I went to a few Reformed churches before I really understood what they taught.
Some were fine, but there was always that sense of being special.
That didn't work too well once I had children... so disturbing I really do not know how anyone can have a child and adhere to Calvinist ideas, makes me ill.
It grew tiresome so I left and then began to understand.
I dont get why they feel special according to them they got randomly plucked out of the void for no ryme or reason. Thats the opposite of being special. Thats getting lucky.