It's the Official Singles Forum DIY Matchmaking Thread! (Whether for Friendships or Dating.)
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1. Name/What You Want to Be Called: G00WZ, GZ,
2. Location (you don't have to be specific; remember, anyone can see this), and Would You Be Willing to Relocate? California
3. Number of Children: 0
4. Pets (what kinds and what are their names?): 0
5. How Long Have You Been Saved? Church Denomination, if you care to share?: I was saved in 2013 or 2014 somewhere around that time.
6. Looking For Friendships or Romance, or Both? : ..Just posting because some might be curious, i am not looking for romance though.
7. Career, Hobbies, Interests? (Expand upon what you answered in the poll.) : Entrepreneur/ Investor, hobbies...Into cars, usually exotics though, Liberty walk, drifting, chess, learning and reading bible/scripture and different books of wisdom like The 48 laws of power, The book of five rings, The Art of War, and various others. Exploring different and new things like different types of music and whatnot. I have many hobbies and things that i am interested in, probably too many for me to post.
8. What Do You Have to OFFER Someone Else? (Whether a friend or a significant other -- why might they be interested in you?) : Honesty for the most part, life experiences if i have any to give. I am a pretty good nonjudgmental listener, i am good at understanding people. Testimony of the things God has done too, because there are many.
9. What Are You Looking For in A Friend and/Or Romantic Partner? : Dunno, im not looking for romance. Im not exactly "looking" for anything, i just find what i find. All of my friends that i do have are valuable to me for different and unique reasons of their own, so its kind of hard to look for things specific. I always believed that everyone has value, it's just a matter of determining if that one is for you or not.
10. Do You Think You Could Survive A Zombie Apocalypse? Why or why not? : I would be able to survive pretty well i think. Zombies from what i remember are dumb, slow and predictable, so all i would have to do is get to a large body of water and live on a ship.
2. Location (you don't have to be specific; remember, anyone can see this), and Would You Be Willing to Relocate? California
3. Number of Children: 0
4. Pets (what kinds and what are their names?): 0
5. How Long Have You Been Saved? Church Denomination, if you care to share?: I was saved in 2013 or 2014 somewhere around that time.
6. Looking For Friendships or Romance, or Both? : ..Just posting because some might be curious, i am not looking for romance though.
7. Career, Hobbies, Interests? (Expand upon what you answered in the poll.) : Entrepreneur/ Investor, hobbies...Into cars, usually exotics though, Liberty walk, drifting, chess, learning and reading bible/scripture and different books of wisdom like The 48 laws of power, The book of five rings, The Art of War, and various others. Exploring different and new things like different types of music and whatnot. I have many hobbies and things that i am interested in, probably too many for me to post.
8. What Do You Have to OFFER Someone Else? (Whether a friend or a significant other -- why might they be interested in you?) : Honesty for the most part, life experiences if i have any to give. I am a pretty good nonjudgmental listener, i am good at understanding people. Testimony of the things God has done too, because there are many.
9. What Are You Looking For in A Friend and/Or Romantic Partner? : Dunno, im not looking for romance. Im not exactly "looking" for anything, i just find what i find. All of my friends that i do have are valuable to me for different and unique reasons of their own, so its kind of hard to look for things specific. I always believed that everyone has value, it's just a matter of determining if that one is for you or not.
10. Do You Think You Could Survive A Zombie Apocalypse? Why or why not? : I would be able to survive pretty well i think. Zombies from what i remember are dumb, slow and predictable, so all i would have to do is get to a large body of water and live on a ship.
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I lived in Rockland, Maine Oct. 2005 - Mar 2014 with my late second wife. I agreed to relocate from Florida so that she could be close to her elderly parents. While there both her parents died and my late second wife as well. I left Maine the day after her funeral service. It was hard living there leaving behind my family in Florida but I felt that the Lord wanted me to make this sacrifice for her.
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I enjoy Rockland as a "tourist". It's a very pretty area. I always go there during peak season. It's so pretty. I like the Breakwater Lighthouse and Summer Solstice event. I hope that your time in Maine and that season of your life was a blessing. I'm sorry for the passing of your family, but glad you're able to be back in Florida.
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Well yeah, that too, but I was thinking primarily about the culinary matters you mentioned. Getting sausage from a local butcher shop that makes their own sausage, strawberries from a local field, eggs from a friend who keeps chickens...
It's a good thing I haven't eaten breakfast yet. I just made myself hungry, and it stinks to do that when you have already eaten.
