@Ballaurena , if you call God a Merciful One than a lot of questions are resolved just by doing that.
However, the suffering of children bothers me for many reasons.
The randomness of suffering which occurs in children who die alone and are found many years or decades after, or the randomness of a 'healthy' family too when they see the suffering of their child through some disease.
I also agree with you that God doesn't see suffering like we do and He also sent His only son here to suffer with us which tells me that suffering can bring one closer to God.
When i had my own suffering, i gained more gratitude and appreciation for God because i reasoned that He sent me the suffering because i was being ungrateful for the blessings and abundance that He has given me.
But, i am an adult who can have this growth and understanding. A child can't do any of this and to use them so an adult can realize a lesson, seems a bit too much, but again God doesn't see suffering the way we do.
In general, we are in agreement here unless you don't call God a Merciful One then we have something more to talk about.
Thank you.
I indeed agree that we in general are in agreement, and that our God is a a merciful one.
The one place that I wasn't was in your statement of:
But, i am an adult who can have this growth and understanding. A child can't do any of this...
It may not be in the way an adult does, but a child can very much have growth and understanding from suffering. It's not exactly the same but I have substitute taught in elementary school Special Ed, and even young children who are developmentally delayed pick-up a lot about intangible things. For example, if I ever have such a child I would be very cautious about putting them in such a class because so much of what the children actually learn in such places is manipulation.
Also, my mom was here next to me so I read her your post, to which she asked me what I learned from the suffering I experienced as a child since I was both a migraineur from an early age, and had a ruptured appendix when I was seven. First off, I learned a lot about compassion, endurance, that life goes on, that people love me, that the adults were willing and capable of taking care of me, restraint from avoiding eating that which made me sick, and more. Plus, as I told my mom, the appendix pain told me that I needed to visit the doctor.
Beyond my own experiences, though, I have seen and heard how God often allows the children He is working with to have maladies to grow them, whether it is lactose intolerance, dyslexia, yeast infection with consequent obesity, autism, visual impairment, dental issues, etc. I know for me, God healed me when the time was right and I have seen him do the same with many of the others too, though not all have grown up yet.
God also threw down the gauntlet on a then eight-year-old I know, telling him that if he prayed hard enough, God would heal his cat that had cancer. The kid gave it a fair effort, but not all he could, and God let the cat go. There is more to the story, but this kid in particular has a calling that requires strong determination. God knew what He was doing and didn't see him as too little to learn. Also, I have subbed enough classes to know that even in first and second grade, children have largely picked their course. They aren't too old for it to be altered with good discipline and love, but they have already made a decision on if they want to be cooperative or rebellious at this point.
I am starting to wonder how young you mean, though. I don't know what a baby could get, for example, but that doesn't mean its nothing. People learn through their spirit and not just their physical brain, and I believe this to be more so for babies, not less.
Maybe a little off the main topic here, but I'm remembering now that the time God was speaking to me of pain was in accordance with a bigger lesson on the meaning of the verse that God will have mercy on whom He has mercy, and compassion on whom He has compassion (Romans 9:15). Basically, God's context of mercy and compassion is a lot bigger than ours. We want to be saved from the suffering of the moment, but He is looking to save us from the bigger issues that are causing us harm.
Also, (sorry, I can't help it entirely) as for the children that suffer to the point of death, a while back I concluded that, that WAS mercy. For how merciful would it be if God let a child go on in starvation or suffering for decades. No, it doesn't mean He necessarily wants them to die, but if their existence isn't going to produce real life, why leave them to suffer?
But there are cases when it IS actually His will for a child to die. There is a lady in my church who's husband is respectful and curious, but an unbeliever. God told her at one point that He is taking them through three things that will bring her husband to God, and the first of these was the loss of their baby that was just days old. Shockingly, God indicated that this death was the baby's very purpose in this life. Not unlike the blind man in the Bible that was born blind specifically "so that the works of God might be displayed in him" (John 9:3b).