And then there's a point where you ask if you really should do that even for THAT reason. Whatever that reason might be. A good pillow fight might be more practical.
I am single and searching, I am single but not searching, I am single till the day I find. Which one are you?
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And then there's a point where you ask if you really should do that even for THAT reason. Whatever that reason might be. A good pillow fight might be more practical.
I am single and not searching, but I am open to the love and marriage God has for me (I know I don't have the gift of singleness).
I had been searching but it was a nightmare. Those experiences of searching gave me a lot to think about. For that I am grateful. I am taking time right now to work on myself and build a fulfilling life of my own. When the right time comes I believe God will direct me to be where I need to be. But for right now, I'm happy where I am.
I do agree there can be some cynicism when a single person says they want to get married. Singles get judged no matter what lol.
How do you go about searching @Edith ?
Hello Lizzy
In my mind you are a beauty.
in searching the Number one rule is don't go in with your heart. put the leg first.
For me, I discovered, I have character flaws so I deal with them
- First I acknowledge that I am clearly in need. And I don't care what anyone would say. I may be frightened by relationships but I meditate on my strength
- I am very dependent, so men get to feel intimidated by that, so if I have a crush around, I go girly mode. The look, the smile, the speech and all. I also get to do this unconsciously and it has landed me in trouble with married people sometimes.
- i go on dates, even with my girlfriends. I Ask men on dates without secondary intentions but just to have sometime away from work.
- I did online and dating apps in the past but that's trashy.
- Finally I go on blind dates. in this have found many good men but we have different priorities in life.
Truly if I was not having the burden for souls and missions I would be married. but it's hard to find mission minded people, so I keep searching.
Hello Lizzy
In my mind you are a beauty.
in searching the Number one rule is don't go in with your heart. put the leg first.
For me, I discovered, I have character flaws so I deal with them
- First I acknowledge that I am clearly in need. And I don't care what anyone would say. I may be frightened by relationships but I meditate on my strength
- I am very dependent, so men get to feel intimidated by that, so if I have a crush around, I go girly mode. The look, the smile, the speech and all. I also get to do this unconsciously and it has landed me in trouble with married people sometimes.
- i go on dates, even with my girlfriends. I Ask men on dates without secondary intentions but just to have sometime away from work.
- I did online and dating apps in the past but that's trashy.
- Finally I go on blind dates. in this have found many good men but we have different priorities in life.
Truly if I was not having the burden for souls and missions I would be married. but it's hard to find mission minded people, so I keep searching.
Edith, you're one of the sweetest people on this site. You're always encouraging others, building people up, and caring for them. You deserve a good man who can share the burden for souls and missions that you have.
My curiosity was purely regarding the lack of equity. Perhaps it is indeed "more disgusting" for males but I don't really see why. Kind of like how pornography is often seen as "worse" than those trashy romance novels, but really they are just different forms of the same evil.
And then there's a point where you ask if you really should do that even for THAT reason. Whatever that reason might be. A good pillow fight might be more practical.
I don't even know where this thread is going to but I have a weird question.
Should a single get into any form of solo sexual satisfaction?
Amen and AmenEdith, you're one of the sweetest people on this site. You're always encouraging others, building people up, and caring for them. You deserve a good man who can share the burden for souls and missions that you have.
It was no fun being a widower either but that has changed for me as I married a member of this site almost 11 years ago.
Plenty of grandkids too. Was never into partying though. Yeah, plenty of going to work and back but that's OK, it's what I do.
After my divorce from my horrible first wife (6 1/2 years) I was single and celibate for 18 years. Like yourself, did not have an urgent need for a new spouse. There was no urgency in marrying my current wife either but when you find the one of your heart's desire you have to take decisive action.
We got married in Las Vegas. I wanted Elvis to marry us but my wife-to-be nixed that notion. Got married in our room at the Hilton on the strip across Las Vegas Blvd. from Circus Circus. Local minister married us. Two bellhops and a cleaning person were the witnesses. This was on Thanksgiving Day in 2014.
For getting married in their hotel they gave us a complementary turkey dinner with all of the trimmings. Got a special table by ourselves. Quite memorable for sure. Won some money too.
We partied that day.
Yes well... Um... That's where the analogy breaks down. Very few scientific discoveries have resulted from a pillow fight.And then there's a point where you ask if you really should do that even for THAT reason. Whatever that reason might be. A good pillow fight might be more practical.
I have actually never searched for a relationship, nor have I ever joined a dating site. My relationships have happened after getting to know someone at school, work, or online and we'd decide to be in a relationship. Then the fun stuff would happen, doing things together that we enjoyed.
Am I currently searching? No, yet I'm not opposed to a relationship either. At this point though, I feel like it is time for me to work on my life and work on my self, whilst also always continuing to seek the Lord's will for my life. I have plenty of projects to work on right now, then at the end of fall I've got a flight out to spend time with someone close to me who I want to help (they've helped me so much). I'm without a doubt, the Lord is and will guide me all the way.
