How do husbands feel about male gynecologists?

DerVille · Jul 14, 2017

My wife and I have a no male doctor policy. She's never been examined nude by a male doctor.

How to explain, well, I feel very strongly that my wife's nudity is a form of intimacy between only her and I. Her totally exposing herself to me and letting me see all of her is very private and special and just between us. I find her gorgeous and I could look at her for hours. Just seeing her beautiful body and all of its softness and artistic curves and how soft and delicate her skin is, is just wonderful.

Her sharing her nudity with me is an amazing thing and it is one of the forms of marital intimacy. Of course there are others. Her revealing those private, intimate areas of her body just for me is so intimate. So, to sum up, just the visual sight of her nakedness is, for me a very intimate and pleasurable thing. My eyes LOVE her body.

Now we move to healthcare. I'll be honest I hate that pelvic exams even exist and that is the reality of the world but since they do, how do I feel about my wife getting them. I find another man being allowed graphic, full nudity access to my wife's most private intimate areas and being allowed to gaze at her in a well lit room with a bright light shining between her legs as a violation of our intimacy. As I stated, I hate they exist at all and that any woman has to get one but if it has to be done the only way it can be done without it damaging our exclusiveness is for only women to do them. I don't want other men seeing my wife in such graphic states of nudity. This is across the board.

I knew I felt this way after finding out about all of this with my first serious girlfriend. I didn't know anything about it at all, I didn't know what a gyno exam entailed, why anyone would ever even go to one or how prevalent these exam were. I was horrified when she told me all they did and that it was done by a man. From that experience I knew this was an additional screening process when looking for a serious, long-term mate.

I wouldn't have married anyone who had such strong preferences for a male doctor and who insisted on seeing one. I could only be with someone who only went to women. I feel that way about the nudity bond across the board. I wouldn't have married anyone who strips or an actress who did nude scenes etc. I also don't go to a female urologist.

Anyway, we have two kids and she really doesn't go to the gyno much at all. There were lots of exams during pregnancies and she went to an all female practice and ladies examined her and delivered our kids. I now have a vasectomy and we are done with births.

Many of the arguments for male doctors fall along the lines of "he's professional", "it's not sexual", "there's a chaperone" etc. None of these address in any way how much of a violation to our intimacy and privacy it would feel for me for a man to look at my wife in this way. I don't think women are turned on by exams or enjoy them so trying to argue that is irrelevant. The chaperone doesn't stop his eyes from seeing my wife in the nude and seeing the most intimate parts of her body that I enjoy more than anything, in great detail, how polite and professional he speaks doesn't stop the violation I'd feel for him to see her so.

Her nakedness is for me and me alone.

I don't care if he's seen 1,000,000 nude women, none of them are my wife, that's the only one I care about. He's not "turned on" by what he sees. Give me a break, I have no idea what he would think, and I definitely know no one else knows either so don't tell me what is going on in someone else's mind. No one knows. I never want to even give a man the possibility to enjoy how gorgeous my wife's nude body is. Seeing her in a bathing suit at the beach is as close as he'll ever come.

I know some guys don't care and even enjoy others seeing their lady, kind of like a trophy. Everyone is different. I suppose couples just need to be compatible.

renewed_hope · Jul 14, 2017

Oh wow! I totally get and understand where you are coming from. It is very sweet and romantic that you feel the way you do about her.

Now, I have had both male and female doctors examine me in that regard, one of which was in the emergency room because I was in a significant amount of pain and he was the only doctor available. In my history I realized men were a lot more gentle than women doctors were especially in gynecology.

I guess my only concern for you is if something happened to your wife and only a male doctor was available and they needed to take a look at that part of her body would you make an exception? Reason I ask is that it does happen and something that I think you and her need to take into consideration

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

This is WAY too much... Married or not you sound like a pervert... We have children on here and those who battle with sexual purity.. This is your wife? You don't Cherish her .. you just put all your filth on here for anyone to read

DerVille said:

My wife and I have a no male doctor policy. She's never been examined nude by a male doctor.

