I used to be a Calvinist, so I understand the 5 points quite well.
1 John 5:1 does not support regeneration before faith. Look at the context, and even the verse alone: "Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well." In other words, belief precedes regeneration, as is shown in the verse: belief is first mentioned in the verse and precedes regeneration, which is named second.
Calvinists wrongly read into this verse to say instead, "Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ [
was previously] born of God [
prior to believing], and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well."
If 1 Jn 5:1 was meant to say what Calvinists allege, the author could have and would have added the words above or, more simply, the word "then": "Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is [
then] born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well." But the author of 1 John did not do this.
So, this verse is actually neutral as to the question of order of salvation.
In fact, looking at the context of the verse, it is not about the order of salvation at all. It has nothing to do with the order of salvation. The purpose of 1 John, as the author tells us, is to identify false christs and seducers leading people astray with false doctrine. John is countering such false doctrine in 1 John. 1 Jn 2:26: "These things I have written to you concerning those who
try to deceive you." - so we know that someone has deceived or seduced his audience. These deceivers are called antichrists in chapters 2 and 4.
John was speaking in part against Gnostics, who were antichrists, and believed some, select, elect few were given special, hidden knowledge, similar to how Calvinists use 1 Cor. 2:14 as if it is referencing a lost person not being able to grasp the Gospel without special help, they are espousing the Gnostic mode of esoteric information transfer. This contradicts 1 Jn 2:27: "But the anointing which you have received from Him abides in you, and
you do not need that anyone teach you; but as the same anointing teaches you concerning all things, and is true, and is not a lie, and just as it has taught you, you will abide in Him." Scripture is clear and plain, and any literate person can grasp the main ideas, without having to be told of a hidden (gnostic) meaning.
The first time I heard Calvinist doctrine, I thought it so strange and contrary to the plain reading of the text.
Many verses have already been cited above in the thread that say, for example, "he died for all" so I will not repeat them here. Yet Calvinists read into such verses to say, using this one example, "he died for all [of the elect]" when the verse says nothing of the sort. There is no hidden meaning to such verses that has to be unlocked by a certain system of thinking or enlightened person. The text means just what is says.
Indeed, distinctives (unique features) of Calvinism arose from Manichaean Gnosticism, via Augustine.
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More importantly, re-read 1 John, without putting what you read first through a TULIP lens.
Relatedly: "Calvinists, go to your young nieces and nephews or your sons or daughters and say this: "Jesus died for the elect, those whom he chose for salvation. He chose ME but it's possible he did not choose you and created you with the specific purpose of going to hell. If he did choose you, then great, you've won the spiritual lottery! If he did not choose you, then even better. You will spend an eternity in hell because God loves ME so much and picks favorites to be in heaven and condemns others in hell just to show how much mercy and love he has for ME." "