Bringing up of our children
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Parents can avoid spanking by taking away their kids' "toys" and privileges (and not giving them back later either). A lot of parents make the mistake of giving back the toys once the kid behaves; that is a mistake and kids can play that game. If you destroy or throw away their favorite game, etc. in front of the kid, the kid will behave later.
The appropriate level of disapline is not overly brutal..
Yes the critical words are ""TOO SERVERELY"" Now if you where disaplined too serverely then you should not allow that extreme experience cause you to persue an extreme alterate policy ( Zero Disapline ) Living by the extremes will cause ones kids troubles either way..
Your personal experiences should not cause you to get a distorted view of life..
Humm i wonder how many people Jesus struck with his scourge when He drove the merchants from the temple in the following passage of the Bible??
(John 2:13-17) "¶ And the Jews’ passover was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem, {14} And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: {15} And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers’ money, and overthrew the tables; {16} And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father’s house an house of merchandise. {17} And his disciples remembered that it was written, The zeal of thine house hath eaten me up."
Yes the critical words are ""TOO SERVERELY"" Now if you where disaplined too serverely then you should not allow that extreme experience cause you to persue an extreme alterate policy ( Zero Disapline ) Living by the extremes will cause ones kids troubles either way..
Your personal experiences should not cause you to get a distorted view of life..
Humm i wonder how many people Jesus struck with his scourge when He drove the merchants from the temple in the following passage of the Bible??
(John 2:13-17) "¶ And the Jews’ passover was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem, {14} And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: {15} And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers’ money, and overthrew the tables; {16} And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father’s house an house of merchandise. {17} And his disciples remembered that it was written, The zeal of thine house hath eaten me up."
Dealing with the behavior/ attitude consistently and immediately seems to be a key.
Spanking might be overreacting on the parents part for minor infractions and breaking if rules. Example, child leaves toys scattered around the living room Christmas afternoon.
I would perhaps remind them that dinner is ready as soon as they finish picking up the toys. Then I'd show an example by leading them exactly where they should go, toy box etc. Then they continue until done.
BUT if it wasn't Christmas and the boy acted like my little brother, time out or taking away a privilege isn't going to be effective. 😄
Asian Mom
My little bother still acts like this when he doesn't get his way.
He threw a tantrum when I talked to him about helping with Mom when we got her home. Seriously!
He's a deputy and has two children with far better behavior.
Spanking might be overreacting on the parents part for minor infractions and breaking if rules. Example, child leaves toys scattered around the living room Christmas afternoon.
I would perhaps remind them that dinner is ready as soon as they finish picking up the toys. Then I'd show an example by leading them exactly where they should go, toy box etc. Then they continue until done.
BUT if it wasn't Christmas and the boy acted like my little brother, time out or taking away a privilege isn't going to be effective. 😄
Asian Mom
My little bother still acts like this when he doesn't get his way.
He threw a tantrum when I talked to him about helping with Mom when we got her home. Seriously!
He's a deputy and has two children with far better behavior.
My friend who is against spanking follows it and it works well with her pre-K child. The child is very intelligent and already loves to read and is above her level, so the child hates takes it when a book or educational game is taken away from her. A parent needs to spend a lot of time teaching a kid and helping her find her interests and hobbies first though....