How to explain, well, I feel very strongly that my wife's nudity is a form of intimacy between only her and I. Her totally exposing herself to me and letting me see all of her is very private and special and just between us. I find her gorgeous and I could look at her for hours. Just seeing her beautiful body and all of its softness and artistic curves and how soft and delicate her skin is, is just wonderful.

Her sharing her nudity with me is an amazing thing and it is one of the forms of marital intimacy. Of course there are others. Her revealing those private, intimate areas of her body just for me is so intimate. So, to sum up, just the visual sight of her nakedness is, for me a very intimate and pleasurable thing. My eyes LOVE her body.

Now we move to healthcare. I'll be honest I hate that pelvic exams even exist and that is the reality of the world but since they do, how do I feel about my wife getting them. I find another man being allowed graphic, full nudity access to my wife's most private intimate areas and being allowed to gaze at her in a well lit room with a bright light shining between her legs as a violation of our intimacy. As I stated, I hate they exist at all and that any woman has to get one but if it has to be done the only way it can be done without it damaging our exclusiveness is for only women to do them. I don't want other men seeing my wife in such graphic states of nudity. This is across the board.

I knew I felt this way after finding out about all of this with my first serious girlfriend. I didn't know anything about it at all, I didn't know what a gyno exam entailed, why anyone would ever even go to one or how prevalent these exam were. I was horrified when she told me all they did and that it was done by a man. From that experience I knew this was an additional screening process when looking for a serious, long-term mate.

I wouldn't have married anyone who had such strong preferences for a male doctor and who insisted on seeing one. I could only be with someone who only went to women. I feel that way about the nudity bond across the board. I wouldn't have married anyone who strips or an actress who did nude scenes etc. I also don't go to a female urologist.

Anyway, we have two kids and she really doesn't go to the gyno much at all. There were lots of exams during pregnancies and she went to an all female practice and ladies examined her and delivered our kids. I now have a vasectomy and we are done with births.

Many of the arguments for male doctors fall along the lines of "he's professional", "it's not sexual", "there's a chaperone" etc. None of these address in any way how much of a violation to our intimacy and privacy it would feel for me for a man to look at my wife in this way. I don't think women are turned on by exams or enjoy them so trying to argue that is irrelevant. The chaperone doesn't stop his eyes from seeing my wife in the nude and seeing the most intimate parts of her body that I enjoy more than anything, in great detail, how polite and professional he speaks doesn't stop the violation I'd feel for him to see her so.

Her nakedness is for me and me alone.

I don't care if he's seen 1,000,000 nude women, none of them are my wife, that's the only one I care about. He's not "turned on" by what he sees. Give me a break, I have no idea what he would think, and I definitely know no one else knows either so don't tell me what is going on in someone else's mind. No one knows. I never want to even give a man the possibility to enjoy how gorgeous my wife's nude body is. Seeing her in a bathing suit at the beach is as close as he'll ever come.

I know some guys don't care and even enjoy others seeing their lady, kind of like a trophy. Everyone is different. I suppose couples just need to be compatible.

DerVille · Jul 14, 2017

LOL! First reply is how sweet and romantic I am......second reply, I am a pervert. That sure is a wide range of opinions! I am a romantic pervert! LOL

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

We are on an open forum.. if my husband put all that on here I'd be humiliated.. if you loved her and wanted her for yourself, you'd kept all the description out of the post... You put her on a platter for any one online to feast off your words..

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

It's disgusting and offensive

renewed_hope · Jul 14, 2017

DerVille said:

I think you were being real and brutally honest about how you feel. As long as your wife is okay with it and you didnt push her into feeling this way, then there is nothing wrong. I think you will get a lot of people with a feminist attitude saying how insensitive you are for not having her see a male doctor...just don't let those people get under your skin. How your wife feels is the most important thing

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

It's a dead thread from about 4 yrs ago started by a user who was banned.. what in him thought he was helping anyone? Seems he want a thread to lay out all his sick thoughts.. perverts are perverts marriage or not

Ugly · Jul 14, 2017

Now what if the gyno is a lesbian, DerVille? If you can tell.

