Is It Acceptable as a Christian to Say That Looks DO Count?
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I agree with you Kakashi....
ther is a matter of judgement over preference
I think the biggest part of looks is the first impression, although I couldn't date someone only on looks, the same way with music...i wouldn't date someone just because they listened to the same music, it helps, but there are more important things.
ther is a matter of judgement over preference
I think the biggest part of looks is the first impression, although I couldn't date someone only on looks, the same way with music...i wouldn't date someone just because they listened to the same music, it helps, but there are more important things.
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They do count. Why should I not be with someone I'm attracted to? I don't deserve to settle for someone who doesn't make my heart pound.
Attractiveness is subjective. I often find someone very attractive that my friend doesn't. It doesn't mean I only look for models, so it doesn't make me superficial.
Attractiveness is subjective. I often find someone very attractive that my friend doesn't. It doesn't mean I only look for models, so it doesn't make me superficial.
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You folks are funny and thats good. But on a serious note...what if we work backwords? What if we lived in a society were marriages were "arragnged"? Would we be any less obligated to honor that bond? Even if the person that was choosen for us were less than attractive?
We here in the U.S. have a great blessing in that we get to choose our own mate...but its a responsibility too...and maybe even a burden. Does anyone think that some day after.... even after picking the most attractive mate we could dream of...that one day, at least for one day, they won't be so attractive? Not just because we're older..but because they do something unattractive. At some point in time...if we deal at all..we will have to deal with a less than attractive mate. I'm not saying that we should choose a mate that is un-attractive to us...I for one would be heart broken to find out that a woman married me despiite being physicaly unattracted to me, but at some point in time, we will all have to deal with the question, "What do I do with a less than attractive mate"? My only concern is that when we choose someone that is attractive in the beginning...do we assume they always and every day will be? Its just a thought folks....
We here in the U.S. have a great blessing in that we get to choose our own mate...but its a responsibility too...and maybe even a burden. Does anyone think that some day after.... even after picking the most attractive mate we could dream of...that one day, at least for one day, they won't be so attractive? Not just because we're older..but because they do something unattractive. At some point in time...if we deal at all..we will have to deal with a less than attractive mate. I'm not saying that we should choose a mate that is un-attractive to us...I for one would be heart broken to find out that a woman married me despiite being physicaly unattracted to me, but at some point in time, we will all have to deal with the question, "What do I do with a less than attractive mate"? My only concern is that when we choose someone that is attractive in the beginning...do we assume they always and every day will be? Its just a thought folks....
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I like to think physical attraction is an inidicator of who you are compatible with. If you aren't attracted to someone, how do you expect yourself to give your 100% commitment to them? There are a lot of factors that contribute to finding a partner and more often than not, they are several, if not many, people who could fit your bill - how do you choose? The one you find more attractive of course, given each of them are at the same level of spirituality, fits your mould and everything else.
You'd be surprised of what people think is attractive, too. I would point out this guy is 'good-looking' and have my friend stare at me in a 'what are you thinking?' fashion and vice versa. I think physical attractive is one handy tool to help you decide on who to commit to for the rest of your life. Of course, it should not be the only deciding factor or the most important factor of this very, very important decision.
You'd be surprised of what people think is attractive, too. I would point out this guy is 'good-looking' and have my friend stare at me in a 'what are you thinking?' fashion and vice versa. I think physical attractive is one handy tool to help you decide on who to commit to for the rest of your life. Of course, it should not be the only deciding factor or the most important factor of this very, very important decision.
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looks do count. sometimes it's horrible to admit, but they do. they obviously aren't everything as sometimes someones great personality can make them seem physically more attractive, but you can't have an intimate relationship with someone you aren't attracted to. something about chemistry and what not.
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As I read these comments, I remember how meeting someone and at the start I didn't think he was very nice looking at all!! But as we became friends and begin to get to know one another, he became very cute. We are still just friends, but to me he remains very handsome and very intelligent. We as humans always look at the cover of the book at first. But as we begin to read, we begin to understand more and more. The more we learn about a person really changes our outlook about them. I can truly say the first time a person meets me, they probly think I am pretty airhead! But I tend to be a quiet person at first. I have to really get to know a person for me to open up. God puts people into our lives for a reason. I have been divorced for over a year now after being married for 28 years. I always felt in my heart that my husband & I were meant for each other. But when we first met, I never imagined we would be married! I thought he was a total geek! And I even said I would NOT have him for anything in the world!! But I ended up marrying him and spent 26 years with him. And we had some very beautiful times together! But he chose to go in another direction and I had to make choices that I hope and pray I did right. Anyway, I felt like he was the love of my life, even though we are not together now. Looks do count and so true "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". As our hearts begin to look at a person, then our eyes begin to see the inner beauty of people. Just like when we meet our bestest friend and we begin to grow close to them. We may see their faults, but not as much as we see their beauty!! God bless All who reads.
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