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Paul said singleness is a gift from God (1 Cor. 7:7-8), as it allows undivided devotion to Him, (32–35). It allows you to serve and focus on things above, as we are to set our mind on things above (Colossians 3:2), specifically, Christ. It can cause us to grow closer to Him. However, finding a godly, Spirit-filled woman is critical, because she can encourage her husband in faith and godly living, helps a man pursue Christ, pray together, live in obedience to God, and shares a common faith to ensure unity in life decisions, parenting, and moral guidance. A Christian wife uniquely fulfills both emotional and spiritual, Christ-like qualities and needs, enhancing the completeness God designed for a man in marriage. But for some men and women, their soul salvation in Christ is more important than being with someone (especially if that someone is who they can't be with). Some people just remain single because they want to play it safe. They don't have to wonder if they're in adultery. They don't have to wonder if they're in a wrong relationship. It is safer being single than being in a relationship that is sinful or that would lead to a marriage that is sinful for your soul. While the first option is lonely and hard, (and it can be a struggle for a lot of people), in the end, it's going to be worth it. A decade's life of loneliness and singleness? Heaven is worth all of that. And being in a relationship that is not a godly one or leads to a marriage that is an adulterous marriage (while it might be fun for a lot of people), in the end it's not worth it, because that fun on earth, that little bit of love that one had on earth for just a few years (even 50, 60 years goes by quick), is no comparison to how long eternity is. So here is a man who has never dated, never been with a woman, never been married. I'm not saying that marriage is not good, because it's very good. In fact, man is not supposed to be alone, as God made a woman for a man's helpmate (Gen. 2:18). In creating a woman as a man’s helpmate, God intentionally affirms her intrinsic worth, beauty, value and the joy, love, and care she brings. It is profoundly beautiful, for a man is incomplete without her, and the right kind of woman can truly fill the companionship that a man’s heart is longing for which he cannot meet alone in his life. Both are incomplete alone; both exist to support, love, and reflect God’s image together. It’s mutual, not one-sided. A woman needs a man just as much as a man needs a woman. In marriage, she receives love, protection, and partnership, while a godly woman’s ultimate purpose is to honor God. Her companionship, care, and guidance are expressions of a Spirit-filled life, showing that her value is intrinsic. I long for a woman in my life, but if being alone on earth means spending eternity with Jesus, I would rather suffer through it. If staying single is the way to stay true to Christ’s teachings for me, then so be it. No earthly friendship—no matter how comforting or romantic—is worth being cut off from the Lord forever if it leads to sin. I'd rather experience a life of momentary loneliness than the fear of eternal regret of being with someone I cannot be with (Mt. 19:9, 5:32; Gal. 5:19-21).
