What is love?

[Robertt]

Been thinking about this for many years and something recently has opened up the thought process as follows

Can we control who we love ?
Well it is called falling in love for a reason you think , it’s like an accident , it just happens. When we meet that “one” lots happen in our heart mind and soul .
Some create checklists
1. Income - good
2. Height- not too short not too tall
3. Likes my music type - check
4. Enjoys my movies - check
etc etc etc
Then suddenly we meet someone and the list is thrown out and we go “ oh it’s you! Do t know why it’s you, it just is”

Of course how we show that love is a life long journey . Building bridges , tearing walls down .

Just sone thoughts , I probably wrong .

 

[A-Sword-Cometh]

I am not sure if it really exists in this society. The only one who ever shows me any love is the Holy Spirit.

 

[Lynx]

Billy Crockett had a good idea of it.

 

[Robertt]

thasts a very slow song lol

 

[Lynx]

thasts a very slow song lol

It's beautiful though.

 

[Robertt]

sadly didnt listne to it all. was too slow for me.. but i am sure it is good.

 

[Magenta]

Been thinking about this for many years and something recently has opened up the thought process as follows

Can we control who we love ?

Are we really in control when sitting at the wheel?
For reason still eludes me when I think on how I feel

Thank you for the likes on my poems

 

[Robertt]

Are we really in control when sitting at the wheel?
For reason still eludes me when I think on how I feel

Thank you for the likes on my poems

see i am not deep enough to know what you mean.

If i sitting at the wheel i usually in control. but if someone else is at the wheel someone else is in control

Yes sorry was looking for find out more info on you and find your poems. thought i better not LIKE them all or that becomes stalking lol

 

[Lanolin]

not sure what you mean

love is not controlling other people!

You cant make a person be shorter or taller. This is governed by their growth hormones God put in them. If you wanna wear high heels its up to you though.

You cannot make someone earn more or less, sometimes wages are fixed or they need to work harder or more jobs to earn more, but that is their work ethic as well. Income isnt related to how wealthy someone is, they maybe born into a wealthy family and inherited a lot of money, or they might have won lotto. They might also be spending more than they can earn.

People dont generally have a lot of control over their incomes, though a higher education allows them to earn more, its not ALWAYS the case.

as for music, that is just a preference, if someone is a musician, they may live and breathe their music, you cant make someome else like it, they need to be moved by it

movies...whatver movie you watch is neither here nor there. There are tonnes of movies just as endless as there are books and nobody is going to watch or read them all! Love isnt about all those things...making someone else fit into your preconceived box of marriability.

Because just as surely love is more than that.

Love is patient love is kind...love keeps no record of wrongs...

 

[Live4Him3]

Been thinking about this for many years and something recently has opened up the thought process as follows

Can we control who we love ?
Well it is called falling in love for a reason you think , it’s like an accident , it just happens. When we meet that “one” lots happen in our heart mind and soul .
Some create checklists
1. Income - good
2. Height- not too short not too tall
3. Likes my music type - check
4. Enjoys my movies - check
etc etc etc
Then suddenly we meet someone and the list is thrown out and we go “ oh it’s you! Do t know why it’s you, it just is”

Of course how we show that love is a life long journey . Building bridges , tearing walls down .

Just sone thoughts , I probably wrong .

What is love?

Perhaps this is too simplistic (I'm a pretty simple man) of an answer, but, for me, "God is love" (I John 4:8).

With such being the case, I'm truly drawn to truly godly women (as rare as they seem to be).

For example, show me a woman who is kind, and I'm interested immediately...assuming that she's not already taken, of course.

In fact, there's presently a woman at work who seems to be the kindest person I've ever met. That or she's the best actress ever.

I'm not sure what her marital status is, but I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't interested in knowing.

I'll have to do some undercover investigative work it seems...lol. She wears gloves at work because of her job description, so I can't even do the ring check thing.

Anyhow, generally speaking, I've honestly given up on women...and I actually am content, for the first time in my life, in saying that.

God's grace is sufficient.

P.S.

 

[JAPOV]

Love is a reward.
If you know, trust, and respect someone else as much as yourself, and it's reciprocal... the natural result is love

 

[Lynx]

Love is understanding everybody is just as important as everybody else, I am not any more important than anybody else, and acting accordingly.

Expressing love is done by putting more importance on actions than benefit US over actions that benefit ME.

I have found that if I have the proper priorities and understanding of what is truly valuable, love is actually quite logical.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

not sure what you mean

love is not controlling other people!

