I don't really know what to do right now. I'm not asking for advice, either, just sort of...thinking out loud, kind of.
I blew a tire almost 2 weeks ago. My husband and I agreed to try and get one used tire to replace it, just until we can afford to buy all new tires for my car. Because really, I don't drive it all that often, so it wouldn't be that big a deal. Finding a tire, however, has been very difficult. I've been entirely unsuccessful.
Today, I was talking to my sister (the one I frequently have problems with, though right now we're on good terms), and telling her about the tire fiasco. Apparently, after we hung up, she told her boyfriend what was going on and asked if he could ask the guys he works with if THEY have one stinkin' used tire.
Within half an hour of our first conversation, she called me back and told me to come into town tomorrow afternoon and meet her at a tire place, because she is going to buy 2 new tires for me.
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I immediately had reservations about this, just because of our history. But I really felt that she was just trying to help me out, and it's not inappropriate to accept help or gifts from my sister. So I said ok, and expressed my gratitude.
Then she went on to say that I shouldn't be thanking her, because it was her boyfriend's idea.
Here's the really tricky part- my husband does not trust my sister OR her boyfriend, not a bit. He doesn't get along with either of them, and he hates that my sister treats me like she does so often.
I don't think he would mind me accepting the tires from my sister, although he would caution me that it might be just a way to manipulate me, something to hold over my head. That would be something I'd enter into with my eyes open...hoping for the best. But from her boyfriend?
I don't want to tell them that I won't/can't accept their gift, because I know that will just offend them.
I dunno. Of course I'm going to discuss it with my husband, and see what he thinks. I mean, we can get our own tires in a few weeks. I think I'd rather just do that.
Problem solved. Amazing how much it helps to just write things out sometimes.