Avoid Christian Cupid's Dating Site Like The Plague...

[Joshua_Belyeu]

Hey, all.

About two weeks ago, I closed my account on Christian Cupid, having signed up in February. In short, it was a total disaster - people were using false profile pictures, no details on their own pages, and asking me questions they could've learned the answers to from reading my own profile. On top of that, I was getting an abundance of attention from people living in places like Nigeria, Asia, and the UK. Even when I updated my page to kindly say I was not interested in anyone outside of the USA, the same stuff kept happening. Some women asked me for money too, and others wanted a father figure for their kids; it was frustrating beyond reason. So as someone who's been ripped off by that site, allow my own experiences to serve as a warning - try someplace else.

 

[Magenta]

try someplace else.

They are likely all quite similar...

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Hey, all.

About two weeks ago, I closed my account on Christian Cupid, having signed up in February. In short, it was a total disaster - people were using false profile pictures, no details on their own pages, and asking me questions they could've learned the answers to from reading my own profile. On top of that, I was getting an abundance of attention from people living in places like Nigeria, Asia, and the UK. Even when I updated my page to kindly say I was not interested in anyone outside of the USA, the same stuff kept happening. Some women asked me for money too, and others wanted a father figure for their kids; it was frustrating beyond reason. So as someone who's been ripped off by that site, allow my own experiences to serve as a warning - try someplace else.

Ya never know what's online.

 

[Joshua_Belyeu]

They are likely all quite similar...

Well, the small place I live in doesn't appear to have any single Christian women my age; I'll be 45 in August. The church I go to is largely divided between two groups: couples 65 and over, or the same who are my age with kids. The main reason that I decided to try online dating was because my pastor met his wife that way, and I have great difficulty understanding social norms in the real world. My autism causes me to overanalyze almost everything, interpret a lot of words and situations very literally, and confusing the true meaning behind many facial expressions. All I know for sure is that I have a great capacity for love, but I've received so little of it in my private life, and I'm quickly becoming fed up with singleness - it feels more like a curse or cosmic joke at this point.

 

[tourist]

So as someone who's been ripped off by that site, allow my own experiences to serve as a warning - try someplace else.

I don't think that you got ripped off by that site, rather, it was the nature of the beast. Some say that Christian Chat is not a dating site, but, in some respect, I beg to differ.

 

[tourist]

I'm quickly becoming fed up with singleness - it feels more like a curse or cosmic joke at this point.

At times, could be a little bit of both.

 

[RodB651]

So as someone who's been ripped off by that site, allow my own experiences to serve as a warning - try someplace else.

I don't think that you got ripped off by that site, rather, it was the nature of the beast.

Like Tourist said, I don't think it was the site. I wouldn't blame them. They are a small business and they are there to make money.

Women from other countries are looking for their "American Boaz", their golden ticket to America. At some point, they will bring their family over as well. That's generally how that's supposed to work. Foreign guys are looking for their " Ruth" as well. That's the way it is. Is it always like that?, I hope not!

If your still single in your 50s, I assure you it will feel much different than it compares to how you feel now. Until you meet someone, keep working on who you are and make the improvements where necessary. You want to be someone who has something to offer in a relationship. Have a purpose, hobby, something you do and such. Be somebody who is interesting to be around and to have conversation with. Stuff like that.

 

[tourist]

Like Tourist said, I don't think it was the site. I wouldn't blame them. They are a small business and they are there to make money.

Women from other countries are looking for their "American Boaz", their golden ticket to America. At some point, they will bring their family over as well. That's generally how that's supposed to work. Foreign guys are looking for their " Ruth" as well. That's the way it is. Is it always like that?, I hope not!

If your still single in your 50s, I assure you it will feel much different than it compares to how you feel now. Until you meet someone, keep working on who you are and make the improvements where necessary. You want to be someone who has something to offer in a relationship. Have a purpose, hobby, something you do and such. Be somebody who is interesting to be around and to have conversation with. Stuff like that.

I couldn't agree more.

 

[cinder]

Well, the small place I live in doesn't appear to have any single Christian women my age; I'll be 45 in August. The church I go to is largely divided between two groups: couples 65 and over, or the same who are my age with kids. The main reason that I decided to try online dating was because my pastor met his wife that way, and I have great difficulty understanding social norms in the real world. My autism causes me to overanalyze almost everything, interpret a lot of words and situations very literally, and confusing the true meaning behind many facial expressions. All I know for sure is that I have a great capacity for love, but I've received so little of it in my private life, and I'm quickly becoming fed up with singleness - it feels more like a curse or cosmic joke at this point.

We've all had those rough days of singleness. But really singleness has its unique challenges just like marriage had its unique challenges.

The things I have to remind myself are just because there's no one to date me or who wants to date me that I would find acceptable, that doesn't mean I'm not loved. Getting a pet can help with the desire to have someone to take care of. Or if circumstances don't permit you to have a pet, see anout volunteering with a local animal shelter.

We also have to be honest with ourselves that there just aren't a lot of eligible matches coming through our living room. Now I'm an introverted homebody so half of my not meeting people is just that I don't go many places.

