I Don't Like Men

[Dino246]

Oh nice, my other threads are not published and I ask this one not to be and is, very nice. Thanks.

Don't stress about it. You'll have people praying for you now.

 

[Flint321]

Whatever the case may be, you are to Love God and Love your male or female neighbor

Apart of the sanctification process, is rejecting ourselves and conforming into God's will, my advice would be to put to death your evil thoughts through Jesus Christ, kill sin.

 

[LittleMermaid]

OP, if it makes you feel better I sometimes make threads or posts and then I regret them! LOL I think it's common. Don't worry so much about that.
I'm sorry that you feel that way about men. If you would like to talk about it, please do so. If you don't then that's okay too.
Try not to lump all men in one pile. Some men are good and kind. The enemy is trying to put the lie into your mind that all men are the same. That just isn't so. I'll be praying for you, sister.

 

[Nehemiah6]

I read this wrong haha.. How does my op speak of my state of mind?

"I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men". This is what you said.

HUGE = PARANOIA
EXTREME = PARANOIA
MAJOR = PARANOIA

Paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is one of a group of conditions called "Cluster A" personality disorders which involve odd or eccentric ways of thinking. People with PPD also suffer from paranoia, an unrelenting mistrust and suspicion of others, even when there is no reason to be suspicious. This disorder usually begins by early adulthood and appears to be more common in men than in women.

What Are the Symptoms of Paranoid Personality Disorder?
People with PPD are always on guard, believing that others are constantly trying to demean, harm, or threaten them. These generally unfounded beliefs, as well as their habits of blame and distrust, might interfere with their ability to form close relationships. People with this disorder:

• Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving them
• Are reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against them
• Are unforgiving and hold grudges
• Are hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
• Read hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
• Perceive attacks on their character that are not apparent to others; they generally react with anger and are quick to retaliate
• Have recurrent suspicions, without reason, that their spouses or lovers are being unfaithful
• Are generally cold and distant in their relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
• Cannot see their role in problems or conflicts and believe they are always right
• Have difficulty relaxing
• Are hostile, stubborn, and argumentative

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/paranoid-personality-disorder#1-2

 

[VineyardsOfEngedi]

"I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men". This is what you said.

HUGE = PARANOIA
EXTREME = PARANOIA
MAJOR = PARANOIA

Paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is one of a group of conditions called "Cluster A" personality disorders which involve odd or eccentric ways of thinking. People with PPD also suffer from paranoia, an unrelenting mistrust and suspicion of others, even when there is no reason to be suspicious. This disorder usually begins by early adulthood and appears to be more common in men than in women.

What Are the Symptoms of Paranoid Personality Disorder?
People with PPD are always on guard, believing that others are constantly trying to demean, harm, or threaten them. These generally unfounded beliefs, as well as their habits of blame and distrust, might interfere with their ability to form close relationships. People with this disorder:

• Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving them
• Are reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against them
• Are unforgiving and hold grudges
• Are hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
• Read hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
• Perceive attacks on their character that are not apparent to others; they generally react with anger and are quick to retaliate
• Have recurrent suspicions, without reason, that their spouses or lovers are being unfaithful
• Are generally cold and distant in their relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
• Cannot see their role in problems or conflicts and believe they are always right
• Have difficulty relaxing
• Are hostile, stubborn, and argumentative

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/paranoid-personality-disorder#1-2

I had to laugh

 

[Going_Nowhere]

It's okay. I don't like women sometimes either.

 

[melita916]

OP, Ive seen you post in the forums, but I don’t know you well enough yet but I do understand being disappointed with others. I’m thinking you’ve had bad experiences in the past, and sometimes those experiences are hard to handle. Do you have a local assembly you attend?

 

[VineyardsOfEngedi]

OP, Ive seen you post in the forums, but I don’t know you well enough yet but I do understand being disappointed with others. I’m thinking you’ve had bad experiences in the past, and sometimes those experiences are hard to handle. Do you have a local assembly you attend?

I do not.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

I somewhat get where Nehemiah is coming from. Perhaps standing in your face with a bullhorn is why it's not going over well.
Nor is posting about personality disorder, which would likely not be a fitting post.

I'm going to take a guess that perhaps a man, or men, have done some hurtful things to you. And if that's the case your fears are understandable. This could make one paranoid that all men are bad and will hurt you. This is founded in experience and not a mind that is damaged, but rather a damaged heart.
But I am paranoid about women. Not to the extent you are towards men, but I have my own paranoias, fears, directed towards women in romantic situations. And this stems from my own past experiences of being hurt.

