One word. RIDICULOUS. Good Lord. There is no "paradox" in His salvation message to ALL OF MANKIND.
We are fallen. We Are without hope.........That is why He sent Himself to mankind.
And Because He is so much bigger than your theology.........You can't SEE that HE is for ALL of mankind.
And that is what Calvinism/reformed theology is......One great paradox for man......except for His SPECIAL little chosen ones.
I am like any other man, not special in myself, I just believed in Him.
I am just a believer like anybody else.........You're on a pedestal as one of the SPECIAL elect.
One fundamental problem with Calvinism is that no one knows who the elect are.
A Calvinist can falsely believe they are one of the elect but only God knows.
Hence, a Calvinist can never have any confidence in their salvation.
Not only are the odds stacked against their salvation but that applies to their family members also.
Jacob and Esau were brothers, yet God hated Esau.
Calvinism is a one tough theology.