I am still trying to find that true Christian woman but I have concerns about the spiritual status of my potential wife. In these end times anyone can attend church and claim to be a Christian but one can tell that these are not Christians but pagans, fornicators, cult members, demonic shapeshifters. So how will one pick a wife from such a bunch? I will rather not get married at all than to mate with a demon.
Pete,
I remember your old thread in which you brought up this point as well...
I'm not trying to sound discouraging but I think just about any woman would be afraid to go out with someone who viewed other women as demonic shapeshifters.
I'm also always curious as to "how far up" Christians seem to rate themselves... and how realistic their own standards are.
For instance, I was having a fairly interesting email exchange with a guy on a dating site several years ago, but he dismissed me as being too pagan because I use the phrase, "Happy Holidays." Sure, I say "Merry Christmas" as well, but I have many people in my life I don't see very often, so if I talk to them in November, I'm going to say Happy Holidays because I might not talk to them until after the holidays are over.
But to him, that was a particularly fatal flaw in "how Christian" I was, which I understand, but for me, it's not that big of a deal.
I also find it interesting that people express their Christian life and relationship with God in different ways. Several years ago there was a member (who is no longer here) who was very harsh in correcting other people and quoting Scriptures as a way to tell people, "I'm right, you're wrong; I take God seriously, but you just see Him as a hobby."
At one point, I asked in a thread how often and in what way people here witness to others in their daily life, and, ironically, this person said that they don't witness to people about Jesus in their everyday life because "they didn't want to offend anyone."
So that person's expression of their faith was strictly through confronting people online; others prefer witnessing in real life (I have a friend who actually loves door-to-door evangelizing.)
I could easily see each person in this case accusing the other of "not being Christian enough."
Of course, it certainly CAN be difficult to find a compatible spouse--if it were easy, we'd all be married by now--but I often wonder one of the biggest underlying problem is our own judgmental natures and impossibly high (or just different) standards.