I'm single and looking for a man. What advice would you have for me?
Single and Looking Advice?
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Listen to all the women who have men complaining about all the deficiencies their men have. Then thank God you don't have one. =^.^=
Advice for getting a man:
1) Be born a woman
2) Go places (real or online) where men are. He's not likely to just show up on your doorstep.
2) Find a way to look like you need rescuing from something (or at least assistance with something) so he can swoop in and play the hero. Be truly appreciative when he does and don't ever treat it as something he was obligated to do.
Advice for making sure you don't end up with a crappy man (because there are some out there):
1) He should demonstrate a good work ethic and desire to be productive
2) He should treat cashiers, waitresses, and other service providers with kindness and dignity.
3) He should know how to manage his time and money well (and be doing so).
4) He should be making progress in self improvement and overcoming any addictions.
5) As you get more serious, he should answer appropriate questions clearly and without getting upset or overly defensive (it's not necessarily appropriate to ask what is annual income is or to see his personal budget on the first date, but these are things you should know and be free to ask and discuss before setting the wedding date).
6) If he's consistently secretive or explosively aggressively defensive about a topic, be super cautious about proceeding.
Looking for dating advice advice:
1) Just remember that the healthy married couples you see around you (not the dysfunctional ones that are fighting all the time) are the ones who actually figured out all that meet someone and marry them and build a life with them stuff. Take any advice single people give you with a grain of salt because we may not know what we're talking about (though we generally do know how to avoid bad relationships as those are much easier to come by than good relationships).
1) Be born a woman
2) Go places (real or online) where men are. He's not likely to just show up on your doorstep.
2) Find a way to look like you need rescuing from something (or at least assistance with something) so he can swoop in and play the hero. Be truly appreciative when he does and don't ever treat it as something he was obligated to do.
Advice for making sure you don't end up with a crappy man (because there are some out there):
1) He should demonstrate a good work ethic and desire to be productive
2) He should treat cashiers, waitresses, and other service providers with kindness and dignity.
3) He should know how to manage his time and money well (and be doing so).
4) He should be making progress in self improvement and overcoming any addictions.
5) As you get more serious, he should answer appropriate questions clearly and without getting upset or overly defensive (it's not necessarily appropriate to ask what is annual income is or to see his personal budget on the first date, but these are things you should know and be free to ask and discuss before setting the wedding date).
6) If he's consistently secretive or explosively aggressively defensive about a topic, be super cautious about proceeding.
Looking for dating advice advice:
1) Just remember that the healthy married couples you see around you (not the dysfunctional ones that are fighting all the time) are the ones who actually figured out all that meet someone and marry them and build a life with them stuff. Take any advice single people give you with a grain of salt because we may not know what we're talking about (though we generally do know how to avoid bad relationships as those are much easier to come by than good relationships).
Post pics of the best food you have cooked cause the way to a mans heart is through his belly.......LOL I tease partially....LOL Welcome aboard.
The marriage relationship between two believers can be the sweetest thing this side of heaven….
When you have two people who renew their minds to the Word of God, and walk therein, they are an unstoppable force.
Does the perfect man exist…. yes he does…. But…. I am kind of busy right now.
But here are a couple of things that may be helpful:
As a believer look for someone who is anchored in the Word….The word of God is going to be your common ground in a relationship ….this is the place you both come to that is neutral ground and it will be the place that answers are sought with any disagreement.
Never go into a relationship thinking you are going to change that person. Either accept him for who he is and everything about him, or keep looking. If you go into a relationship with expectations of changing him you may be disappointed …..not to say he won’t change ….just don’t expect it.
One of the most important things I can tell you is…. Love is to a woman, as respect is to a man.
When you have two people who renew their minds to the Word of God, and walk therein, they are an unstoppable force.
Does the perfect man exist…. yes he does…. But…. I am kind of busy right now.
But here are a couple of things that may be helpful:
As a believer look for someone who is anchored in the Word….The word of God is going to be your common ground in a relationship ….this is the place you both come to that is neutral ground and it will be the place that answers are sought with any disagreement.
Never go into a relationship thinking you are going to change that person. Either accept him for who he is and everything about him, or keep looking. If you go into a relationship with expectations of changing him you may be disappointed …..not to say he won’t change ….just don’t expect it.
One of the most important things I can tell you is…. Love is to a woman, as respect is to a man.
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...Says the guy with an avatar of a bear hiding behind a tree. =^.^=
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Gojira
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That's a really broad question. There is no formulaic answer for this. I think if we had a good answer, the only ones here who'd be single would be the ones who deliberately chose to be.
But - I am not...Does the perfect man exist…. yes he does…. But…. I am kind of busy right now.
Because, that is the way God made us.
Join a man's group at church, they're usually too nice to kick anyone out.. if that doesn't work volunteer to do Parking lot duties or security at your church.
Pray Mark 11-23-24, God bless.
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I would say to focus on God. If he wants you to get married, he will send you the right man. If he doesn't, then you'll find joy in Him. 
Learn to ask for help.
Good men have "White Knight Syndrome". They can't help themselves. It's hardwiring to help a damsel in distress.
You don't have to be a schlub who is incompetent at doing anything besides putting on clothes and makeup...but needing a guy's help is a sure fire way to gain his attention. As well as offering up a gratitude meal...single guys are always up for a good meal.
Good men have "White Knight Syndrome". They can't help themselves. It's hardwiring to help a damsel in distress.
You don't have to be a schlub who is incompetent at doing anything besides putting on clothes and makeup...but needing a guy's help is a sure fire way to gain his attention. As well as offering up a gratitude meal...single guys are always up for a good meal.