A question for the men...

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One that gives herself credit for more than she has. Looks wise.
 
Pipp said:
I just genuinely want to know,


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This is not a set up for us ladies to get offended and fuss at y'all, I know everyone has things that are just automatic NOPES in their mind and I want to know yours.
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Imo, probably just inability to carry a conversation and a general disinterested/disengaged demeanor. That being said, I'm sure there are good reasons why women act like that, but if they don't say why then no one else will know. The assumption is they probably don't like other people, are not friendly, interesting, or fun to be around. That's unattractive to me.
 
DeanM said:
One that gives herself credit for more than she has. Looks wise.
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I feel like this is a difficult one..... like wouldn't it be a good thing that she is confident in herself even if she isn't societys idea of beautiful ?
 
Runningman said:
Imo, probably just inability to carry a conversation and a general disinterested/disengaged demeanor. That being said, I'm sure there are good reasons why women act like that, but if they don't say why then no one else will know. The assumption is they probably don't like other people, are not friendly, interesting, or fun to be around. That's unattractive to me.
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It's called introversion, or at least certain types / styles of introversion. If small talk isn't working try the most out there philosophical question you can think of and see if she suddenly gets more interested in the conversation.
 
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Pipp said:
I just genuinely want to know,


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This is not a set up for us ladies to get offended and fuss at y'all, I know everyone has things that are just automatic NOPES in their mind and I want to know yours.
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Bullying, self centeredness, hates the 2nd Amendment, supports abortion, a supporter of the modern feminist movements who have grown hair everywhere, also female appearance at a distance but up close is actually a dude then that is a huge unattractive trait when a man likes biological females. So the moral of the story is, the more I grow close to Christ, the more of what God sees as immoral becomes what is unattractive.
 
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cinder said:
It's called introversion, or at least certain types / styles of introversion. If small talk isn't working try the most out there philosophical question you can think of and see if she suddenly gets more interested in the conversation.
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As an introvert, I don't fully agree with that for obvious reasons to those who are actually introverted to some degree. Again, if women won't say why then no one will know. My point is that introverts aren't poor communicators because they're introverted, but rather poor communicators if they lack social skills.

I'm not into small talk so I don't go for chit chat really. I'm looking for someone who doesn't see a question like "How's the weather?" as small talk, but rather a segue into a deeper discussion about atmospheric phenomenon, climate, and weather forecasting. Just an example.
 
I have a habit of zoning out if a topic is not interesting (especially if the topic has been exhausted), and then suddenly unintentionally changing the topic. It could be I have a lack of attention span sometimes. I have been asked if I have ADD/ADHD.

Other times I prefer to just listen and won't contribute to the conversation if there is nothing to add. I have been asked why am I being quiet/is everything all right, etc., which is a surprise because I felt totally fine. One thing I would look for in someone (friends included) is if we are comfortable in silence together, because I wouldn't want to assure them all the time that I am fine, etc.
 
When she opens her mouth. LOL 😂 I am kidding, don’t kill me. I can hear all the “wows” echoing throughout the forum now. 😝❤️
 
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Runningman said:
That one is difficult. What's the difference between arrogance and invincible confidence?
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I'm going to take a stab at this.

Confidence - being sure enough of yourself and your opinion to voice it and defend it

Arrogance - finding it inconceivable that your opinion could be wrong and that any thinking human being could hold a different opinion
 
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Reflexively tearing other people down. Some people develop a reflex of finding fault in others, because it makes you feel like you are better somehow. It doesn't make you look better to others though. It just makes you look really petty.
 
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Runningman said:
That one is difficult. What's the difference between arrogance and invincible confidence?
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Entitlement. This goes into what I was going to answer on this thread. My answer is their heart. You can see the inner beauty of a person permeating their outer beauty. A physically attractive woman (by societies standards of beauty) who is ugly on the inside is repulsive. There is just a… nastiness to their “appearance.” You can see it in their countenance.
 
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cinder said:
I'm going to take a stab at this.

Confidence - being sure enough of yourself and your opinion to voice it and defend it

Arrogance - finding it inconceivable that your opinion could be wrong and that any thinking human being could hold a different opinion
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Arrogant people can also be confident and vice versa. Seems like there isn't much of a difference to me.

It's more like someone is called confident when they're agreed with. When they are disagreed with they're called arrogant. One is a compliment and the other is a slur. It just depends how you decide to view it.

To prove that, you may believe someone is arrogant and I may believe someone is confident. Which one of us is right? Me of course. Jk :ROFL:
 
BenFTW said:
Entitlement. This goes into what I was going to answer on this thread. My answer is their heart. You can see the inner beauty of a person permeating their outer beauty. A physically attractive woman (by societies standards of beauty) who is ugly on the inside is repulsive. There is just a… nastiness to their “appearance.” You can see it in their countenance.
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I like that answer.
 
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