Which Would You Find Easier: Baking Christmas Cookies, or Finding a Wife?
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First of all, I make amazing eggnog cookies. That's first of all. So, it's definitely easier to bake cookies. 
Sure, I could learn to make ice cream, but it would be a lot easier to just buy another pint of Ben & Jerry's.
Sure, I could learn to make ice cream, but it would be a lot easier to just buy another pint of Ben & Jerry's.
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How come you missed that recipe. It's as easy as pie.
But the stats show us that it isn't as easy as it once was... 50% of marriages are ending in divorce and i don't know how many people aren't even getting married but it sure seems like its a lot
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That 50% of marriages end in divorce is a misleading and discouraging statistic. Usually people hear that and think well I've got a 50 - 50 chance of my marriage working out (or of going through a nasty miserable divorce). Other things that I've heard quoted that will hopefully give a better (or at least more nuanced) picture include:
Dave Ramsey often talks about the 4 things you need to be on the same page about in a marriage and that if you're united on these 4 things divorce rates dramatically drop: Finances and how to handle them, how to raise your kids, how to deal with in-laws / extended family, and faith.
Those who analyze statistics say that divorce rates are lower for those couples who attend religious services weekly ( I assume together but remember one couple that had worked it out where they attended two different churches and were happy with that arrangement).
I've heard that second, third, and further additional marriages have higher divorce rates. I would suspect that people who have had a lot of marriages are also those who are likely to bail out when problems and conflicts come instead of working them out. (This does not mean that anyone who is divorced is hopelessly conflict avoidant and fickle, but that a string of failed marriages / relationships (because a lot of people do conduct their relationships like temporary marriages anymore) should prompt some discussions about how you handle conflict and some extra attention to how even small conflicts seem to resolve themselves).
And I don't think it's that marriage has gotten harder. Divorce has gotten easier and marriage has gotten less necessary (which is good news for everyone who's ever been stuck in an abusive or destructive relationship) so people feel like the option of bailing out is more viable than it once was (and I for one am glad that as a single female I have an abundance of career choices and my right and ability to work to support myself is generally accepted without a fight).
All that to say that there is plenty you can do both before and during a marriage to reduce (or increase) the chances that it will end in divorce. (Or at least that's what I've been told, never been married and I know it does take two and sometimes you just pick a crappy partner)
Dave Ramsey often talks about the 4 things you need to be on the same page about in a marriage and that if you're united on these 4 things divorce rates dramatically drop: Finances and how to handle them, how to raise your kids, how to deal with in-laws / extended family, and faith.
Those who analyze statistics say that divorce rates are lower for those couples who attend religious services weekly ( I assume together but remember one couple that had worked it out where they attended two different churches and were happy with that arrangement).
I've heard that second, third, and further additional marriages have higher divorce rates. I would suspect that people who have had a lot of marriages are also those who are likely to bail out when problems and conflicts come instead of working them out. (This does not mean that anyone who is divorced is hopelessly conflict avoidant and fickle, but that a string of failed marriages / relationships (because a lot of people do conduct their relationships like temporary marriages anymore) should prompt some discussions about how you handle conflict and some extra attention to how even small conflicts seem to resolve themselves).
And I don't think it's that marriage has gotten harder. Divorce has gotten easier and marriage has gotten less necessary (which is good news for everyone who's ever been stuck in an abusive or destructive relationship) so people feel like the option of bailing out is more viable than it once was (and I for one am glad that as a single female I have an abundance of career choices and my right and ability to work to support myself is generally accepted without a fight).
All that to say that there is plenty you can do both before and during a marriage to reduce (or increase) the chances that it will end in divorce. (Or at least that's what I've been told, never been married and I know it does take two and sometimes you just pick a crappy partner)
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A Wife of Noble Character
10 [b]Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.
19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm[c] clothes.
22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise Proverbs 31:10-31
(NLT)
10 [b]Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.
19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm[c] clothes.
22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise Proverbs 31:10-31
(NLT)
And my Father says to me (Proverbs 31:10) 10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. So to answer your question they are both just as easy if you trust in the Lord.
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