adults suck

[Levichevett]

Being as my son is about to be 13 I'm interested in talking to you. Sure, I was once a young one. I had my problems and I grew up but I'm now raising a boy who is no longer a child but not an adult. I'm rather scared about it. What issues are you dealing with and how would you like to be treated? How have adults affected you negatively to create such rage?

im basically dealing with depression, anger, bullying and just overall messed up thoughts and emotions. I would like to be treated as an adult even just being able to have proper conversations with my parents where I can be honest with them and they'll liten and help me t deal with it rather than getting mad over something bad ive done. like I need a solution to the problem. not having someone shout at me for it instead. although you sound like you really care about your child so itll probably be fine im not sure how much help I can be but if you have any questions you can msg me

 

[Levichevett]

Hmmm!

Do you mind if I invite you to be around CC once in a while, Levi?

I´m old and I know what you would be dreaming, since my childhood but, I´m sure you will learn who to treat people onother way you´ve been treated.

Will you mind accepting this humble invitation to stay tuned, once in a while on CC (this site) Sir?

I hope!

Because HERE there are people who have suffered like you, sir.

I most certainly accept your invitation ^_^

 

[secularhermit]

It is my observation, over the course of my life, that there is an abundance of things that suck. Perhaps I am need of an attitude adjustment. I will say that, in my estimation of adults in general, is that they do not suck but are greatly misunderstood by the younger generation.

What?

I thought you were in your 30´s.

 

[secularhermit]

I most certainly accept your invitation ^_^

Thank you, sir!

And I promise I will never introduce you to my mother, just because, that day, you would see the problem is not the age, but the people we had as family or those we chose as them (they also think the same).

 

[Elizabeth619]

im basically dealing with depression, anger, bullying and just overall messed up thoughts and emotions. I would like to be treated as an adult even just being able to have proper conversations with my parents where I can be honest with them and they'll liten and help me t deal with it rather than getting mad over something bad ive done. like I need a solution to the problem. not having someone shout at me for it instead. although you sound like you really care about your child so itll probably be fine im not sure how much help I can be but if you have any questions you can msg me

I'm sorry you're dealing with so much. Depression can cause anger and cause a person to act out. One reason why I asked for you to tell me what's going on is it is important for parents to know what their child is dealing with. I know you probably don't want to hear this being as I'm an adult but 13 is a difficult age for everyone. I thought only girls cried and got emotional but my son is so sensitive he cries and gets angry quite a bit. As far as your bullying goes I probably would end up in jail if someone picked on my son. The depressing part is a lot of what you're going through is all part of growing up. It's hard. It's terrible at times but something tells me you will pull through and grow into a fine young adult. I'm sure this is nothing that you want to hear but keep in mind that every adult you think sucks was 13 once too. Times may have changed but the pressures have not. I'll also keep you in my prayers. Hang in there. Maybe one day you will be able to help other teens with the same problems.

 

[secularhermit]

Have you read that Levi?

Look at Elizabeth.

If we could pick those we would like, that easy, life would be better.

Stay with us, and try to conduct those emotions constructively. I´m sure, in few years, you will be leading people to overcome those troublesome emotions.

I´m glad you are around here, sir.

 

[Fenner]

im basically dealing with depression, anger, bullying and just overall messed up thoughts and emotions. I would like to be treated as an adult even just being able to have proper conversations with my parents where I can be honest with them and they'll liten and help me t deal with it rather than getting mad over something bad ive done. like I need a solution to the problem. not having someone shout at me for it instead. although you sound like you really care about your child so itll probably be fine im not sure how much help I can be but if you have any questions you can msg me

That's really nice of you to offer your help. My son is 9 and sometimes a very moody person that concerns me. I try really hard to just listen, he had a couple of issues at school last year that got resolved but it was hard for me to grasp what was going on. I can remember being 13 and having this girl in school who was a lot bigger than me pick on me and even a couple boys. By high school that girl was really nice to me. Unfortunately those kids exist every where. Hope you keep posting and I will pray for you.

 

[RickyZ]

Consider for a moment the opposite side of the coin.

My best man's wife buys her daughter a new car every 6 months - simply because she's grown tired of the old one (as if 6 months was old). Wifey coddles the girl in every way - paid for her to go to nursing school, but a year later she's not interested in it and now wifey is paying for her to get a second degree. Wifey pays her daughters rent and food, because a real job that would actually support her is too much a bother and too far away. Wifey, an adult, hangs on her kid's every word and when girly says jump wifey asks how high?

So now we have a 22 year old 13 year old, who's never going to grow up, or learn how to take care of herself, or become fully socialized, is going to cost her mom her retirement, and will eventually end up under a bridge when the day comes that mommy is no longer there to be at her beck and call.

You don't really want that kind of adult guiding you in your formative years, do you?

Geez, don't get me started about my sister in law's entitlement brat...

 

[Elizabeth619]

Levi, My son turns 13 in February. I'll let him have a CC account then. Maybe you and him could talk some. Maybe yall can help each other out. Sometimes a long distance friend can help.

 

[wisebeardman]

Levi, you are 13 you ain't a kid but you ain't an adult. so don't expect adults to treat you as an equal (ie someone that has lived an adult life.) Does it suck? yeah but get used to it and learn from it.

if you do something bad, yeah parents are going to be mad about it. suck it up and learn from it. its part of life been there done that life goes on.
As for the bullies, well couple choices. roll over and accept it, tell someone about it and maybe they will end it, or make the bully eat some teeth. granted with option #3 better be ready to take a beating or if you win end up in trouble with the law. (when I was young I went with option #3 it worked and yeah I spent some time in a lockup over it as well. BUT the bully wan't a problem anymore ether. (And no I didn't kill the dude but he did eat some teeth and I did as well.)

be glad you are 13 even with all the problems. it won't be many years from now you will wish you could be 13 again.