It's a good thing I haven't eaten breakfast yet. I just made myself hungry, and it stinks to do that when you have already eaten.
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seouls I dont think many people who are truly single actually want to match themselves up with anybody,
thats the reason why they are single! why try and force a square peg into a round hole? I dont get that.
I just find it annoying when peoole keep going on and on about how you HAVE to be with somebody else as if being single is a disease. Its not, and it also doesnt mean we dont have any friends either!!!
thats the reason why they are single! why try and force a square peg into a round hole? I dont get that.
I just find it annoying when peoole keep going on and on about how you HAVE to be with somebody else as if being single is a disease. Its not, and it also doesnt mean we dont have any friends either!!!
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The beauty of this site is that we can chose the forums and threads we want to visit. This thread is a bit of fun and a way of introducing ourselves to each other. It isn't seriously about matchmaking. It can function to have others go, "Oh wow, they like making sculptures out of Spam. Me too!" or, "You do organic farming? I would love to try that. Let's talk". Seoul works really hard to get people talking to each other and she isn't asking anyone to do anything they don't want. It doesn't mean people are not content in their own lives if they introduce themselves. No one implied that if you get to know each other that you don't have friends. As for whether people want to match up with others maybe some do. I think whether you are content single or desire a relationship it is up to the people to choose and we shouldn't pick on Seoul for allowing us to have some fun. I am grateful to her for her encouragement and friendliness. I see this as just a way of forming community. If some people decide to contact others then so be it. If someone doesn't want to engage then don't. Simple.
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You gotta be kidding me, right?
From what I'm seeing, you are the one who is preoccupied with single seeking another single, not seoul.
No one is forcing anything, nor seoulsearch keep going on and on about how she is single.
If other singles wanting to stay single, then good, as there are other singles who are looking as well.
And if you are not looking, then you know you don't have to participate as no one is forcing you.
If you want to participate, then do it with good heart - stop being this negative voice, not for others, but for yourself.
From what I'm seeing, you are the one who is preoccupied with single seeking another single, not seoul.
No one is forcing anything, nor seoulsearch keep going on and on about how she is single.
If other singles wanting to stay single, then good, as there are other singles who are looking as well.
And if you are not looking, then you know you don't have to participate as no one is forcing you.
If you want to participate, then do it with good heart - stop being this negative voice, not for others, but for yourself.
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I was trying to think of a way to condense everything I wanted to say in just a few concise little sentences, but it looks like this post, as with many I write, might wind up being a bit lengthy. Sorry in advance for the long read.
I think part of getting to know a person well is being able to get to watch someone during a variety of life's circumstances, and that it's equally, if not more important, to know how someone handles adversity. Lanolin, I thank you for that opportunity.
If I go back over almost all the threads I've written while you've been here, I can nearly always count on you coming into the threads I write at some point and saying essentially the same things over and over: 1. "What's going on here? I just don't understand. Seoul, this idea is ridiculous and never going to work." 2. "Seoul, you have problems. Here, Let me point them out to you and tell you what you need to do about them, because I know." 3. "Seoul, everything you write is a waste of time and nobody here wants or needs what you're trying to sell (and if they do, boy are they pathetic."
These may not be your exact words, but, after reading your posts to me in my past threads, I've come to see a pattern, and this is what you tell me in nearly every single thread I write.
Now, if that's the way you feel, there's nothing wrong with that -- you're entitled to your own opinion. My first approach was to always try to explain to you my ideas behind the thread and why I was trying it out, but that never seemed like a good enough answer for you, as you would always answer with more criticisms. Because my reasons to you were always ignored, I'm going to stop trying to explain them anymore. If the original posts introducing the thread didn't set up enough of a premise, I'm afraid I can't be of much more help to you.
Some people "get" my personality and some don't -- which is perfectly fine and absolutely normal. I don't mind when people disagree with me or even dislike/hate me or what I'm doing because I know that's just part of life. You can't please everyone or make everyone understand where you're coming from, and I don't try.
It honestly feels like you pounce on every thread I write in anticipation of putting it through the shredder. And if that's what you enjoy doing and feel God has called you to do that personally, by all means, keep going. I would be wrong to stop you.
But for you or anyone else who feels I'm doing something wrong, I always tell them the same thing once they've confronted me out in the open: pray against me. That's right. You go to God and tell Him absolutely everything you think I'm doing wrong and why. Believe me, it works. There have been times when I've changed my mind about something I wanted to write, or how I wanted to say it. So whatever you think I'm doing wrong or whatever it is you read about me that you think needs to be fixed, I invite, even implore you to go to God and ask Him to fix me right up right and proper and just the way you think I should be.
