Especially the people I deeply care about.

 

[seoulsearch]

@seoulsearch I wanted to say I really like the creativity behind your topics. You certainly put a lot of effort into them, have been for years now, and I acknowledge and appreciate that.

Personality matters to me above all else. It doesn’t matter to me if you’re unemployed, you don’t have a cent to your name, you’re living in mom’s basement, you have over 100,000 dollars in debt, you’re overweight and have self-esteem issues all combined into one package. I can’t and won’t change you, but I will lead you in the right direction. I don’t just grow myself, I inspire those to grow around me. Some of my friends just listening to my stories for years have started eating healthier, they are exercising regularly now and it all came from sharing my successes and my struggles. Being consistent in my own growth and they’ve supported me along the way.

What matters to me is a woman who prioritizes selflessness, reciprocates effort, loves and adores her man despite what anyone else says. The one that goes against the grain and pleases her man despite anyone calling it “babying him“ or “being mommy.” Fully embracing her femininity and submitting to him and allowing him to lead. Being a light in this world of darkness. Being a rose that stands out in a garden of daisies. The kind of woman who says “I want to go out on a date” and he says “Bills were expensive this month so money is tight” and she answers “I don't care about that, I’ve got you. You hungry? Let’s go eat!” The one that feeds and takes care of her man when he comes home from a 13-hour shift, tired and hungry, takes his socks off and rubs his feet even if she hates feet. That said, everyone has their flaws, everyone has their bad days, but it’s the little things that add up that truly matter to me. The effort. That’s what I see the most and I appreciate that.

And don’t think for one second that I wouldn’t jump in and do those things myself. That’s what a good relationship looks like. I just watched a video about a guy talking about his wife who has started menopause, and the whole time I was thinking “I’d be holding a fan up to cool her off.” And then he mentioned if you’re holding a box fan up for your wife to keep her cool, you are a ANGEL sent from heaven! But that’s just who I am. I don’t want to see people uncomfortable. Especially the people I deeply care about.

Hi @Jared_K,

Thank you so much for the kind words. I'm very thankful for the opportunities I've had here to talk with so many people about the Christian single life.

I appreciate the optimism, motivation, and balanced approach you take to your posts. Shoot, just reading your posts makes me think about eating salads and running on the treadmill, and that's not something I naturally get enthused about! I make myself do those things because they're healthy, but your posts are so motivating that, after reading them, it can change a person's thinking from "I HAVE to do this," to, "Wow, I GET to do this!!"

Thank you too for not just stating what impresses you in someone else and what you'd like for them to do, but that you are just as giving as you would want to the other person to be. I think there is such a tendency today for people to talk all about what they want in others, but forget to mention what they themselves will give in return.

It's always great to read your informative, useful, and highly motivating thoughts!

 

[Jared_K]

Hi @Jared_K,
running on the treadmill, and that's not something I naturally get enthused about! I make myself do those things because they're healthy,
It's always great to read your informative, useful, and highly motivating thoughts!

It’s important to find an exercise you truly enjoy doing. Something that values your time and energy without burning you out. Me personally, I hate running. I use a rowing machine. You can get one on Amazon on sale for less than $200 right now. I figured they would be in the $1,200 range. The one I have has 16 levels of resistance and the one I’m looking at now (White/Orange) has 32 levels of resistance, ranging from seat belt to lawn mower. You have to put them together but it only takes an hour maybe two, which isn’t too bad with instructions. They store upright and don’t take much room. A rowing machine grows 86% of your muscles and uses 100% of your stabilizers. Doctors recommend if you’re going to do one exercise only, the rowing machine would be the one. The only muscles that get neglected are chest and arms, which do get used to some extent, but it mostly covers legs, core, back and shoulders. You can burn 100-125 calories every ten minutes on that machine. It’s strength, cardio and mobility all in one.

Another easy one which yields great results is kettlebell swings. It works about 70-80% of the body’s muscles. Get a 5lb kettlebell, work your way up slowly to 10 then 20lbs. Kettlebell swings can burn a whopping 400 calories in 20 minutes. And frankly, it’s really easy to do. I don’t do them because I have a foot thing that needs time to heal. Just break it up into 10 sets of 2 minutes or 20 sets of 1 minute (start with maybe half or a quarter the first week) and watch YouTube videos on how to get the proper form. I’ve seen women who do this exercise exclusively and they have a very athletic look.

Theres burpees too, which work 100% of the muscles, but those are for more advanced exercisers. They don’t burn as many calories as the other two and they’re far more strenuous, but they work full body strength, cardio and mobility all in one.

Walking is so underrated. It cheats because it’s a cardio that doesn’t break down muscle like running does. You can easily get an extra 150 calories burned in a day just for walking ten minutes after a meal, which aids in digestion too. It’s great for mental health, curbs your appetite and aids heavily in recovery. It’s easy and low impact, so you could walk up to 2-3 hours a day and get in shape. You can burn even more by engaging your core and swinging your arms more like joggers and speed walkers do. Top tier exercise right there. Just make sure to wear some good shoes with good insoles (Or you’ll end up with a foot thing like me )

Fitness is a marathon, not a sprint. Just a little bit every day turns into a little more a year from now. It should feel easy and refreshing after you get over the initial soreness, which is a good sign you worked hard and signals it’s time to recover and come back stronger. Your body adapts to it and recovers quicker. Be that tortoise and let the hare burn out.

 

[33Michael33]

Hey Everyone!

A quick Google search says that "Kryptonite" is: "an alien mineral that has the property of depriving Superman of his powers; something that can seriously weaken or harm a particular person or thing."

In this thread, let's talk about someone's "kryptonite" as a relatively GOOD thing.