So paranoia has a loosely fitting application, but not really an ideal suggestion as using the term has so much of a stigma that, in this case, it adds more problems than it helps. Especially since it's not 100% fitting.

And, no, getting into a relationship is not ideal to overcome this. I'd skip the idea completely for now. Pick a guy to get to know. One guy. No rush. No romance. And see how much you can learn about that man that goes against what you already expect. Learning to slowly trust one man can open doors. Baby steps.
But keep one thing in mind. Your experiences may be with men, but it's not a gender problem in reality. The things women have done to me have been emotionally destructive to me as well. And I could have gone down a path of distrusting all women (and some women have told me they were surprised I haven't) but I try to see each woman as an individual, not all as the same.

 

[OneOfHis]

I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men. How do I get rid of this?

I may have discribed it differently, but I think I had faced a similar situation.

Growing up in a broken family with very "cold" people all around me.... I ended up believing all women were like those I have met in my own experience.

I've seen .... some messed up stuff... regularly... for years....


Then when I became a Christian in my early 20's I held on to the understanding of women I have gained through experience and stories....


Welp... God started changing me in ways I never expected.

I grew softer and softer and started hating things that God hates and loving to do good on to others....

I knew that God can do this to anyone, but it took awhile and meeting many lovely born again women who really did love Jesus and have God working in them too to see how one sided and limited my understanding was.


We can't paint everyone with the same brush when all of us have our own walk and our own values.

Even if a man is not Christian does not mean he would give you ANY reason to dislike him....

__________

I think finding out exactly why you feel this way... and also accepting one man or 100,000 men cant represent all men may help you

 

[preacher4truth]

You are. What you stated in your OP is a PARANOID state of mind.

The normal state of mind for single men and women is to SEEK OUT another person of the opposite sex in order to have a loving long-term relationship which involves children and family. It takes effort on both sides.

You asked for advice, and the best advice is to get out of your own paranoid prison and move on. We create our own paranoia, and we can also get rid of it if we choose to do so.

Burning incense to your false god of free will human ability won't help help you or this person.

 

[Hungry]

"I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men". This is what you said.

HUGE = PARANOIA
EXTREME = PARANOIA
MAJOR = PARANOIA

Paranoid personality disorder (PPD) is one of a group of conditions called "Cluster A" personality disorders which involve odd or eccentric ways of thinking. People with PPD also suffer from paranoia, an unrelenting mistrust and suspicion of others, even when there is no reason to be suspicious. This disorder usually begins by early adulthood and appears to be more common in men than in women.

What Are the Symptoms of Paranoid Personality Disorder?
People with PPD are always on guard, believing that others are constantly trying to demean, harm, or threaten them. These generally unfounded beliefs, as well as their habits of blame and distrust, might interfere with their ability to form close relationships. People with this disorder:

• Doubt the commitment, loyalty, or trustworthiness of others, believing others are using or deceiving them
• Are reluctant to confide in others or reveal personal information due to a fear that the information will be used against them
• Are unforgiving and hold grudges
• Are hypersensitive and take criticism poorly
• Read hidden meanings in the innocent remarks or casual looks of others
• Perceive attacks on their character that are not apparent to others; they generally react with anger and are quick to retaliate
• Have recurrent suspicions, without reason, that their spouses or lovers are being unfaithful
• Are generally cold and distant in their relationships with others, and might become controlling and jealous
• Cannot see their role in problems or conflicts and believe they are always right
• Have difficulty relaxing
• Are hostile, stubborn, and argumentative

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/paranoid-personality-disorder#1-2

This is exactly why our medical system is failing. That describes almost 80% of the women I’ve ever known (not biblically). The psychologists describe just about every natural person, label them with a disorder so the pharmaceutical companies can make drugs that seem valid to the benefit companies to pay for. That way everyone is making money. After one statement that most likely every woman could attest to, you already have her labeled. The bigger problem isn’t some psychiatric evaluation, it that the media in general has brainwashed women and men into having expectations in others that will never be met.

 

[Ghoti2]

We all have feelings, emotions, and opinions that have largely been shaped and further nurtured by the PERCEPTIONS of the various and esoteric things we have each individually experienced. That is something to keep in mind as you endeavor to go back into your own life, searching for what might have been the genesis of these feelings.

