"Women Only Want Money"; "Men Only Want Sex." How Do You Cope With These Assumptions?
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Hi Soulsearch,
In my 25 years of existence in this world lol I only dated once and it was some kind of experience, we did not engage in premarital sex in our three years of relationship and I'm really glad that we did not cause he was bragging to his friends that if he wasn't a good guy, I would have been pregnant a long time, it leave me an impression to be wary of guys, he was even a pastor and I just hear rumor from rumor that I was cheating and I even supported part of his studies, I was willing to support him through out the way but I was broken and my walk in Christ has been affecting it, my relationship with my family and its changing me in a bad way of course I'm not blaming him alone. I decided that Christ is more than enough for me and I'm glad that I did not jump to commiting to sexual sin, I think once you've tasted such temptation your flesh will crave for it, even Moses flee when Potiphar's wife seduce him and the 10 commandments was not even given to them at that time cause maybe He doesn't want the presence of God to separate to him, ofcourse I'm not perfect my flesh is curious for it, honestly I desire for my mind thinks about it especially at cold nights hahaa it but I have God and His been giving me strength to obey and persevere to God be the glory and if ever I will choose a man ofcourse money and securit`y would play a role, I don't want my children to suffer.
In my 25 years of existence in this world lol I only dated once and it was some kind of experience, we did not engage in premarital sex in our three years of relationship and I'm really glad that we did not cause he was bragging to his friends that if he wasn't a good guy, I would have been pregnant a long time, it leave me an impression to be wary of guys, he was even a pastor and I just hear rumor from rumor that I was cheating and I even supported part of his studies, I was willing to support him through out the way but I was broken and my walk in Christ has been affecting it, my relationship with my family and its changing me in a bad way of course I'm not blaming him alone. I decided that Christ is more than enough for me and I'm glad that I did not jump to commiting to sexual sin, I think once you've tasted such temptation your flesh will crave for it, even Moses flee when Potiphar's wife seduce him and the 10 commandments was not even given to them at that time cause maybe He doesn't want the presence of God to separate to him, ofcourse I'm not perfect my flesh is curious for it, honestly I desire for my mind thinks about it especially at cold nights hahaa it but I have God and His been giving me strength to obey and persevere to God be the glory and if ever I will choose a man ofcourse money and securit`y would play a role, I don't want my children to suffer.
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my experience is men will maybe wait for a week or so, and THEN start the pressure for sex, so as not to give the impression they are after sex.
It seems to me if there is a delay, they wanna hide the fact that they were thinking of it the instant they saw you...to prove they are 'good'.
sigh. I dunno.
No mans really gonna say to your face, youre ugly, I dont want to have kids with you.
the most they might say is 'lets take it slow' and Im thinking...er...what does 'it' even mean??
It seems to me if there is a delay, they wanna hide the fact that they were thinking of it the instant they saw you...to prove they are 'good'.
sigh. I dunno.
No mans really gonna say to your face, youre ugly, I dont want to have kids with you.
the most they might say is 'lets take it slow' and Im thinking...er...what does 'it' even mean??
hmm
the long walk thing...I once went on a date where we walked somewhere and this guy was huffing and puffing cos he was so unfit we were just WALKING.
the taxation thing...only if the guy has his own business or self employed you will not hear the end of it, is pretty much all they can talk about.
Im like maybe I'll just go with someone who is not his own boss.
the long walk thing...I once went on a date where we walked somewhere and this guy was huffing and puffing cos he was so unfit we were just WALKING.
the taxation thing...only if the guy has his own business or self employed you will not hear the end of it, is pretty much all they can talk about.
Im like maybe I'll just go with someone who is not his own boss.
These assumptions are often true. There are truths to them, but there are reasons. Reasons don't justify it, but the truth has to do with materialism.
Materialism is often frowned upon because it's vanity, but materials aren't useless. People have to breed to propagate humanity and since there are so many people they compete with each other for the best territory.
Men are attracted to visual things therefore women make efforts to be pretty. Women are attracted alpha males because the fittest males will be the most successful, the most wealthy, and the best providers.
This combination produces the best possible human: good looking, intelligent, and physically fit, and probably highly successful.
What sets people apart from animals is their soul. We are thinking and feeling just like God is because we're made in his image.
Our ability for higher thought supercedes base instincts, therefore we can redefine partner suitability based on deeper connections like faith, principals, morals, and whatever else we have in common.
So when we see these stereotypes we're just getting a glimpse the worldly nature of people.
Materialism is often frowned upon because it's vanity, but materials aren't useless. People have to breed to propagate humanity and since there are so many people they compete with each other for the best territory.
Men are attracted to visual things therefore women make efforts to be pretty. Women are attracted alpha males because the fittest males will be the most successful, the most wealthy, and the best providers.
This combination produces the best possible human: good looking, intelligent, and physically fit, and probably highly successful.
What sets people apart from animals is their soul. We are thinking and feeling just like God is because we're made in his image.
Our ability for higher thought supercedes base instincts, therefore we can redefine partner suitability based on deeper connections like faith, principals, morals, and whatever else we have in common.
So when we see these stereotypes we're just getting a glimpse the worldly nature of people.
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Hmmmmm
I read this book about Kate Sheppard who led the campaign to get votes for women in new zealand back in 1863.
It was quite interesting to read mens attitudes towards women at the time.
But she had a very good point about widows who had families to look after, if they were not allowed to vote or have any say over their circumstances, what were they going to do?
aside from widows, how about those married with drunken husbands?
She was part of the christian temperence union and they were campaigning to stop men from getting drunk and beating up their wives.
stuff like that. I think it was not common for women to do the reverse, to get drunk and beat up their husbands.
It was quite interesting to read mens attitudes towards women at the time.
But she had a very good point about widows who had families to look after, if they were not allowed to vote or have any say over their circumstances, what were they going to do?
aside from widows, how about those married with drunken husbands?
She was part of the christian temperence union and they were campaigning to stop men from getting drunk and beating up their wives.
stuff like that. I think it was not common for women to do the reverse, to get drunk and beat up their husbands.
so what happened was they had this rule that pubs had to close at 6oclock. so the husbands could go home and be with their families and wives
But what really ended up happening was the men got off work, went to the pub and sculled as much beer as they could before 6oclock and got even drunker, earlier in the evening.
They called it 'the six o clock swill'
True story.
But what really ended up happening was the men got off work, went to the pub and sculled as much beer as they could before 6oclock and got even drunker, earlier in the evening.
They called it 'the six o clock swill'
True story.
I've seen the look on Mel and her husband's face. I know they are quite happy and content with life. They are a fine example of what a happy/content marriage can be.
I think the question about how many children they have is out of line and it strikes me as sarcasm. That's their business not yours.
I think the question about how many children they have is out of line and it strikes me as sarcasm. That's their business not yours.
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