"Women Only Want Money"; "Men Only Want Sex." How Do You Cope With These Assumptions?
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The OP has a valid point. Recall around ten years ago the receptionist at the dentist office 'hit on me' by strongly suggesting we go out. Her reasoning? In her words and not mine: 'you must have a lot of money'
LOL! To this day do not understand what I did to make that impression with her. Fact is I am a rather unattractive guy, so that is the only time I have been approached by a woman like that. Quite frankly to this day I find it disconcerting and leaves a 'bad taste' in my mouth. Only hit on once in life by a woman and it is over money?
Why could not she have looked a bit deeper and emphasized the following instead:
'You are kind and compassionate'
'You are honest and trustworthy'
'You are hardworking and responsible'
If she had said anything along those lines I might have taken her up on it...
LOL! To this day do not understand what I did to make that impression with her. Fact is I am a rather unattractive guy, so that is the only time I have been approached by a woman like that. Quite frankly to this day I find it disconcerting and leaves a 'bad taste' in my mouth. Only hit on once in life by a woman and it is over money?
Why could not she have looked a bit deeper and emphasized the following instead:
'You are kind and compassionate'
'You are honest and trustworthy'
'You are hardworking and responsible'
If she had said anything along those lines I might have taken her up on it...
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Besides, christians arent meant to love anything in the world, didnt Jesus say so? Or was it 1 John 2:15-17
I kinda look at scripture as it means what it says, you know. Some people wanna ignore it and then wonder why they are in such a mess and have all these conflicts between what they want and what God wants.
I kinda look at scripture as it means what it says, you know. Some people wanna ignore it and then wonder why they are in such a mess and have all these conflicts between what they want and what God wants.
I think the appropriate response to a caramel chocolate is to say thank you and eat it. Besides what if it's another female that gives me a caramel chocolate? Then I could have a serious moral dilemma. What if multiple people give me caramel chocolates? I think we need a better test of true love and marriage readiness than the gifting of caramel chocolates.
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wazza? the neighbours gave caramel chocolates, a whole box of roses chocolates. Am I meant to marry my neighbours? They are already married. This could get complicated.
As for good looking children. They dont really look THAT good when they been out playing in the mud or glued to their computer screens. Also when their noses are snotty and they dribbling all over, with scabs and nits and stuff, and showing me where their teeth have fallen out.
I might have seen some good looking children that parents had kinda pimped out to advertising agencies to get pocket money. But you know its mostly photoshopped as kids cant stand still for long and they probably arent even wearing their own clothes.
I tell the children at school you dont have to LOOK good. You just have to BE good.
As for good looking children. They dont really look THAT good when they been out playing in the mud or glued to their computer screens. Also when their noses are snotty and they dribbling all over, with scabs and nits and stuff, and showing me where their teeth have fallen out.
I might have seen some good looking children that parents had kinda pimped out to advertising agencies to get pocket money. But you know its mostly photoshopped as kids cant stand still for long and they probably arent even wearing their own clothes.
I tell the children at school you dont have to LOOK good. You just have to BE good.
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So many seem offended at the idea of people placing assumptions on them. Which is ironic as that is the basis for observation of, or initial contact with, other people. You see a person you don't know and make assumptions about your ability to mesh well with them (or not).
Personally I have no issue with this, in general. It's only when people won't give up those assumptions that I find this a problem.
I find it rather fun to see what assumptions are made about me and how often people are wrong about me and getting to show them otherwise. More often than not those are the people I get along with best in the long run.
So rather than being so offended over nothing why not use it as an opportunity to change that person's mind? And if they won't are they really worth getting upset over?
Personally I have no issue with this, in general. It's only when people won't give up those assumptions that I find this a problem.
I find it rather fun to see what assumptions are made about me and how often people are wrong about me and getting to show them otherwise. More often than not those are the people I get along with best in the long run.
So rather than being so offended over nothing why not use it as an opportunity to change that person's mind? And if they won't are they really worth getting upset over?
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