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Because we were wired to have better and live in a world where better isn't always available.

Because love has to be chosen. And for there to be choice, free will has to be given.

if we can't do anything about the lack of yellow paint, we'd be stuck with blue, no matter how we desire the possession of yellow paint What I'm saying is that I've never been in love, and the only way I've known love is not through affectionate feelings but through meeting obligations I have...

I ran out of time editing... If you stop adding blue, and start adding more and more yellow, eventually the green will fade out. What if you don't have access to yellow paint?

With all this in mind, I don't follow God to be happy. In fact, Christianity is the last religion I'd recommend if you want to be happy. I follow God because it's the right thing to do. God is my Lord and Savior. He's not my "lover," he's not my friend, or anything else like that. If he's your...

For those who don't understand my analogy of being at the table eating food you hate while everyone else is eating that, and something you want, and loving both: I'd like to have someone to spend my life with, but that's nowhere in sight. Meanwhile, everyone around me has someone, and is...

It is. To some extent. And this is why I continually struggle with having sexual fantasies. Not about anyone in particular. But at least when I'm there I can at least pretend someone wants and desires me. I can at least pretend I'm fully accepted and wanted with no strings attached and no...

Fine.

Who needs any of that anyway? We're already lied to anout love and disappointed with it every day of our lives. Life is unfair and God is unfair, so we might as well just live with it. Imagine you're at a table, yet all you have to eat are crumbs, if that. You're hungry, maybe even starving...

I took the test for that and the highest ones for me were Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch. The lowest was receiving gifts.

Honestly, I don't know. It's like I never get this sense of connection. Or if I do, it never lasts long. I get the sense that people are only listening or only around 'cause they feel as though they have to.

Of course I do. But it hasn't really directly impacted my life in the here and now.

He already has by sending Jesus to die for my sins. He owes me nothing else.

And by the way, I don't care if God cares. Someone can tell me all they want that they care, but I'm just gonna say, "SHOW me you care."

This life is all I know. How am I supposed to look forward to a place no one has ever experienced? Even Dante and Milton couldn't make heaven appealing.

Yay, I'm gonna have to wait till I'm dead to get any relief. Besides, I'm not much looking forward to heaven anyway.

Thank you for the lengthy reply. But let me say this. I've been a Christian for seven years now. And during that time, I tried so hard nonstop to get closer to God and connect to others. But nothing ever worked. I can't relate to people or God the same way others can, not because I don't want...

Yes, but the fact is I'm still not. This life is all I know so I really can't envision heaven as this perfect utopia. But like I said, I'm used to relying on myself. I only know love in meeting the obligations I have to my family. I've never really known love in any other way. And before you...

I've read just about every book for single people and none of them were satisfying. Whether we admit it or not, married people will always have privileges in both the church and in society that single people simply do not have. I have so little experience in relationships that I can't even tell...

A lot can change in a year. But I'm gonna take all this to my therapist.