What are the qualities that will always make you notice a person, and maybe even "knock you off your feet" about them? (Whether as a potential date, or a potential friend?)

For instance, I'm always impressed by:

* Good manners -- when they open doors for people, say "please" and "thank you", treat others with kindness, etc. I'm always impressed by those who are kind to employees and fellow customers in all situations (at restaurants, theaters, stores, airports, etc.)

* Biblical knowledge without superiority -- someone who can discuss the Bible well but without trying to impress with "exclusive knowledge" or pride; is gifted in meeting others humbly where they are at.

* Willing to talk about spiritual experiences and gifts but with humility, and is willing to listen about the same in others. For example, I often seem to have a calling to those who have gone through a lot of abuse, often as children, and that can be a tough subject to engage in.

* A realistic attitude -- someone who's neither artificially exuberant nor exceedingly sullen or apathetic. Someone who feels genuine and comfortable to talk to -- which can be frustratingly rare to find.

* Compassionate but with the wisdom to set boundaries -- someone who has the knowledge experience with knowing when to help, and when to avoid enabling.

* And of course, someone who has a great sense of humor and curiosity about life!

How about YOU?

* What qualities in others are YOUR kryptonite -- what things do you see in other people that makes you feel almost "powerless" -- and wanting to know more about them?

* How long does it take you to notice these things -- or are they usually evident early on?

* What is it about these things that you find so attractive?

* Do you find that you have all of the same qualities you're attracted to in others, or do you like the feeling of "opposites attracting"?

Of Course, GOD First in ALL Things. A Woman that wants to Speak the Word and is just as Excited as I am about going to Church Together. I Love an ALL Natural Woman. One that doesn't wear make up or feel the need to show off her body even though she could. Like unnecessary cleavage Etc. Covered up is more Sexy to me. A Women in Sweat Clothes is more attractive to me than one in a mini-skirt or short shorts...

 

[33Michael33]

A tall man with glasses and a beard who loves Jesus and is kind to everyone until that person puts his family in danger, in which he turns into a protective bear. Plays the guitar and plays the bass and loves music and serving the Lord through music. Who makes me laugh and prays for me and loves to cook because errbody knows I hate to cook. Who is quick to apologize and has no problem crying in front of anyone when the Lord moves his heart.

If this sounds awfully specific it’s because it is. lol!

P.S. run on sentences are on purpose

Yeah, I check every box except the guitar. I cry in Church every service. And I go Mondays, Wednesdays, And Sundays. Just last night at the Prayer Meeting actually. Good to know that there are still Women out there that doesn't see a Man Crying as a weakness. And the Bear part. This is how I explain it to people so that they may understand. I am two sides of the same coin. As Empathetic and Nice as I am. If someone messes with my Son you will see a side of me you wish you would have never seen. And you will never see me the same again. That is a side of me that I try really hard to suppress for that very reason...

 

[Mordy]

Humour, pith, concise erudition and quiet leaning.

 

[Blue155]

Someone who is full of the Spirit’s fruit. Who you can see Christ in. Who genuinely cares and loves. Who when you feel like your world is crashing down, you automatically think of them. Who makes you feel peace and comforts you. Any husbands who has that as their wife are incredibly blessed to have. And any man who has that as a friend with a single woman is also incredibly blessed to have.

 

[33Michael33]

Someone who is full of the Spirit’s fruit. Who you can see Christ in. Who genuinely cares and loves. Who when you feel like your world is crashing down, you automatically think of them. Who makes you feel peace and comforts you. Any husbands who has that as their wife are incredibly blessed to have. And any man who has that as a friend with a single woman is also incredibly blessed to have.

AMEN

 

[LightBearer316]

Someone who is full of the Spirit’s fruit. Who you can see Christ in. Who genuinely cares and loves. Who when you feel like your world is crashing down, you automatically think of them. Who makes you feel peace and comforts you. Any husbands who has that as their wife are incredibly blessed to have. And any man who has that as a friend with a single woman is also incredibly blessed to have.

Did you write that all on your own or did you use Ai? Either way that is a beautiful description of someone walking in the Spirit — peace, compassion, and genuine Christlike love are always unmistakable marks of His work in a person.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith.” — Galatians 5:22 KJV

Grace and peace.

 

[Lanolin]

meat pies.

In NZ there are awards for best pies. There is nothing like a good pie. I miss Georgie Pie.

My favourite is Potato Top. Aka Shepherd's Pie.

No other country does meat pies like NZ does. Aussie pies are pale imitations, American Pies are too fruity, or vegetative - apple and pumpkin, and UK pies are not even pies. They are tarts disguised as pies.
The french do Quiche or Flans those are just flaky pies. Italian pies are just pizza and they are too big and round and flat.


To be a good pie, you need to be baked and the crust the right combination of crispy and chewy. Your filling must be meaty/mincy with enough gravy, and hot. You must be small enough to be held like a handburger ie. with one hand, but big enough to bite into, and the correct way to eat a meat pie is NOT to slice it but bite into it while holding the paper bag so it doesn't slop all over you or wherever you are eating. You can eat a pie with no utensils, don't need plates or trays or anything.

Tradies live on pies and become strong with pies as their diet. In NZ schools the best thing to eat or order at lunchtime is a hot meat pie. It used to be the ONLY food that ever came hot at lunchtime. We never had hamburgers and hot chips are too salty. We ate pies and that was the best part of the day.

 

[Lanolin]

Steak and Mushroom
Mince and Cheese
Potato Top
Mince
Steak and Kidney

Those are the main pies
For the more adventurous you can try a Butter Chicken Pie or Bacon and Egg but I don't really rate those as traditional pies.