Once again, you are assuming a great deal without asking any clarifying questions. I'm noticing a pattern
A lot of discernment is in our spirit. When someone says something, it is either brings trouble to your spirit and you feel troubled at what they say, or, you get a pece in your spirit. Thinking about her question did trouble me in spirit. and somehow I knew, I know, Jesus does not want to be #2 in our life. He wants to be #1.
I get it that this is a weak area for you though, from what you've said in other posts you had trouble with indulging your ex wife with everything she wanted, so I completely respect your weakness in this area and I understand if you have to keep an especially tight ship in that regard, better safe than sorry, right?
The things is, better safe than sorry is code talk for, I can handle this (if I rely on worldly solutions) so I believe I disagree with you there because the correct way is, Yes Lord I depend only on you. Who cares what happens? I trust you Lord.
He tested me on that before! It was Stimulus check time, and I got mine and the plan was spend it all fast on stuff I usually can not afford. Stuff for the house, a new gun and so forth. I came home broke in the evening and something told me to go down in the basement, so I did. I walked into a puddle of warm water, so I checked the hot water heater over and it was leaking from the tank and needed replaced. Water heaters are about $500 bucks now, just for the unit. I just had the money this morning! Why didn't the Lord warn me that I would be needing a HWH? Now I'm broke and have no money for a HWH. I shut the water off and checked the serial number to find, it is 5.5 years old, out of warranty. I am Not taking anything back to the store! I don't play those games. So. I have to wait until I get another SS check next month. 1 Month without hot water and I can install it myself. He gave me unctions two days earlier to, catch up the laundry. I was feeling frustrated a bit, a whole month and He should'a/could'a warned me! Then as I was feeling flabbergasted I just shook my head and laughed. I said, Praise the Lord. I don't know what you are doing Lord, but I trust you to see it through with whatever it is that you plan to do...You had to have reason for doing what you did, the way you did it!
And when I got up in the morning and called the plumbing supply house and asked if they had this exact model in stock, so the installation would take minimal parts. He put me on hold and then came back and said yep we have that model and this is under Warranty! (Whoa, I should have known that, I was a Rheem Dealer!) I do know it. It was a selling point a 6 year warranty instead of a 5 year warranty. But I did not remember that when I found it, Maybe the Lord made me forget it? Lol. So I took him the sticker off of the unit and got the same modal and it slipped right into place with 3 couplings only! Piece of cake, Praise the Lord! I either accidently passed that test or, my faith is getting more real in the Lord? It feels good to pass a test Brothers & Sisters! (I don't pass many of them, lol.
I had a problem. I didn't look to the world for anything, no loans, nothing. I took this problem to the Lord. That pleased Him so I got a new HWH the next day and didn't have to wait a month!
This test is relevant to the topic as presented. If I was looking to myself to solve this problem. like maybe perhaps I can handle this myself and I don't need to bug the Lord about it. then I have the feeling that somehow it would not have turned out like it did. If we are full of self love then we don't need to look to the Lord, then he lets us, and we never get to find out what Blessings that He had for us. You have not because you ask not. I asked because I don't need to have self love for this type of thing. It's absolutely amazing the small talk that I have had with the Lord. He usually answers because even small talk is talk and He misses talking to us. And that sense of humor of His, wow!
I wish she would clarify self love. Is it she loves herself so she wants to eat right and get healthy exercise? I do that. Or is the self love a worldly pursuit? Sinful perhaps, but a small sin? The danger in this is one she'll get used to not asking the Lord about what's going on in her life? Which is not following Jesus but ones self. And if she gets an unction about it to pray but she doesnt do that but instead, asks other Christians if it's ok or not? So she might not receive the same truth from them as she would have from the Lord. ??I dunno, I'm no teacher but it feels wrong in my spirit to live life ourselves and not give all decision making over to our Lord. That is not what scripture says to do.
If she says the self love is about taking care of herself, then I'll owe her an apology, lol!
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Perhaps what she actually has in mind is unhealthy, perhaps it isn't. But adding your words to what she said, telling her what she thinks while asking ZERO clarifying questions is DEFINITELY unhealthy, and not the way a true teacher of the Word would be behaving.
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