I think some of your post was needlessly excessive, but Zi is overreacting. She does that, though. It's the secular society we live in, sensitive to a fault.
Not sure I understand how wanting to protect his wife's body from other men gawking at is perverted. Nor is expressing his appreciation of his wife's body disgusting or perverted.

Tommy379 · Jul 14, 2017

Let us put this thread to sleep now.

kaylagrl · Jul 14, 2017

DerVille said:

My wife and I have a no male doctor policy. She's never been examined nude by a male doctor.

How to explain, well, I feel very strongly that my wife's nudity is a form of intimacy between only her and I. Her totally exposing herself to me and letting me see all of her is very private and special and just between us. I find her gorgeous and I could look at her for hours. Just seeing her beautiful body and all of its softness and artistic curves and how soft and delicate her skin is, is just wonderful.

Her sharing her nudity with me is an amazing thing and it is one of the forms of marital intimacy. Of course there are others. Her revealing those private, intimate areas of her body just for me is so intimate. So, to sum up, just the visual sight of her nakedness is, for me a very intimate and pleasurable thing. My eyes LOVE her body.

Now we move to healthcare. I'll be honest I hate that pelvic exams even exist and that is the reality of the world but since they do, how do I feel about my wife getting them. I find another man being allowed graphic, full nudity access to my wife's most private intimate areas and being allowed to gaze at her in a well lit room with a bright light shining between her legs as a violation of our intimacy. As I stated, I hate they exist at all and that any woman has to get one but if it has to be done the only way it can be done without it damaging our exclusiveness is for only women to do them. I don't want other men seeing my wife in such graphic states of nudity. This is across the board.

I knew I felt this way after finding out about all of this with my first serious girlfriend. I didn't know anything about it at all, I didn't know what a gyno exam entailed, why anyone would ever even go to one or how prevalent these exam were. I was horrified when she told me all they did and that it was done by a man. From that experience I knew this was an additional screening process when looking for a serious, long-term mate.

I wouldn't have married anyone who had such strong preferences for a male doctor and who insisted on seeing one. I could only be with someone who only went to women. I feel that way about the nudity bond across the board. I wouldn't have married anyone who strips or an actress who did nude scenes etc. I also don't go to a female urologist.

Anyway, we have two kids and she really doesn't go to the gyno much at all. There were lots of exams during pregnancies and she went to an all female practice and ladies examined her and delivered our kids. I now have a vasectomy and we are done with births.

Many of the arguments for male doctors fall along the lines of "he's professional", "it's not sexual", "there's a chaperone" etc. None of these address in any way how much of a violation to our intimacy and privacy it would feel for me for a man to look at my wife in this way. I don't think women are turned on by exams or enjoy them so trying to argue that is irrelevant. The chaperone doesn't stop his eyes from seeing my wife in the nude and seeing the most intimate parts of her body that I enjoy more than anything, in great detail, how polite and professional he speaks doesn't stop the violation I'd feel for him to see her so.

Her nakedness is for me and me alone.

I don't care if he's seen 1,000,000 nude women, none of them are my wife, that's the only one I care about. He's not "turned on" by what he sees. Give me a break, I have no idea what he would think, and I definitely know no one else knows either so don't tell me what is going on in someone else's mind. No one knows. I never want to even give a man the possibility to enjoy how gorgeous my wife's nude body is. Seeing her in a bathing suit at the beach is as close as he'll ever come.

I know some guys don't care and even enjoy others seeing their lady, kind of like a trophy. Everyone is different. I suppose couples just need to be compatible.

