But NOT BEFORE THE HEARING! Afterwards. After the offer of marriage is made.
After the cup of betrothal/bread/cup of the new covenant is offered.
All of which can be refused. And are refused the world over day in and day out.
Luk 22:17
Then He took the cup, and gave thanks, and said, “Take this and divide
it among yourselves;
Luk 22:19
And He took bread, gave thanks and broke
it, and gave
it to them, saying, “This is My body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of Me.”
Luk 22:20
Likewise He also
took the cup after supper, saying, “This cup
is the new covenant in My blood, which is shed for you.