 

[7seasrekeyed]

from bad to worse as usual

is it possible that you can only see the women's forum if you have a paid membership?

anyway, right now I am also pretty disgusted with some of the responses from men

some of you have no idea how much some men have let women down

right here on this forum for instance, we regularly have threads started by men who OBVIOUSLY have quite a bit they are holding against women and they disguise it by saying women should dress appropriately

it seems a burlap sack covering the entire body, with eye holes cut out to prevent a woman from accidentally bumping into a man, would be the preferred dress code

the muslims have this one figured out

 

[7seasrekeyed]

This is exactly why our medical system is failing. That describes almost 80% of the women I’ve ever known (not biblically). The psychologists describe just about every natural person, label them with a disorder so the pharmaceutical companies can make drugs that seem valid to the benefit companies to pay for. That way everyone is making money. After one statement that most likely every woman could attest to, you already have her labeled. The bigger problem isn’t some psychiatric evaluation, it that the media in general has brainwashed women and men into having expectations in others that will never be met.

well then stop watching that media and don't watch the Hallmark channel

I don't watch the Hallmark channel because I cannot stand that sappy boy meets girl and girl dislikes him and by the end it's boy and girl are perfect for each other but it took all of 2 hrs to find that out

we live in the reality channel

so 80% of the women you know are neurotic?

my lands! find another circle

 

[Hungry]

I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men. How do I get rid of this?

You lower your expectation. It’s been said that men enjoy play and danger. That’s why true men enjoy women, the most dangerous play thing. That sums up pretty much every man you will find attractive. The difference in their behaviour is how they try to get the women. If you are looking for the perfect man, go to the movies. They do a good job at creating the kind of man that appeals to women. Problem is that he can never exist in the real world. Your chances of finding any kind of man like in a “chick flick”, aren’t as good as finding a leprechaun riding a unicorn. Reality sucks, be blessed.

 

[7seasrekeyed]

You lower your expectation. It’s been said that men enjoy play and danger. That’s why true men enjoy women, the most dangerous play thing. That sums up pretty much every man you will find attractive. The difference in their behaviour is how they try to get the women. If you are looking for the perfect man, go to the movies. They do a good job at creating the kind of man that appeals to women. Problem is that he can never exist in the real world. Your chances of finding any kind of man like in a “chick flick”, aren’t as good as finding a leprechaun riding a unicorn. Reality sucks, be blessed.

well that's not true

I once upon a time had one of those movie men...looks, danger, intelligence. a ladies' man...you know....the dangerous type

thing is, he really was dangerous. he was killed...had a hit put out on him

I was no longer with him or I would have been killed also. the woman that was with him was also killed. I came to my senses...with lots of people praying for me.

men enjoy women as a dangerous play thing? are you trying to be funny?

I would advise women everywhere to stay the hee haw away from you

 

[Hungry]

well then stop watching that media and don't watch the Hallmark channel

I don't watch the Hallmark channel because I cannot stand that sappy boy meets girl and girl dislikes him and by the end it's boy and girl are perfect for each other but it took all of 2 hrs to find that out

we live in the reality channel

so 80% of the women you know are neurotic?

my lands! find another circle

According to the guidelines set up by our psychiatrists, everyone has some psychological defect that requires therapy. That’s how they make money. But yes, I’d say most mothers are neurotic. “Mama bear” effect has caused me to see most women go from sane to crazy.....especially at children’s athletic events.

 

[7seasrekeyed]

According to the guidelines set up by our psychiatrists, everyone has some psychological defect that requires therapy. That’s how they make money. But yes, I’d say most mothers are neurotic. “Mama bear” effect has caused me to see most women go from sane to crazy.....especially at children’s athletic events.

well you can accept that or go renew your mind with the word of God

I've got enough credits in the field of psychiatry to self diagnose and I've come to the conclusion that God can and will help anyone

but you have to make the effort

most mothers are neurotic...hahaha

people who use sweeping generalizations seldom actually think for themselves. they do hold alot of opinions though

I tend to see individuals rather than categories although it seems you might fit into one quite nicely

why on earth do you think that your personal life experience is one size fits all? (rhetorical question)

 

[7seasrekeyed]

I would advise women everywhere to stay the hee haw away from you

uh oh. too late. you state you are married. and Canadian

I'm Canadian, also married and do not agree with you at all

see the difference?