Why Its Easier to Make Unbelieving Friends?

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SpeakWhatYouSee

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Lynx said:
Oddly I find it no problem to talk to Christians about just anything. Atheists, now... There are very few cool atheists. There are a few though.

Off the top of my head there are four possible explanations for the discrepancy between your and my experiences. One of them has already been mentioned in this thread, and I consider it the most probable.
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there are four possible explanations for the discrepancy between your and my experiences..

One of them has already been mentioned in this thread, and I consider it the most probable.[/QUOTE]

CAREFULL !! that suspiciously sounds like it could be an argument !!!.. 🤔 Lol
 
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SpeakWhatYouSee said:
CAREFULL !! that suspiciously sounds like it could be an argument !!!.. 🤔 Lol
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Hehe!

Don't worry. It's this wonky forum. It has been doing that a lot lately.

If you hit Post reply and it looks like it didn't post, just walk away until the forum feels better. Your post probably went through, but doesn't show up yet.
 
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Lynx said:
Hehe!

Don't worry. It's this wonky forum. It has been doing that a lot lately.

If you hit Post reply and it looks like it didn't post, just walk away until the forum feels better. Your post probably went through, but doesn't show up yet.
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happened to me about 30 minutes ago..:giggle:
 
MsMediator

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SirSolaScriptura said:
I have noticed making Christian friends except in Charismatic circles, is like dating, you gotta put on your best outfit and go on a ton of dates before you even get to be a friend.

In contrast, unbelievers become instant friends. Much like when you were kids, “your favorite color is blue?! We be best friends.” (Seinfield). Only replace blue with anime, fantasy realm, sports, and etc.

Why is it so much easier to make friends with unbelievers? Why do church people act like you gotta attend Bible Study two years before they give you the time of day?

Jesus ate with sinners, and hung with the rejected yet repentant group of Fishermen, Tax Collectors, and Prostitutes. In contrast, Jesus hated the religious caste, giving them many woes (Matthew 23).

Its sad, you want fellowship with other Christians, but the church culture is prove yourself worthy to be a friend like you are dating.. and life is short. So then people wonder why more Christians marry unbelievers and hang with Atheists they ought to consider its because they arn’t willing to go through the worthy examinations to be a friend.

Something’s gotta change.. even Muslim converts to Christianity despair, losing their families for the faith and finding no community and family in Christ so they often fall away and go back to their blood family. (How Islam Plans To Take The World, William Wagner).

Sigh.
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The only Christian friends I have are from church. Everyone else (from work, neighbors, etc.) is of another religion or secular. I find both groups equally welcoming. I do find they are two distinct groups (like two different sets of friends) which can be hard to grasp sometimes, and feel that both groups need to interact more with eachother. The secular group tends to drink more, is more potty mouth, and obviously don't believe in waiting for marriage etc. I would love for both types to mingle but I think it will just be awkward.
 
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One thing I've noticed regards alcohol. While Christians have generally accepted that drinking alcohol is not a sin, drinking alcohol is still seen as bad. When I go to a secular friend's place, say a coworker, it is not uncommon to have a couple of glasses of alcohol. I would love to open a bottle of wine with my Christian friends but believe I may be judged.
 
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