Streams of Consciousness & Thoughts~~~

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rachelsedge said:
Yesterday my church had a short Valentine's Day party outreach for the families of the community. There was one little girl that I thought was just so beautiful, both in her adorable face and her quiet and polite spirit. But, I became sad. I thought, "When will this lovely girl start thinking she isn't good enough? That she must wear makeup to feel pretty? When will she feel like she has to expose her body to get men to like her?" And at that moment I wanted to protect her, and all children/teens from that. Then I asked myself what kind of example I am to them: Do I only feel pretty with makeup? Do I feel like I'm not good enough? It was eye opening and heart crushing.
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I think about that stuff to rachelsedge. Especially with my own daughter, I make it a point not to complain about my weight or hair or anything in front of her. I don't want her to think that's what it's all about.

We've actually discussed make up before and one thing I've told her is a little goes a long way.
 
I think I make everything worse. I think about if I could have a super power,perhaps it would be that I wasn't such a moron. That I could have the ability to let people inside my heart or head so that they could understand me better.

I always pray silently to myself...hoping that what I say makes sense.
I mostly feel as though it never does. I suppose that's where faith comes in...trusting that God will cover over all my stupidity,my words that in the end mean nothing.

Good heart intentions mean squat without action. Do my good intentions benefit or hurt others?
Am I just a selfish monster at the heart of it all..have I deceived myself?

Sometimes even when I sit quietly...I hear nothing..feel nothing.

There aren't many things in this life I want,but the few things I do...I do with my whole heart.

I don't want my desires or needs to ever interfere with anyone else's. Is this possible? Being human...having interaction with people? Can it be avoided?

Once again I am just rambling...wondering so much & yet so little.
Will I ever be a better version of me or is this it?
Sometimes being so terribly flawed sucks!
 
Grace-Like-Rain said:
Speaking of avatars, you should all post pictures of yourselves so I can see who I'm talking to. I'm a visual rememberer. :p
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It's really weird. But I like hearing people. It makes it easier to read stuff in their tone of voice. Especially when I don't agree with them. I don't like to read someone's post like they're being whiny and/or prideful. :p
 
Donkeyfish07- I am currently reading that book "The Art of War." You were right it's good.
 
Sometimes pancakes & coffee make thing's seem better.

I do believe the 70 yr old waitress that served me this morning thought I was going to leave her an $8 tip for a $10 meal.
I Gave her a $20 and she asked,"Are you all set?" ( in wait staff terms that usually means: "yer' leaving me the change from this amount,right?" ) but alas,I told her Just gimmie back $5...and I was given "The Look". lol
I didn't think I was being cheap...I just didn't think the service was worth $8. The place was nearly empty & I was only there for like 30 mins.

Anyways, the pancakes were good.

Not sure why I felt the need to tell the free world this information.
 
iTOREtheSKY said:
Sometimes pancakes & coffee make thing's seem better.

I do believe the 70 yr old waitress that served me this morning thought I was going to leave her an $8 tip for a $10 meal.
I Gave her a $20 and she asked,"Are you all set?" ( in wait staff terms that usually means: "yer' leaving me the change from this amount,right?" ) but alas,I told her Just gimmie back $5...and I was given "The Look". lol
I didn't think I was being cheap...I just didn't think the service was worth $8. The place was nearly empty & I was only there for like 30 mins.

Anyways, the pancakes were good.

Not sure why I felt the need to tell the free world this information.
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That was rather presumptuous of her... O_O
 
Immawildthing said:
Yeah, but when my dad tells me not to talk to somebody, and I know it's wrong to talk to them, and I know that God knows it's not the best thing to talk to them. I know if things continue in the direction they do, the it will get in the way of a future spouse. But I don't want to hurt the person's feelings, because I care about them. I don't know how to tell them. I was hoping God would give them the same answer He gave me, but they're not being open about the ways they'll let God communicate with them.
My life's a mess right now...
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Hope this might help in renewing your mind thoughts:
Okay, now that you admitted that, now accept that and trust to learn error from truth God showing you through experiences and change thought to change feelings for feelings always follow thought. It is the way we all are designed. I can't be abgry without angry thoughts that support the anger. No angry thoughts emotions can't display
 
rachelsedge said:
Yesterday my church had a short Valentine's Day party outreach for the families of the community. There was one little girl that I thought was just so beautiful, both in her adorable face and her quiet and polite spirit. But, I became sad. I thought, "When will this lovely girl start thinking she isn't good enough? That she must wear makeup to feel pretty? When will she feel like she has to expose her body to get men to like her?" And at that moment I wanted to protect her, and all children/teens from that. Then I asked myself what kind of example I am to them: Do I only feel pretty with makeup? Do I feel like I'm not good enough? It was eye opening and heart crushing.
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Sister the ways of this world, includes religion are not the ways of God. God is Spirit and can only be worshiped in Spirit and truth
This is what God seeks. John 4:23-24. God is opening your spiritual eyes and ears
 
rachelsedge said:
Yesterday my church had a short Valentine's Day party outreach for the families of the community. There was one little girl that I thought was just so beautiful, both in her adorable face and her quiet and polite spirit. But, I became sad. I thought, "When will this lovely girl start thinking she isn't good enough? That she must wear makeup to feel pretty? When will she feel like she has to expose her body to get men to like her?" And at that moment I wanted to protect her, and all children/teens from that. Then I asked myself what kind of example I am to them: Do I only feel pretty with makeup? Do I feel like I'm not good enough? It was eye opening and heart crushing.
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This is half in reply to you, and another half is just my own thoughts and ramblings.

I feel like there's a catch 22 in how to prevent stuff like low self-esteem from happening. It's good to establish that we're made in the image of Christ and are more than our looks. When we emphasize it too much though, and too early on, especially with girls, they might start to wonder if something's wrong with them. Or maybe it was just me. So when it's too early, they might start asking too many questions, mainly about themselves. Start too late and they might not listen. :(

When I was in middle school, early on, I never really had thought much about my looks. I just did school, and after school I'd play outside or play a game. It was very rare that I thought that there was something "wrong" with my looks. In 6th or 7th grade I went to a young girls' conference about self-esteem and all that. I think it was the same time I also read a book with the youth group girls on self-esteem and guys.

I started thinking to myself, "Now I don't need all this stuff. I don't have any issues with my self-esteem. I'm fine just the way I am." then I'd start to think, "Or am I? :confused:" and it all goes downhill from there. Since then it's always been a battle between the heart, mind, and God. I'm the weird one out of the bunch though. In spite of the fact I've always struggled with self-esteem I never really tried to fix it with stuff like makeup. I only ever wear makeup 3-5 out of the 365 days of the year. Even then and even now I realized makeup is just a cover-up and I don't need it. :)

I mean, it's not that I didn't learn anything from the book or the conference. I learned a little bit. It inform me that the media will try to lie about who/what we're supposed to look like.

I just think that maybe we're trying too early on in life, before we really truly need it. It's good to be prepared in certain areas of our life. But maybe with stuff like this, it should be more, "We'll get there when we get there." and not teach it so soon?

Unfortunately, I can't speak for every girl out there. Some girls need conferences and books right away when start middle school because they're already starting to struggle with looks. :( It's so hard to distinguish when the right time is to discuss this and encourage girls.

Okay, 'nuff rambling for me. :D Hopefully I didn't bore you guys too much. If I did you probably just skipped over this anyways and aren't even reading this. :p
 
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