 

[Sirk]

Your generalities, prejudices, and stereotypes of adults may or may not be warranted, but I look past what you're saying, and focus on why you might feel that way. Simply put, I think the best thing for you is to find a great mentor; Someone you can trust and talk to about your issues that IS an adult but defies all the generalizations you state about the "typical adult". I wouldn't advise posting all your issues on a forum and get an entire mess of diverse solutions, just do that with a trusted and wise mentor. It might be difficult to find but when/if you do, it'll be well worth it.

Couldn't agree more. I know the teenage years are hard but the adults in your life most likely do have your best interest at heart. An example for you: My stepson was allowing a dog we are babysitting to chew on things other than his toys. I told him that teaching him that was going to come back to "bite" him (pardon the pun) and that he needed to stop teaching the dog bad habits....well wouldn't you know it...one day he comes out with his chewed up headphones angry as could be demanding that I buy him some new ones. While I understood his plight I reminded him that bad things can happen when you don't listen and apply to your life.... wise counsel.

 

[Levichevett]

Levi, My son turns 13 in February. I'll let him have a CC account then. Maybe you and him could talk some. Maybe yall can help each other out. Sometimes a long distance friend can help.

yes id like that

 

[weirdoh]

I wrote a rant simular to this once a few years ago. Just hang in there

 

[ELECT]

why do adults always treat children like crap all the time. like one moment youre to young to be doing something and adults belive they have the right to intervine with your life and then the next youre old enough to take respsonsibilty for your own actions and they don't care whats going on with you. Im sick of being told that my problems are insignificant and mean nothing and I need to just 'get over it' because that is not going to happen. ever. why do adults think that they know whats best when they don't even listen when you try and talk to them and then when you act out they cant even admit that you tried to get help but they turned you down. all these people who say they love me are lying and if they aren't then why have I grown up so messed up and so alone. and if my problems really aren't important compared to theirs then I can tell you something I am never going to be an adult. my life is already too much. I don't want things to get any worse. for anyone.

Life is a cycle and one day you will be an adult and can hopefully change that

be the change you want to be

 

[weirdoh]

im basically dealing with depression, anger, bullying...

I was a victim of bullying being a teen can be fustrating and difficult wanting to get the respect you feel you deserve. I still feel sometimes I don't get the respect I deserve just trust God join a bible study at church to give u a little break from family and draw yourself closer to God. As a teen I joined clubs to get away from bullys. I joined choir not only bc I love to sing but we always had after school rehearsals. Idk if this message will help you but I guess my point is get out join a group

 

[weirdoh]

Levi, My son turns 13 in February. I'll let him have a CC account then. Maybe you and him could talk some. Maybe yall can help each other out. Sometimes a long distance friend can help.

that's an awsome idea I was a victim of bullying and finding friend even online friends helped me alot

 

[Levichevett]

I was a victim of bullying being a teen can be fustrating and difficult wanting to get the respect you feel you deserve. I still feel sometimes I don't get the respect I deserve just trust God join a bible study at church to give u a little break from family and draw yourself closer to God. As a teen I joined clubs to get away from bullys. I joined choir not only bc I love to sing but we always had after school rehearsals. Idk if this message will help you but I guess my point is get out join a group

I would join a group but I don't think the priest guy at the church or my parents would be ok with that because the priest doesn't really like me because I sort of ruined his bible which apparently was worth a lot and I called him quite a few nasty words and I told my parents that I hated god and they didn't react well to that and they refuse to take me to church until Im good enough for it. idk. but I do write a lot to kind of deal with stuff but writing can be very solitary and its a different type of help to actually talking to somebody I guess

 

[Elizabeth619]

I would join a group but I don't think the priest guy at the church or my parents would be ok with that because the priest doesn't really like me because I sort of ruined his bible which apparently was worth a lot and I called him quite a few nasty words and I told my parents that I hated god and they didn't react well to that and they refuse to take me to church until Im good enough for it. idk. but I do write a lot to kind of deal with stuff but writing can be very solitary and its a different type of help to actually talking to somebody I guess

You ruined his bible? sweetheart, you need to calm down. Your anger is probably a lot if the reason adults treat you the way they do. Just try to calm down. seriously, the rage isn't worth it. If you get angry find other ways to control it. I'm short tempered and if I didn't control my anger I'd be in prison. Seriously.

 

[Sirk]

Some food for thought. Many adults do in fact suck. A big reason many of them suck is because the adults in their lives sucked. Now that you have this information you have no excuse but to set your sights on being an adult who doesn't suck....and that journey for you could start today.

 

[Levichevett]

You ruined his bible? sweetheart, you need to calm down. Your anger is probably a lot if the reason adults treat you the way they do. Just try to calm down. seriously, the rage isn't worth it. If you get angry find other ways to control it. I'm short tempered and if I didn't control my anger I'd be in prison. Seriously.

I know I get told that a lot. usually I try not to get angry but then it just builds up and then I get frustrated when an inanimate object isn't doing what I want and then I shout at it and threaten it and then my parents think im mental or on drugs. or both. which usually just makes me angrier. life is just angering. literally ill be fine and then one person will say one little thing and suddenly the world is on fire and im tryna make sure they burn. but I only realize that after because I just black out and stop thinking and then later someone will mention it and I will only vaguely remember what happened. sorry this makes me sound like im really crazy and out of control but im not XD