What's the story about dating?

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AnOldLady said:
Hi Lynx. You are quoting me but addressing seoulsearch. I'm confused. What do you mean?
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You're starting to sound like seoul. So I made a comment that assumed she had hacked your account, to make the point that you are starting to sound like her.

Mind you, that's not a bad thing at all. We could use another seoul around here.
 
AnOldLady said:
Jesus mentioned that the mouth speaks from the abundance of the heart, and we know it's the case. When I first started reading on ChristianChat, there was a hilarious thread about setting a man-trap, which led to this thread. I read the funny things many folks said and wondered how deeply at least some people wanted a good resolution to their singleness, so it seemed sensible to explore it. If we keep trying what we've always tried, likely we'll get the same results, I've heard. Of course, some of us find ways to make it worse, lol! Even old as I am, it was always my goal to have an intact family., but beyond that, it's my goal to keep running the race, looking to Jesus, the Author and Finisher of my faith. I appreciate the many thoughtful replies. We've definitely explored some of the obstacles.
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I’m starting to think CC isn’t the answer either. It feels like the equivalent for buying a bunch of cats and giving up.

Seriously though, look for any type of church functions in your area. The best pick-up line for a woman to use is, “I like you”.

There’s a mega church in my town, it has groups for youth/20/30/50+. And I swear my age group has been left out every decade of my life. That’s how it goes sometimes.
 
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Thanks for your comments. I wonder why they left out the 40+? Unless it's because abortion took out a lot of 40-50 year olds, which is a sad reflection on American history.
 
Lynx said:
You're starting to sound like seoul. So I made a comment that assumed she had hacked your account, to make the point that you are starting to sound like her.

Mind you, that's not a bad thing at all. We could use another seoul around here.
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Gotcha. I've enjoyed reading seoul's comments. I realize she expresses more depth of soul though, which is being a good example for me.

You are very expressive, and I did look up "erudite." Probably precisely chosen. I'm always happy to learn a new word, even if in over 60 years of reading I don't recall coming across it before. :unsure:
 
Actually someone else, long ago, on a forum far, far away (may it rust in peace) chose that for me. He said I seemed folksy, yet erudite, like a mashup of beaux arts and banjos.

I said, "Ayup."
 
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I had an elderly neighbour not long ago - that told me after his very acrimonious divorce - he went on Plenty of Fish. On one early date, he took a woman out to dinner who was much younger than him . They were talking and he said he worked in the mines, which is a very high paying job. She turned around not long after and asked to loan $5000 off of him, lol. He never had another date with her again.
I enjoy being single - less drama and nobody else to worry about. I've had ppl say they felt sorry for me - that I have no kids, grand kids, etc - I am an old lady now. I just laugh now, and say Don't feel sorry for me! I travel around the country meeting new and interesting ppl; I have my own money; I have no one to nag me; I can pretty much do what I like when I like; I studied and worked hard since I was 16 years old, have a great career; good superannuation; have overcome a lot which has only made me stronger, not weaker; etc. I feel sorry for the ppl who stay in unhappy marriages, with kids who have tons of problems, or for parents who enable their kids instead of teaching them sobriety and responsibility; who 'have' to stay with someone due to never having worked, don't have the money, etc, or 'for their kids' (the worse thing you can do); who complain and whine to anyone who will listen about the same problems they have had for 40 years; who can change their life if they want, but choose not to.
You are better off being single I think. You can do a lot and challenge yourself - study, do meaningful work or volunteer work, try new hobbies, learn a new language, travel, start exercising at home or join a gym - there are tons of things to do. You don't always need money either. I've had great times in the library researching stuff, learning new stuff, meeting and talking to new ppl wherever I have lived, etc.
I don't want to "settle down". I've got too much living to do!
 
