How to deal with wet dreams

Hi all.

I am really tentative about posting about this, but I am kind of desperate at this point.

So some history... I was addicted to pornography for 7 years until I was set free by God. It has been about 1 1/2 years since then. The problem now is that I average about 1-2 wet dreams per week. This is probably due to my 7 years of bondage and the fact that I am lifting weights now (thus creating more testosterone). I would sometimes even say that I feel like I got raped, although not quit as intense. I feel ashamed and disgusting after every time. I know that since I feel a deep remorse and can't really control it that I am still counted as righteous, but sometimes I do have inklings of doubt. Even if I am still in right standing with God, it doesn't fix the fact that after a dream such as these that I am more vulnerable to sexual images that may appear throughout the day (which are pretty much unavoidable in today's society). Even women dressed in skin-tight/revealing clothing can make me start to go down that path before I start feeling shame and force myself to look away. I have actually HALF-seriously considered the pros and cons of making myself go blind so I don't have to go through the endless temptations, which I am sure are contributing to my dreams. (Even though that sounds really serious I don't have any bad mental health problems; don't freak out) I would appreciate any sort of advice on how to overcome this.

Thanks a ton,
ColoradoMinesCole

Hi all.

I am really tentative about posting about this, but I am kind of desperate at this point.

So some history... I was addicted to pornography for 7 years until I was set free by God. It has been about 1 1/2 years since then. The problem now is that I average about 1-2 wet dreams per week. This is probably due to my 7 years of bondage and the fact that I am lifting weights now (thus creating more testosterone). I would sometimes even say that I feel like I got raped, although not quit as intense. I feel ashamed and disgusting after every time. I know that since I feel a deep remorse and can't really control it that I am still counted as righteous, but sometimes I do have inklings of doubt. Even if I am still in right standing with God, it doesn't fix the fact that after a dream such as these that I am more vulnerable to sexual images that may appear throughout the day (which are pretty much unavoidable in today's society). Even women dressed in skin-tight/revealing clothing can make me start to go down that path before I start feeling shame and force myself to look away. I have actually HALF-seriously considered the pros and cons of making myself go blind so I don't have to go through the endless temptations, which I am sure are contributing to my dreams. (Even though that sounds really serious I don't have any bad mental health problems; don't freak out) I would appreciate any sort of advice on how to overcome this.

Thanks a ton,
ColoradoMinesCole

Wow, Christians like to really beat themselves up over absolutely nothing.

It means something to HIM even if not to you..and he had the courage to actually be real bout a sensitive topic...

Wet dreams are nothing.

Christians like to shroud themselves in shame and guilt, for no purpose what so ever.

Christians want to guilt themselves over biological functions they have absolutely no control over, and furthermore, were likely created by God, to serve a purpose.

This kind of stuff leads to garbage like the Skoptsy cults.

Then give the guy help on how to stay pure in mind and body..youre a man..hes asking for help..

I have no advice, except don't sweat nothing.

Hi all.

I am really tentative about posting about this, but I am kind of desperate at this point.

So some history... I was addicted to pornography for 7 years until I was set free by God. It has been about 1 1/2 years since then. The problem now is that I average about 1-2 wet dreams per week. This is probably due to my 7 years of bondage and the fact that I am lifting weights now (thus creating more testosterone). I would sometimes even say that I feel like I got raped, although not quit as intense. I feel ashamed and disgusting after every time. I know that since I feel a deep remorse and can't really control it that I am still counted as righteous, but sometimes I do have inklings of doubt. Even if I am still in right standing with God, it doesn't fix the fact that after a dream such as these that I am more vulnerable to sexual images that may appear throughout the day (which are pretty much unavoidable in today's society). Even women dressed in skin-tight/revealing clothing can make me start to go down that path before I start feeling shame and force myself to look away. I have actually HALF-seriously considered the pros and cons of making myself go blind so I don't have to go through the endless temptations, which I am sure are contributing to my dreams. (Even though that sounds really serious I don't have any bad mental health problems; don't freak out) I would appreciate any sort of advice on how to overcome this.

Thanks a ton,
ColoradoMinesCole

Thanks for sharing, CMC!

For men, wet dreams aren't sinful per se, although the underlying thoughts indeed may be.

To be sure, I don't think that WD's are necessarily indicative of sexual lust, especially given that lust involves coveting something or someone that or who is not rightfully yours. I don't believe it's sinful to see or think of an attractive woman and "react" accordingly. I certainly believe that pornography IS sinful, though.

I might be going off on a tangent here, but a lot of the guilt and shame that men feel with regard to sexual things stems from an (apparent) misunderstanding of Matthew 5, specifically the part where Jesus talked about lust and adultery. In that passage, the word "gune" in Greek is used to refer to both a woman in general or a woman who is another man's wife. Because He was referring to adultery, then the context must be a marriage relationship. In other words, Christ said that it was a sin for a man to plan in his heart to obtain or possess another man's wife. Even if he didn't commit the physical act, the sin would still be in his heart. But that passage has been used to suggest that a man must not be "turned on" by any woman or else he is sinning by committing adultery in his heart. And a lot of single guys have asked themselves (including me) "how can a man commit adultery in his heart if the woman he is looking at is single?" Or should such a man assume that an attractive woman IS married so as to keep his thoughts right? How then, will he find a suitable mate?

A good example is King David. He was walking on the roof of his palace and he saw Bathsheba. He thought she was beautiful and he desired her. However David didn't sin when he saw her and thought she was beautiful; he sinned when he sought to take her for himself (after he found out that she was the wife of Uriah). David committed adultery in his heart at this point in the game, not when he first saw Bathsheba bathing. Because at that point he didn't know she was married to another man.

I say all this, not to excuse or minimize the sin in your life, but to help you to have a better understanding of what male sexuality is supposed to be. Like I said above, porn is a sin and you should absolutely stay away from that. Keep praying and asking God to direct you and to heal you sexually.

Wet dreams? You mean like about the ocean? Yea those can be scary! I can see why you don't want them.

Wow, Christians like to really beat themselves up over absolutely nothing.

Sorry Tommy do you have scripture to back up your stance? If you look at King David, he beat himself up over his sins, he was very remorseful and that is why God called him a man after his own heart. Or Paul who beat his body into submission daily and had struggles over the small stuff.

Do you have scripture that wet dreams, something that is involuntary, is a sin?

And I know I answered a question with a question. But you brought up King David's remorse for his sins.