What Do Men REALLY Mean When They Say, "God Made Men Visual"?

Lol.

Zero, and if I got paid a dollar for every time you say that women are only out for money, I could buy a new car. 🙄

Hmmm... if I haven’t really gotten out and tried is that like never leaving Egypt?

Just for myself I gotta say it's a lot easier when you don't compete at all. But that's just me. And I'm still single, so apparently my approach isn't too good for finding a wife.

It is a lot more peaceful though. And I don't have to compete with guys half my age. Or any guys at all.

So many good guys have shown up in this thread that I seriously feel the need to apologize -- again.

You've all shown a lot of grace in this thread, and I am extremely thankful for that.

I also apologize in that this thread was written from a place of extreme weariness as a long-time single. I don't mean that as an excuse in anyway, but I'm trying to explain where I'm coming from.

Over the past several years, I've often found myself in a place where a guy might say something to me such as, "Well, I like you... but, I kinda like this other girl, too," -- and she's 15 years younger than I am. And my reply is always the same, "Go with the younger girl. She'll still look good for another 20 years, and my time is about to wrap itself up any day now!"

Actually, guys don't usually say this to me -- I generally find out from other people -- and usually, the other girl(s) he's talking to.

I know I've asked this before, but do men feel like they constantly have to compete with guys half their age as well? (Sorry, just kind of thinking out loud.) And it's always within the Christian community, because those are the only circles I hang out with these days.

At any rate... I know you men must be just as frustrated by everything you've seen and endured as well.

But I would also like to say that the negative experiences have made me appreciate good guys even more than ever, especially at this point in my life.

(So I know that, "Then why do good guys always get friend-zoned?" will be the next question.) I can't speak for anyone else, but I know that for me, I feel that in some ways, I'm still working through a lot of my own negativity, and at least for right now, it wouldn't be fair to burden another person with it.

To try and be more clear, sir, I believe that we(men)don't have to walk around thinking we're going to get easily aroused all the time. I believe what we think and believe about our physical needs will become our reality. When I was a young man, I don't doubt that testosterone could overpower my brain. When I became a Christian, and as I got older, I realized God gave me the power to overpower my body with my mind. Kinda like what Paul wrote in Philippians 4. I don't know if this clarifies things for you, but I hope so.

I think there is a difference between good guy and nice guy. I know I am personally working on not being a nice guy. That has also included doing a ton of work on not being negative towards women.

Women tend to seek more signs of status, from everything I have read.

I really liked that statement about the fact that there is a difference between a good guy and a nice guy. I'll have to ruminate on that one a bit longer.

I have to admit that the constant message that women are only seeking status and wealth really frustrates me. I've met a few women like that, but not very many.

And if the women I do know are seeking status or money, they're seeking it through their own careers and not a man (although of course, no one, whether a man or woman, wants to marry a gold digger either.)

I guess what I'm trying to say is... Don't believe everything you read or hear about women -- please go ahead and talk to us women instead -- and right here on the forum is a great starting point, or at least good practice.

I have to take this and apply it to myself as well. Personally, I am extremely thankful that so many of the guys here go against
the stereotypes I get frustrated with (and often believe) myself.

It's showing me how much further I have to go as well, and talking to the good guys here in the forums definitely helps!

One thing I've noticed about the more serious threads you post is this: The reason these stereotypes exist seems-in some cases-to be because we(Christians)often seem to take on the ways of the world-instead of taking in the ways of God. As always, I enjoy your stuff, Seoulsearch. Keep up the good work.

Thanks very much, Didymous!

After all, SOMEONE has to start some trouble around here!

However, I can see that there's some serious competition here as far as trouble-making goes (i.e., Lynx's "Pharisee" thread.)

I had to take a step back ... in awe of your superior ability!

Hmmm....I must check this out immediately!

Thanks very much, Didymous!

After all, SOMEONE has to start some trouble around here!

However, I can see that there's some serious competition here as far as trouble-making goes (i.e., Lynx's "Pharisee" thread.)

I had to take a step back ... in awe of your superior ability!

Don't do it Gracie! You're too young!


Now if only I could find a job that needed the best Pharisee ever!

Phrasing this gently. This thread seems a bit harsh on our male species.

Women look at porn. Women visualize things they shouldn’t just as men do. Perhaps men do a bit more but honestly I’m not even so sure about that. And women google and check out a cute guy just as men notice a pretty woman. Everything from clothing lines to makeup is geared at getting men to notice us. Perhaps women who don’t dress modestly or use an excess of makeup or flaunt should realize they want the man to notice her.

I think both sexes are equipped with the vision to see what we choose to see. It’s in the maturity to discern what we choose to linger on. Just my thought and opinion.

Phrasing this gently. This thread seems a bit harsh on our male species.

Women look at porn. Women visualize things they shouldn’t just as men do. Perhaps men do a bit more but honestly I’m not even so sure about that. And women google and check out a cute guy just as men notice a pretty woman. Everything from clothing lines to makeup is geared at getting men to notice us. Perhaps women who don’t dress modestly or use an excess of makeup or flaunt should realize they want the man to notice her.

I think both sexes are equipped with the vision to see what we choose to see. It’s in the maturity to discern what we choose to linger on. Just my thought and opinion.