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tasha6691 said:
I had an elderly neighbour not long ago - that told me after his very acrimonious divorce - he went on Plenty of Fish. On one early date, he took a woman out to dinner who was much younger than him . They were talking and he said he worked in the mines, which is a very high paying job. She turned around not long after and asked to loan $5000 off of him, lol. He never had another date with her again.
I enjoy being single - less drama and nobody else to worry about. I've had ppl say they felt sorry for me - that I have no kids, grand kids, etc - I am an old lady now. I just laugh now, and say Don't feel sorry for me! I travel around the country meeting new and interesting ppl; I have my own money; I have no one to nag me; I can pretty much do what I like when I like; I studied and worked hard since I was 16 years old, have a great career; good superannuation; have overcome a lot which has only made me stronger, not weaker; etc. I feel sorry for the ppl who stay in unhappy marriages, with kids who have tons of problems, or for parents who enable their kids instead of teaching them sobriety and responsibility; who 'have' to stay with someone due to never having worked, don't have the money, etc, or 'for their kids' (the worse thing you can do); who complain and whine to anyone who will listen about the same problems they have had for 40 years; who can change their life if they want, but choose not to.
You are better off being single I think. You can do a lot and challenge yourself - study, do meaningful work or volunteer work, try new hobbies, learn a new language, travel, start exercising at home or join a gym - there are tons of things to do. You don't always need money either. I've had great times in the library researching stuff, learning new stuff, meeting and talking to new ppl wherever I have lived, etc.
I don't want to "settle down". I've got too much living to do!
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Howdy and welcome to the forum.

Being single ain't for everyone... And it might not be for someone ALL the time... But for me, for right now, it definitely is. :cool:
 
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There is a common thing I see throughout the singles forums. People who claim it is better to be single because it’s easier. I don’t feel sorry for people that keep their word and choose to serve others over themselves. They just shouldn’t become bitter about it. Statistically there is nothing more damaging for a child than to be raised solely by the mother (removing the father). Is bailing out and choosing to be single the more honorable option?

Another thing I‘ve noticed is people almost bragging that they wont be tied down or told what to do etc... It is clear to me that they may have a problem submitting. Then I look at their profile and they don’t attend church. So it’s not just their husband/wife, they wont submit to a pastor/church, nor even to God. Often they won’t submit to their boss at work. Dr. James Tour recently had a good interview where they discussed the emergence of the ‘Self God’ where people choose only to worship themselves.
 
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Levib said:
There is a common thing I see throughout the singles forums. People who claim it is better to be single because it’s easier. I don’t feel sorry for people that keep their word and choose to serve others over themselves. They just shouldn’t become bitter about it. Statistically there is nothing more damaging for a child than to be raised solely by the mother (removing the father). Is bailing out and choosing to be single the more honorable option?

Another thing I‘ve noticed is people almost bragging that they wont be tied down or told what to do etc... It is clear to me that they may have a problem submitting. Then I look at their profile and they don’t attend church. So it’s not just their husband/wife, they wont submit to a pastor/church, nor even to God. Often they won’t submit to their boss at work. Dr. James Tour recently had a good interview where they discussed the emergence of the ‘Self God’ where people choose only to worship themselves.
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Hi. Do you have a link for that interview you can post? I would love to see it.
Cheers
 
Levib said:
There is a common thing I see throughout the singles forums. People who claim it is better to be single because it’s easier. I don’t feel sorry for people that keep their word and choose to serve others over themselves. They just shouldn’t become bitter about it. Statistically there is nothing more damaging for a child than to be raised solely by the mother (removing the father). Is bailing out and choosing to be single the more honorable option?

Another thing I‘ve noticed is people almost bragging that they wont be tied down or told what to do etc... It is clear to me that they may have a problem submitting. Then I look at their profile and they don’t attend church. So it’s not just their husband/wife, they wont submit to a pastor/church, nor even to God. Often they won’t submit to their boss at work. Dr. James Tour recently had a good interview where they discussed the emergence of the ‘Self God’ where people choose only to worship themselves.
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The flipside of that coin is that these people that worship themselves are expecting and seeking others to worship them.
 
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