OK thank you, but I must say you base your understanding on the hurt that happened to you because you equate the sin of married people sexually from your experience.
I would not in any way try to discredit your experience.
You have listed many things, but what you failed to understand is the person(s) were addicted to pornography and brought that in tot he relationship Marrieg was not the problem of Sexual Idolatry. all the things you listed were brought into the marriage because someone has a sexual addiction. The marriage was doomed. Why ? Because the Person(S) built more into the sexual experience out of perversion, not from love. Long before this happened, something was not right.
You did not answer my second question is being tempted a sin sexually, or is temptation a sin?
I would not in any way try to discredit your experience.
You have listed many things, but what you failed to understand is the person(s) were addicted to pornography and brought that in tot he relationship Marrieg was not the problem of Sexual Idolatry. all the things you listed were brought into the marriage because someone has a sexual addiction. The marriage was doomed. Why ? Because the Person(S) built more into the sexual experience out of perversion, not from love. Long before this happened, something was not right.
You did not answer my second question is being tempted a sin sexually, or is temptation a sin?
And no, the things I listed were not all from my former marriage, but rather, a compilation of stories people have told me over time.
Many married Christians are struggling with these things in their marriage.
Even thinking about someone other than one's spouse in that way is sin, as Jesus said lusting after someone in thought was committing adultery in their heart.
I applaud you for going through 30 years of marriage and never thinking about any woman but your wife. That's a most noble accomplishment!
But unfortunately, many married Christians aren't so fortunate and they are struggling. Back when CC was more active, the Family Forum was filled with people pouring their hearts out about sexual struggles in their marriage and how their spouses refused to go to church and counseling.
For all the married Christian couples out there who don't have perfection in their married sex lives (no sin,) they need genuine, effective help.
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