If your eternal salvation is dependent upon any action on your part, such as believing, trusting, accepting, repenting, then it is works of man, and you limit God's power to accomplish his will, in which you say that his will is that all mankind be eternally saved. If eternal salvation is by works, then it is not by God's grace. Where you are getting confused is by thinking all of the scriptures that are telling you what you must do to be saved ( delivered ) from your disobedience here as you live on earth, you are applying to eternal, and not to timely. The inspired words of the KJV bible are written, to his children, as instructions as to how they can live a peaceable and content life here on earth. God takes care of their eternal salvation, by his grace, and not by man's works. When God tells us to make a choice to choose life, he is not talking about eternal life, but that good life we can live here on earth. Yes, God does give man a free will to choose things pertaining to his life here on earth, but not eternal, that is God's choice.
The elect are chosen according to the foreknowledge of God. Of what? (1 Peter 1: 1,2)
Faith is a work of God (John 6: 29); a gift (Rom. 12: 3; by the grace of God (Acts 18: 27)
We love because He first loved us. (1 John 4: 19)
If we love Christ we will keep His commandments. (John 14: 15)
The elect are appointed to eternal life. (Acts 13; 48)
The elect are appointed to obey Jesus and be sprinkled with His blood and cleansed. (1 Peter 1: 2)
Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to convict the world, not just the elect, of sin, righteousness and judgment. (John 16: 8-11)
Those who are convicted are drawn to Jesus by the loving kindness of God (Jer. 31: 3), and the hope and the truth and the kind invitation revealed in the gospel.
Those who "WISH" to come after Jesus discover that the first requirement of discipleship is to deny self. (Matt. 16: 24)
God gives grace to the humble but resists the proud. (James 4: 6)
He beget the humble to faith (1 John 5: 1), to practicing righteousness (obedience) (1 John 2: 29), to not sinning (1 John 3: 9). to love (1 John 4: 7), to overcoming (1 John 5: 4) and to holiness ( 1 John 4: 18), to hope (1 Peter 1: 3)
These characteristics of the divine nature are implanted within when the word, the seed, is implanted in our heart. (James 1: 18, 21; 1 Peter 1: 23)
The second requirement of discipleship is to take up our cross to die with Him when we are baptized into His death.
The third requirement is to follow Him by observing all he commanded.
When we have done all He commands, we are still unprofitable servants, we have only done that which we should have done. These things are derived from God, they are His doing. We realize that many have made these things into works of righteousness, as you accuse, but not all.
God bless.