I don't have children. If it is the Lord's will, let it be so. But, it's no something I feel I'm destined for. Marriage has always been something I've been apprehensive about. I think it's a beautiful thing created by the Lord and I'm happy for those who are blessed to be in a good marriage and for those who are heading for a Godly marriage.
I do greatly enjoy the companionship of a relationship and I also greatly enjoy the affection in a relationship (I'm not speaking of sexual affection). But, are those enough for me to want to get married? Well, it hasn't been enough yet lol.
In short, I do not believe I will remain single (though I'm not saying that means I'll necessarily get married), but right now I'm content to work on my life 'cause it needs a lot of work lol. In the meantime, I take myself out every once in a while to a concert or eatery. I doesn't bother me to date myself
Am I currently searching? No, yet I'm not opposed to a relationship either. At this point though, I feel like it is time for me to work on my life and work on my self, whilst also always continuing to seek the Lord's will for my life. I have plenty of projects to work on right now, then at the end of fall I've got a flight out to spend time with someone close to me who I want to help (they've helped me so much). I'm without a doubt, the Lord is and will guide me all the way.
I don't have children. If it is the Lord's will, let it be so. But, it's no something I feel I'm destined for. Marriage has always been something I've been apprehensive about. I think it's a beautiful thing created by the Lord and I'm happy for those who are blessed to be in a good marriage and for those who are heading for a Godly marriage.
I do greatly enjoy the companionship of a relationship and I also greatly enjoy the affection in a relationship (I'm not speaking of sexual affection). But, are those enough for me to want to get married? Well, it hasn't been enough yet lol.
In short, I do not believe I will remain single (though I'm not saying that means I'll necessarily get married), but right now I'm content to work on my life 'cause it needs a lot of work lol. In the meantime, I take myself out every once in a while to a concert or eatery. I doesn't bother me to date myself
So... You wanna go out this Saturday night? I got some Subway coupons...I have actually never searched for a relationship, nor have I ever joined a dating site. My relationships have happened after getting to know someone at school, work, or online and we'd decide to be in a relationship. Then the fun stuff would happen, doing things together that we enjoyed.
Am I currently searching? No, yet I'm not opposed to a relationship either. At this point though, I feel like it is time for me to work on my life and work on my self, whilst also always continuing to seek the Lord's will for my life. I have plenty of projects to work on right now, then at the end of fall I've got a flight out to spend time with someone close to me who I want to help (they've helped me so much). I'm without a doubt, the Lord is and will guide me all the way.
I don't have children. If it is the Lord's will, let it be so. But, it's no something I feel I'm destined for. Marriage has always been something I've been apprehensive about. I think it's a beautiful thing created by the Lord and I'm happy for those who are blessed to be in a good marriage and for those who are heading for a Godly marriage.
I do greatly enjoy the companionship of a relationship and I also greatly enjoy the affection in a relationship (I'm not speaking of sexual affection). But, are those enough for me to want to get married? Well, it hasn't been enough yet lol.
In short, I do not believe I will remain single (though I'm not saying that means I'll necessarily get married), but right now I'm content to work on my life 'cause it needs a lot of work lol. In the meantime, I take myself out every once in a while to a concert or eatery. I doesn't bother me to date myself
She might say yes. Meet you halfway at a Subway in Arkansas.So... You wanna go out this Saturday night? I got some Subway coupons...
So... You wanna go out this Saturday night? I got some Subway coupons...
Thanks, but imma wait until you have some Arby's coupons
Oh... No. No no no nononono. We don't do Arby's. Not here.Thanks, but imma wait until you have some Arby's coupons
See, Arby's rolled into town a while ago and immediately and blatantly started trying to poach employees from other places. My job, McDonald's, lost a few to them. But they were not exactly the best employees, and we did not mourn their loss. Arby's is still feeling the strain of low quality staff. So we just avoid that place.
Ok, I'm searching but it's more passive than active since I don't go out much. I tried one of those dating sites recommended by an old military friend from years ago. I think he was one of the few who actually found who he was looking for but for the most part, I think those dating sites are a big scam. I don't have a list of attributes I'm looking for, only that she be a Christian lady. I take Genesis 2:18 seriously and I certainly feel it applies to me. Before my late wife passed I was her caregiver for about five years and at this point I feel drained and need a helpmate. And I don't feel that ethnicity should be a consideration, only that she be a godly woman.
Dear Bob I don't feel comfortable with the word "helpmeet" (bizzare right?) but I accept it. God is omniscient.
So I pray the Lord brings in to your life that one who will stay by you for the rest of your days. Who will cherished you and whom you will cherish. In Jesus' name Amen
Edith, it's not helpmeet, it's helpmate which is the biblical term for helper. It just refers to the person who will help the other person in any and all of life's issues. But thank you so much for your prayer my sister.