And yeah far too often singles are invisible in churches, and so a lot get discouraged and just quit going. It's a vicious cycle unfortunately. And if I ever find the magic fix, I'll let you (and the rest of the forum) know.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

Well, the small place I live in doesn't appear to have any single Christian women my age; I'll be 45 in August. The church I go to is largely divided between two groups: couples 65 and over, or the same who are my age with kids. The main reason that I decided to try online dating was because my pastor met his wife that way, and I have great difficulty understanding social norms in the real world. My autism causes me to overanalyze almost everything, interpret a lot of words and situations very literally, and confusing the true meaning behind many facial expressions. All I know for sure is that I have a great capacity for love, but I've received so little of it in my private life, and I'm quickly becoming fed up with singleness - it feels more like a curse or cosmic joke at this point.

I'm 49. I've wanted to get married since I was a kid. Never happened. And I feel confident it never will. Not everyone gets married. Marriage is not a promise.

 

[Krumbeard]

Sounds like a typical dating site. Haha!
I know they work for some but I don't think I'm in that sum.
Yeah, (as sub said) marriage isn't promised.
And, as cinder said, both marriage and singleness have their own challenges.

And lastly, I haven't said anything new or interesting. Just over here sorta crowing.

 

[Charlesiii]

Sounds like a typical dating site. Haha!
I know they work for some but I don't think I'm in that sum.
Yeah, (as sub said) marriage isn't promised.
And, as cinder said, both marriage and singleness have their own challenges.

And lastly, I haven't said anything new or interesting. Just over here sorta crowing.

Don't underestimate the originality of or fascination in the humble crow.


Also to the other guy,@Joshua_Belyeu, persevere (but maybe with a different site - ideally a free one, which therefore has less incentive for fraud?) If King David had given up after encountering his first philistine, he'd never have married his princess.

 

[Lynx]

Don't underestimate the originality of or fascination in the humble crow.
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Also to the other guy,@Joshua_Belyeu, persevere (but maybe with a different site - ideally a free one, which therefore has less incentive for fraud?) If King David had given up after encountering his first philistine, he'd never have married his princess.

I dunno... There's a lot of women at work who do a lot of nagging and catty comments and stuff that sure makes me glad I am single. When I clock out I can go home and leave all that junk behind.

I bet it would have been a lot more peaceful without that princess.

 

[TropicalWave]

Hey, all.

About two weeks ago, I closed my account on Christian Cupid, having signed up in February. In short, it was a total disaster - people were using false profile pictures, no details on their own pages, and asking me questions they could've learned the answers to from reading my own profile. On top of that, I was getting an abundance of attention from people living in places like Nigeria, Asia, and the UK. Even when I updated my page to kindly say I was not interested in anyone outside of the USA, the same stuff kept happening. Some women asked me for money too, and others wanted a father figure for their kids; it was frustrating beyond reason. So as someone who's been ripped off by that site, allow my own experiences to serve as a warning - try someplace else.

Thanks for the heads-up. I had thought about trying one of those at some point in the near future. Please also keep us posted if you stumble across any that do bear some fruit or at least seem a lot better. Haha.

 

[seoulsearch]

If I may also add...

Just a precaution about the "free" dating sites...

I know this is the most appealing and only affordable option for many, but I personally ran into more married people on the free sites (at least, the ones who would admit they were married,) than on the paid ones.

I understand that money is tight for all of us these days, but if I ever went back to dating sites, it would likely be a paid one.

With a "free" site, anyone and everyone will join -- including many married (just from what I observed) who are "curious" and looking for an upgrade to their current spouse.

Of course, this happens on the paid sites as well -- I've read statistics of the number of married people on dating sites (and yes, of course this includes Christians.)

There was a post here not too long ago about a CC member helping a married church member with something on his phone -- and this married church member's phone was filled with dating apps. Many married people are "curious" to see if they could "do better", or if there really is a "unicorn" or side-play out there for them.

While a fee is certainly no guarantee, I do think it helps thin down the herd at least a little.

And if spouses have access to all of their financial records that each one contributes, it might be a bit more of a deterrent for someone when they know they'll have to explain that charge for "Find The Ruth/Boaz God Has For You!" to their spouse on their monthly statements.

 

[Jennfromoz]

I'm thinking of closing my profile. I keep getting messages from men too good to be true, but I always have to upgrade to read the messages. Well any man who is worthwhile who wants to get to know me will pay so that I can talk to them, not to require me to pay. I think it's a big scam.

 

[Lynx]

I'm thinking of closing my profile. I keep getting messages from men too good to be true, but I always have to upgrade to read the messages. Well any man who is worthwhile who wants to get to know me will pay so that I can talk to them, not to require me to pay. I think it's a big scam.

Howdy and welcome to the forum.

Duly noted that you are not inclined to accept a collect call. =^.^=

 

[Levib]

I'm thinking of closing my profile. I keep getting messages from men too good to be true, but I always have to upgrade to read the messages. Well any man who is worthwhile who wants to get to know me will pay so that I can talk to them, not to require me to pay. I think it's a big scam.

So you suspect there are fake accounts that are trying to scam you, yet the only men who would be ‘worthwhile’ are those who fall for the scam? You have described a simp, not a man.

 

[Cajunlady]

Thanks for the heads-up. I had thought about trying one of those at some point in the near future. Please also keep us posted if you stumble across any that do bear some fruit or at least seem a lot better. Haha.[/

 

[Cajunlady]

I tried a Christian dating app for a few hours and backed out. Just didn’t feel right.