Help! My boyfriend keeps watching porn
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We are all born from GOD. Not sex. This world we live in is an unfortunate place that we must dwell in. There is sex within marriage, which is sanctioned by God. And then there is pre-marital sex. Call it what you want, shacking up, bumping nasties, doing the wild thing, playing the field, romping in the hay it's all still purely lustful sex.. And that's what porn is: lust.. and having sex with yourself is an abomination to God, so those who masturbate are sinning against their own bodies..
And 7seas is right.. I don't agree with you.
But opinions are like eyeballs, everyone has one.. lol
And 7seas is right.. I don't agree with you.
But opinions are like eyeballs, everyone has one.. lol
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missed the entire thing about not agreeing with what the Bible says
because he is not familiar with it
and somehow that becomes someone elses' fault
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While y'all were arguing over what constitutes a marriage before God. It should be noted that the OP does not consider this man to be her husband, since she refers to him as her boyfriend. I think that speaks volumes to the nature and intent of their relationship.
I would believe intent is key in making that covenant between a man, woman, and God. Whether a marriage is officiated by an oath, jumping over a broomstick, or coitus.
I would believe intent is key in making that covenant between a man, woman, and God. Whether a marriage is officiated by an oath, jumping over a broomstick, or coitus.
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I wonder what God's intent is
that should be the main concern
people seem to take sexual sin so lightly and yet the Bible indicates it is harmful and to flee from it
people need to make up their minds what they believe and stop saying the Bible says this or that when it doesn't
what speaks volumes to a marriage between a man and a woman is their commitment before God and other witnesses
even Christians these days seem to think marriage is just a piece of paper. why committ before God if that is what a person thinks?
this became about marriage because at least one person thought if you have sex you are married
people are bound to step on toes these days if they stick up for the biblical example of marriage
and where better to discuss this than in the family forum...and the op left a long time ago...someone resurrected the thread
it's funny that quoting what the Bible says concerning the topic of living together sans marriage sends some people into shock
I don't mean you there
that should be the main concern
people seem to take sexual sin so lightly and yet the Bible indicates it is harmful and to flee from it
people need to make up their minds what they believe and stop saying the Bible says this or that when it doesn't
what speaks volumes to a marriage between a man and a woman is their commitment before God and other witnesses
even Christians these days seem to think marriage is just a piece of paper. why committ before God if that is what a person thinks?
this became about marriage because at least one person thought if you have sex you are married
people are bound to step on toes these days if they stick up for the biblical example of marriage
and where better to discuss this than in the family forum...and the op left a long time ago...someone resurrected the thread
it's funny that quoting what the Bible says concerning the topic of living together sans marriage sends some people into shock
I don't mean you there
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perhaps your definition of Christian is someone who bends over backwards to make everyone think they are wonderful
perhaps you are someone who cannot take any correction
perhaps you cry easily
I don't know
but I do know that if someone has no biblical advice to give when someone is asking life changing questions and someone comes along and gives advice that is completely anti biblical it is proper and right to demonstrate from the Bible what is actually right
as a Christian
you have not been here very long and that would be the least likely reason for you to try and correct everyone that hurts your little feelings
condoning sin and making light of something the Bible condemns and in fact in Revelation states that those who practice such things will not be with the Lord in eternity, is the opposite of what a person who asks questions in the family forum should expect to hear from anyone
I don't think your responses are particularly Christian as you have taken the wrong stance here
the op left some time back. you should search the family threads if you think I am not up to your standards
I can assure you this thread is gentle enough to put a baby to sleep compared to some of the nasty responses that have gone down in times past
I do not engage the op in what I said...only the dude who has nothing to say that is acceptable from a Christian or biblical viewpoint
as for Penn, he and I do not believe the same but there are many here that I do agree with
so I don't find his post very genuine regarding whether or not I am ever wrong...like I said, you just got here...I have said 'sorry' or apologized a good number of times. this is my 2nd account so actually I have been here quite awhile. I left and came back which is not a problem. many have done that
as you find me so offensive, do us both a favor and just put me on ignore
I find your personal put downs immature and very prejudiced so enjoy your time here but probably best to not include me in it
over and out
But what if the first person you're ever with, is by a rape? I'm sure some women out there, including myself BTW, were virgins before they were unfortunate enough to get terrorized by a rapist. THAT would NOT be considered "consummating a marriage", even by Jesus.
As for your comment about Seven, she is very much a Christian.
Not everyone here has the same opinions on any subject but that's okay. It's why many of us avoid the BDF like it's the black death. :/ Unfortunately the vitriol and hate spewed in there has spilled over to the other forums. -
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But what if the first person you're ever with, is by a rape? I'm sure some women out there, including myself BTW, were virgins before they were unfortunate enough to get terrorized by a rapist. THAT would NOT be considered "consummating a marriage", even by Jesus.
As for your comment about Seven, she is very much a Christian. Not everyone here has the same opinions on any subject but that's okay. It's why many of us avoid the BDF like it's the black death. :/ Unfortunately the vitriol and hate spewed in there has spilled over to the other forums.
As for your comment about Seven, she is very much a Christian.
Not everyone here has the same opinions on any subject but that's okay. It's why many of us avoid the BDF like it's the black death. :/ Unfortunately the vitriol and hate spewed in there has spilled over to the other forums.
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But what if the first person you're ever with, is by a rape? I'm sure some women out there, including myself BTW, were virgins before they were unfortunate enough to get terrorized by a rapist. THAT would NOT be considered "consummating a marriage", even by Jesus.
As for your comment about Seven, she is very much a Christian. Not everyone here has the same opinions on any subject but that's okay. It's why many of us avoid the BDF like it's the black death. :/ Unfortunately the vitriol and hate spewed in there has spilled over to the other forums.
As for your comment about Seven, she is very much a Christian.
Not everyone here has the same opinions on any subject but that's okay. It's why many of us avoid the BDF like it's the black death. :/ Unfortunately the vitriol and hate spewed in there has spilled over to the other forums.
unfortunately people do not generally give consideration to the bigger picture or how sin has so harmed this world
I'm fine with people thinking I'm mean or whatever so no worries but thank you for what you said
marriage is a covenant between 2 people...a man and a woman...period. premarital sex is not marriage (as you know)
Paul says that marriage is a picture of Christ and the church (people not a building)
so yeah....people will take offence when they do not know what scripture actually says regarding marriage or sexual sin and they get all offended...
I'm sorry the thread kind of blew up like it did...but when you counter lies about what the Bible says that can happen
anyway...that's about it I guess
hugs
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I have been told that a porn addiction is on the same level as a heroin addiction. If you do not wish to deal with it long term, including possible relapses, hidden activities, and who knows what else over the next 20 years you may wish to call it off now. If he can get clean and stay clean for a year or so, then who knows, maybe you give him another shot. Porn is a very hidden sin. Hard to discover, hard to prove. I spoke with a youth pastor not long ago and he said that 21 out of 21 boys at a recent retreat admitted to struggling with porn. The shocking thing to me was that 16 out of 18 girls at a recent retreat also admitted to struggling with porn.
If you decide you want to try and stay with him, and you want him to be clean, he absolutely needs to be in weekly Christian counseling by a professional counselor (not an elder, not a deacon, not a pastor). If you need success, you need a professional who has been trained in this area in addition to the word of God and prayer. A porn addiction is no minor thing, if it were, a majority of our pastors would be addicted to porn.
No counseling, no deal (in my humble opinion).
No counseling, no deal (in my humble opinion).
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