You cant make a person be shorter or taller. This is governed by their growth hormones God put in them. If you wanna wear high heels its up to you though.

You cannot make someone earn more or less, sometimes wages are fixed or they need to work harder or more jobs to earn more, but that is their work ethic as well. Income isnt related to how wealthy someone is, they maybe born into a wealthy family and inherited a lot of money, or they might have won lotto. They might also be spending more than they can earn.

People dont generally have a lot of control over their incomes, though a higher education allows them to earn more, its not ALWAYS the case.

as for music, that is just a preference, if someone is a musician, they may live and breathe their music, you cant make someome else like it, they need to be moved by it

movies...whatver movie you watch is neither here nor there. There are tonnes of movies just as endless as there are books and nobody is going to watch or read them all! Love isnt about all those things...making someone else fit into your preconceived box of marriability.

Because just as surely love is more than that.

Love is patient love is kind...love keeps no record of wrongs...

Nothing was said about control. He said people make checklists about what they want, but when you meet someone people tend to ditch the list, especially if that person doesn't fit into it.

 

[RodB651]

What is love?.. It's a good question.

The J. Geils Band said "Love stinks"...

You love her
But she loves him
And he loves somebody else
You just can't win
And so it goes
Till the day you die
This thing they call love
It's gonna make you cry
I've had the blues
The reds and the pinks
One thing for sure
(Love stinks)

 

[cinder]

Been thinking about this for many years and something recently has opened up the thought process as follows

Can we control who we love ?
Well it is called falling in love for a reason you think , it’s like an accident , it just happens. When we meet that “one” lots happen in our heart mind and soul .
Some create checklists
1. Income - good
2. Height- not too short not too tall
3. Likes my music type - check
4. Enjoys my movies - check
etc etc etc
Then suddenly we meet someone and the list is thrown out and we go “ oh it’s you! Do t know why it’s you, it just is”

Of course how we show that love is a life long journey . Building bridges , tearing walls down .

Just sone thoughts , I probably wrong .

We can't control our feelings, but we can control how we let them influence our behavior. I've always been the one to say that something truly worthy of the name love isn't the kind of thing you just fall in and out of. And that lots isn't so much happening in your heart mind and soul when you meet someone... upon meeting most of the action is happening in your endocrine system; it starts waging a biochemical war against your good sense.

But I do think love triumphs lists; and my dog is living proof of that because my list said I wanted a dog who was younger and smaller and more social to help me be more social. But I understood what this dog was going through and knew it was miserable and decided that if I could I was gonna get her out of that situation and give her a better life (and while this has worked out pretty well for me so far, I should add the caveat that dogs are much more simple than people and there are plenty of people who want to continue on their self destructive ways and expect their partner to be their guardian angel to bail them out of crap; avoid being in a relationship with such a person).

And I think therin lies the beginning of a good definition of love: Love wants for the beloved, without regard to it's own cost or hurt. And then there's that whole 1 Corinthians 13 bit about what love (agape / charity) is like, and that verse about this is how we know what love is, Jesus laid down his life for us and we ought to lay down our lives for each other. As for romantic love, that makes no sense to me (pretty sure there's a Bible verse about that too) so I really like that idea of your hormones declaring war against your good sense. And I suspect my stronghold of good sense is too well fortified to ever be overthrown by the likes of a few measly hormones.

 

[Lynx]

In a world of broken hearts, love is just a word
Used so often, what it means is blurred
People grow so hungry for a love they can believe
And will they find it here in you and me?

Oh, you know you must be careful
If it's love you're promising
You can never, never, ever speak it lightly
It should cost you everything

If you're gonna call it love
Then let it be forever, let it be forever

- Avalon

 

[Lanolin]

is love like a driving a car? what is all this talk about taking the wheel or accidents

uh...

what are people even talking about here. Yes some people are in accidents but that might be because they are distracted and not looking where they are going. Or they could be drunk.

The loving thing to do when driving a car is not get into road rage and to drive to your destination safely without driving off a cliff or crossing the lines or breaking speed limits.

 

[Robertt]

love is like drivng a car in many ways

1. Most people think they are experts at it jsut because they been doing it a long time
2. to become better, study how others drive and see what works and what doesnt
3. read the best instruction manuals to make yourself better
4. make sure you are comfortable in the car and well strapped in with good visuals of all the surroundings

 

[yoriii]

Love is just an illusion

 

[Robertt]

Love is just an illusion

as God is love , that is a sad thought yuo jusdt had.