First off, if anyone remembers reading my last post from about a month ago, I was down in the dumps. I was hoping to start something with this woman, and, long story short, nothing came out of it. Anyway, since then, I've been debating on pursuing a single's life for as long as I live. Sounds somewhat grim, and at the time, it felt like it.
However, during the course of the last month, I've taken up ballroom dancing. I actually started it up last year, but COVID hit and a bunch of other personal stuff came up, so I recently got back into it. I've been learning the basics of styles like waltz, salsa, and swing. I never thought I could do it, let alone actually dancing, but every week, I find myself in the same studio, taking private lessons and attending their dance parties. As odd as it sounds, I'm finding myself having a lot of fun, meeting new people, acquiring a new skill, and being the happiest and most enthusiastic I've been in a while. I'm currently learning cha-cha and bachata for anyone who's curious about what I'm learning currently.
Back on topic, since that awkward moment with that other woman, I haven't had much of a care as to what happened since I've been doing this. Along the way, my instructors have been getting better and better, and one of them, I believe, is trying to get me into the more advanced lessons, which I'm REALLY excited about taking. In addition to that, there have been other women there that are not only talking to me but also are having fun whenever we dance together. So now my options are now open, and for the first time in a long time, I'm feeling really good and confident about myself. This might be bad to say, but whenever I see that other woman at church now, I think to myself "her loss" and move on. Reason being, how many men do you know that get excited to go out and dance, especially ballroom dancing? Not many, and we all know women LOVE, and I mean LOVE, to dance. So yeah, you can now say I'm over that woman, which I don't feel bad about (go back and read my last post as to what happened, if you haven't already, and, no, I don't hate her).
Even though it sounds cliched, and it is to some extent, what I've learned and currently learning about relationships is this: God really does have plan for each one us. It requires Him breaking us down first then remolding us. In my case, I think He wanted to me see that just because someone that YOU would think is good, based on the person's background, doesn't mean that they are or not as virtuous as you would hope. If that moment happens when you realize the truth, it's best to get out of it. What happens next is God then points you at something or someone to go towards. Finally, good things begin to happen and you feel happy with yourself.
Right now, because of where I'm at today, I don't know if I will be single the rest of my life or not, but whatever happens-happens. However, I'm far more joyful than what I was a month ago. I met new people, I'm having fun, and I have a new skill that will be with me the rest of life. My dancing ability is also getting better and I want to learn more, especially when I'm now at my lightest weight in nearly 20 years (makes it easier to move). And what I've been noticing is as my skill improves, the women at the place I go to have been more eager to dance with me because I have got a lot better and they notice how confident I am while I dance with them. Who knows, maybe a future spouse will come out of it. I won't say that it will happen, but you never know. That's what I have been learning about relationships. They don't always start off romantic, and God makes sure that friendship is established first before any of that. So for any man, or any woman for that matter, don't give up. Good things happen or begin to happen when you least expect it. All you have to do is put it in God's hands and have faith that He will provide what is needed. Now, being Friday 6/11/21, I have a 50s/60s dance party to attend, so I hope this helps those who are in the same boat I'm in!
However, during the course of the last month, I've taken up ballroom dancing. I actually started it up last year, but COVID hit and a bunch of other personal stuff came up, so I recently got back into it. I've been learning the basics of styles like waltz, salsa, and swing. I never thought I could do it, let alone actually dancing, but every week, I find myself in the same studio, taking private lessons and attending their dance parties. As odd as it sounds, I'm finding myself having a lot of fun, meeting new people, acquiring a new skill, and being the happiest and most enthusiastic I've been in a while. I'm currently learning cha-cha and bachata for anyone who's curious about what I'm learning currently.
Back on topic, since that awkward moment with that other woman, I haven't had much of a care as to what happened since I've been doing this. Along the way, my instructors have been getting better and better, and one of them, I believe, is trying to get me into the more advanced lessons, which I'm REALLY excited about taking. In addition to that, there have been other women there that are not only talking to me but also are having fun whenever we dance together. So now my options are now open, and for the first time in a long time, I'm feeling really good and confident about myself. This might be bad to say, but whenever I see that other woman at church now, I think to myself "her loss" and move on. Reason being, how many men do you know that get excited to go out and dance, especially ballroom dancing? Not many, and we all know women LOVE, and I mean LOVE, to dance. So yeah, you can now say I'm over that woman, which I don't feel bad about (go back and read my last post as to what happened, if you haven't already, and, no, I don't hate her).
Even though it sounds cliched, and it is to some extent, what I've learned and currently learning about relationships is this: God really does have plan for each one us. It requires Him breaking us down first then remolding us. In my case, I think He wanted to me see that just because someone that YOU would think is good, based on the person's background, doesn't mean that they are or not as virtuous as you would hope. If that moment happens when you realize the truth, it's best to get out of it. What happens next is God then points you at something or someone to go towards. Finally, good things begin to happen and you feel happy with yourself.
Right now, because of where I'm at today, I don't know if I will be single the rest of my life or not, but whatever happens-happens. However, I'm far more joyful than what I was a month ago. I met new people, I'm having fun, and I have a new skill that will be with me the rest of life. My dancing ability is also getting better and I want to learn more, especially when I'm now at my lightest weight in nearly 20 years (makes it easier to move). And what I've been noticing is as my skill improves, the women at the place I go to have been more eager to dance with me because I have got a lot better and they notice how confident I am while I dance with them. Who knows, maybe a future spouse will come out of it. I won't say that it will happen, but you never know. That's what I have been learning about relationships. They don't always start off romantic, and God makes sure that friendship is established first before any of that. So for any man, or any woman for that matter, don't give up. Good things happen or begin to happen when you least expect it. All you have to do is put it in God's hands and have faith that He will provide what is needed. Now, being Friday 6/11/21, I have a 50s/60s dance party to attend, so I hope this helps those who are in the same boat I'm in!
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Fun and meeting new people is the purpose, so keep that in mind, if you'd consider having at it again.