Most of the time I truly love being single, but today just isn't one of those days. I am sure these feelings will pass, but for now I feel ashamed and embarrassed. I feel like I'm letting Jesus down by not being content right now. Sometimes I would just love a big hug from a man who loves me in that special way.
From a Biblical perspective, are these feelings OK?
Loneliness is a human emotion and the symptom of an inner need for human closeness.
Genesis 2:18
English Standard Version
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
God didn't create us to be alone. He said it wasn't good for Adam to be alone and that he needed another that was fit for him. Fit also means to complete. Sure some make vows to singleness and that is between them and God but the human is hardwired for connection.
It is kind of amazing how God designed humans to respond to human connections. From the eyes to see, the nose to smell, the ears to hear, the oxytocin to encourage closeness, the brain signals to enjoy a hug, and all the other bodily functions that encourage humans to love. Really amazing at God's design.
It has even been shown that married couples live longer lives. From Genesis 2 God created family, then came community, then nations, and then in Acts He created the body of the Church.
Being alone was never of God's design but also never commanded by God to marry. Singleness isn't a sin and Paul a single man even says if you don't burn with passion, it is better to be single (context: Paul was implying that his singleness allowed him to operate as an evangelist without the extra work of maintaining a marriage.)
But he then says if one burns with passion that it constantly tempts to sin or reaches the level of sin, then it is best to marry.
Other than that, singleness itself isn't a sin.
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