These exams are necessary for a womans health. My grandmother had cancer that began in her womb,by the time it was found out it was too late and she passed away. Since we have that type of cancer in our family we women are careful about any new signs or changes. So these exams are very important to a womans health.

Its great that you live in a place where your wife has the option to go to a female doctor but thats not always the case in small towns. And a woman should never neglect their health because they cannot find a female doctor. On the flip side of that,these days there are female doctors that are lesbians and would look at your wife being uncovered the same way a man would. Ever think of that?

kaylagrl · Jul 14, 2017

Ugly said:

Now what if the gyno is a lesbian, DerVille? If you can tell.

I think some of your post was needlessly excessive, but Zi is overreacting. She does that, though. It's the secular society we live in, sensitive to a fault.
Not sure I understand how wanting to protect his wife's body from other men gawking at is perverted. Nor is expressing his appreciation of his wife's body disgusting or perverted.

Well,I missed your post. Had the same thought I guess.

DarkRose · Jul 14, 2017

DerVille said:

Romantic perverts are the best kind!! Just kidding! That was way out of line lol (on my part)

you do realize that when male doctors examine female patients (and there is any nudity involved) there has to be a female nurse in the room watching what the doctor is doing...? He isn't gawking at your wife. Or, maybe he is, but he might also be saving her life in the meantime. You can request to stay in the room as well, just so you know.
I just find it odd that your wife could possibly have to endure less than adequate care because of your obsessive, jealous attitude towards her. Intimacy is linked to nudity in marriage, but not all nudity is intimate.
And, sometimes, having a male doctor can be less awkward...believe it or not

Depleted · Jul 14, 2017

Ugly said:

When he sets up his words so carefully that even a woman who has no interest in the female body can see rich intimate details of his wife AND on a four year old post, yeah. She may over react, but this was erotica. Or, in your words, "needlessly excessive."

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

I did state that we have children and those who battle with purity.. stand for truth man... Kids should be safe above all else

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

Ugly, I'm a mother who wants no child bound or reading garbage on what should be a safe place already.. if that's over the top.. I'll take it any day over being a passive stand by

kaylagrl · Jul 14, 2017

DerVille said:

No,I wouldn't say you're a pervert,just rather immature. And when I read your post I did think the description of your wife was odd considering you don't want another male to know about her body. Just sort of odd.

Nautilus · Jul 14, 2017

Zi said:

Children shouldnt be on here, teenagers hear worse at school or in the media, so Im still not sure what you are harping on about....I thought his post was idiotic and shows him to be overly dominating and controlling but it wasn't erotica.

Zi · Jul 14, 2017

It's a family forum and the teens get on here.... Are we to cease being examples because they hear worse? Are you serious? ... If you see nothing wrong with it then have a seat and let someone who is a different member of the body handle it... It is exactly that..

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Cruiseducati · Mar 25, 2020

I see alot of mean women on these sites saying to leave him. My personal feeling is there is no reason to select a male gyn when there are many qualified female gyn's that are perfectly capable of this private exam. Dont expect me to just deal with it, it is not necessary to go to a man and interject him into our intimacy. As an alpha male, I do not want any other man certifying that my wifes vagina is perfect. It has nothing to do with her health, this is an elected exam for which the female should respect her intimacy in her relationship. If you refuse a male doctor and ask for a female, the male doctor feels rejected because he feels he has earned the right to violate her because of his schooling. There is a reason we have male female bathrooms, etc. I find it comical how the females defend the male gyn. He is married, he is a nice guy, he sees thousands of women a year, he has a family, my friend goes to him, the exam isn't sexual. Why not just spend the next year looking for a nice, professional female for your next exam? Why argue over another man penetrating your wife while he visually and manually examines her entire body while I wait outside. I am not supposed to be jealous? It is just wrong. Why wont they let the husband in the room? He could certainly give the doctor more input on any issues the husband has observed.
Leave the male gyn to the needy or single women. No harm, no foul. Dont touch my wife there. She has made a promise to me before God.

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