In the meantime, it's not going to stop me from continuing to do what I'm doing (unless God puts a stop to it Himself.) I asked Him a long time ago whose criticism I should take to heart in life and I believe He told me, if someone has proven they are willing to bleed for you and with you during the worst times you go through, those are the people you should listen to.
I'm also not a "yes" person. I'm not someone who needs to be told "yes" or affirmed all the time -- just ask my closest friend about that, because they never feel bad about disagreeing with me! Lol! But I've also seen their hearts bleed out right along with mine during my darkest moments, and so I have no doubts about trusting them. If anything, I try to look at adversity as something that teaches me better, stronger, and more efficient ways of doing something (at least I hope.)
So if the things I say or do bother you so much, I would suggest putting me on Ignore immediately, but I'm guessing you won't, because I think you genuinely enjoy replying to my threads -- which is fine, and you have a right to do that. But I've also come to expect your rebuttals like clockwork and though I will try to answer, every time I do, I know that I'm just turning in circles because you'll have another way to word the exact same criticisms (with a few new ones thrown in) all over again every time I put something up.
To @christian74, @laughingheart, and others who seem to enjoy these threads, thank you very much and I hope it's been edifying for you. Laughingheart made an excellent point in one of her posts about finding out that other members have the same interests -- I personally think this is something huge that's missing from the church.
Bible studies are wonderful but there is usually no time or effort put into actually getting to know each other or about each other's lives, which is a crucial component that many of us are missing. Almost every human being wants someone to talk to that they know, and someone who knows them. They need a regular check-in with other human beings who, along with Bible passages and lessons, take the time to ask them if their dog is recovering from his surgery; how are they doing with their kids being home all the time; what's that great creative project you have going and could you show me your progress, because I'd love to see what you're working on!
Without that, many of us are missing an entire component of who and what God made us to be -- one visit to the Family Forum and you'll see that thousands of Christian marriages are breaking up because of a sheer lack of real human connection. And I agree that we don't necessarily need romantic connections to have that, either. Some people have them, and some people don't. Some people want them, and some people don't.
But Lanolin, you are someone who needs that kind of connection just as much as anyone, and probably more so, even if you don't see it. You seem to enjoy posting about the things that are important to you -- your garden, your library, and your annoying clingy friends. You've even said in your posts that you like coming here to share and to vent. Wouldn't you feel like something was missing if you weren't able to do that?
This is how many of us singles feel as well. We are simply looking for others we might have something in common with to talk to and build friendships with, whether it turns into anything else or not, and these are the types of connections I'm trying to help build here. You may feel just find after coming and venting through generic posts to an audience of strangers, but some of us need more than that and my hope for people here is that they will find and connect with real individuals, and not just pixels on a screen. Whatever works for you, that's great! But it might not work as well for other people.
For myself, one of the things that's kept me going is meeting people here online, developing long-time correspondences (several years), and then possibly being able to meet them in person when I'm traveling to see family. This past year I met about 7 people from CC, though some are no longer members, but our original introductions took place right here in the forums.
When we are given something, the Bible tells us that God wants us to share it with others. This site has given me wonderful opportunities to learn, grow, and meet exceptional people, so one of the reasons I put so much time, effort, and energy into these threads is because I'm trying to hopefully give others a chance for the same kinds of friendships I have found here.
I understand your concerns Lanolin, and I know you'll keep bringing them up.
But in all honesty, if you don't know who I am and what I stand for from all the posts I've written that you've read (at least, I'm assuming you actually read them before tearing them apart, but I could be wrong,) then there's nothing more I can do to try to help explain anything further to you about what I say or who I am.
Again, if what I do and write irks you so much, please put me on Ignore as soon as you finish reading this.
And if you don't... Well then all I can say is that you must like using them as a springboard for whatever negativity you find in them, and in me.
It's your right to do so -- I just may not answer to the extent you seem to be looking for every single time.
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@seoulsearch
I think this is a wonderful thread you created here it's a nice way for everyone to get to know each other. In real life, I am a quiet person but I do enjoy asking a question and getting to know people. from your post, I read you seem like a caring person with a very kind heart.
I think this is a wonderful thread you created here
it's a nice way for everyone to get to know each other. In real life, I am a quiet person but I do enjoy asking a question and getting to know people. from your post, I read you seem like a caring person with a very kind heart.-
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