Where to find Christian women 30-40

[Levib]

If you practiced on your 'acquiring the trust of a feral cat' skill, you'd be halfway to achieving your goal.

I’m interested to understand what you mean.

Actually I am somewhat of a ‘cat whisperer’ and have amazed many with it. I’ve never met a cat I couldn’t charm if given enough time with them, and I never use food.

 

[seoulsearch]

There is a difference in genuine concerns and turning a simple conversation into calculating the the re-entry and self landing on the rocket boosters.
I’m assuming you drive/ride in a car routinely. That is statistically the highest cause of death and most dangerous threat to us.

I grew up in the Lutheran church and school system.

From the time I was a kid, people have started talking to me about the abuses they've been through in their lives -- whether they were kids or adults -- and that's never stopped.

I've had both grown men and women literally cry on my shoulder as they told horrifying stories about their abusers, who were sometimes highly regarded in their careers, community... and churches.

You can ask anyone here who's known me about a decade or more and has met me several times in person (Lynx, Cinder, Rod, etc.) -- I think I'm fairly open-minded and friendly to most anyone.

But I feel God calls me to certain people (especially other singles,) and I believe He holds me to being on high alert when it comes to trying to help the flock.

The people who talk to me about what really goes on behind the scenes do so because they usually can't find anyone who will believe them.

 

[Mem]

I’m interested to understand what you mean.

Actually I am somewhat of a ‘cat whisperer’ and have amazed many with it. I’ve never met a cat I couldn’t charm if given enough time with them, and I never use food.

Cats don't give their affection to just anybody, and likewise this is the sort of woman that would interest you, I'm assuming. However, you can't just hold out a dish of tuna and expect them to eat right out of your hand, like you might a dog. I think the story of Ruth and Boaz reflects this analogy. He made sure that her concerns were 'left' for her, and she didn't fail to notice the care. Another aspect also reflective of the cat family, a kitten will be more apt to trust you if its mother trusts you. And Ruth was encouraged to lie herself at Boaz feet by Naomi.

 

[2ndTimeIsTheCharm]

Looking for tips on where to meet and get to know Christian women in USA. I’ve tried going to different churches but that is not usually the a place to meet/talk to anyone. It seems like I’d have to go to a crazy liberal church or the bar to meet ‘Christian women’ in my area. What are some places real Christian women might be found?

I always thought going to church was the best place to find your future spouse but since you're talking about finding Christian women who are 30 to 40 years old, that might be more difficult.

You said that it might come to the point where you have to go to a crazy liberal church or bar but if their beliefs don't line up with yours (OSAS vs. non-OSAS, pre-trib vs. post-trib rapture, calvinist vs. non-calvinist, etc.), don't even trouble yourself to do that. It will just end in grief!

Pray and fast to seek God's will on the matter. That focused attention on God might be just what is needed - and you will definitely benefit from it. Spiritual strength and insight for you and God working on your future spouse to prepare you both to meet each other!

 

[Lynx]

I am very active in the church, that also prevents me from visiting every other church to search for women. Additionally, I don’t believe in visiting churches to prey on women. I have a theory that men and women choose churches for different reasons and coincidently single women are under represented in some churches. So it is a honest question of other possibilities.

Then about half respondents jump in the conversation without reading the previous posts and are completely off topic, it’s the way I talk, I have too high standards, maybe I shouldn’t be against dating married women or even men. I mean as long as the Bible teachings are ‘too strict’ for ‘Christian women’ I should just waver

(SARCASM) I thought is was obvious when I said ‘drugs’ that included coffee, sugar, processed foods, over-eating (/SARCASM)

Well! Ain't YOU just the holiest kind of saintly type person to ever grace a church membership with your divine and spotless presence...

I'm gonna make a prediction here. And you're not gonna like it. In fact you will certainly think I am very rude and stuff. You may even say I am doing the work of satan to come against you in such a manner. But I'm gonna make this prediction anyway.

If you do find the woman for you, you will find a flaw in her. Even if she's perfect, you will look hard enough until you find something you can claim is a flaw anyway. I know it will happen because I've seen enough people - men AND women - like you to know it always happens.

 

[Levib]

I grew up in the Lutheran church and school system.

From the time I was a kid, people have started talking to me about the abuses they've been through in their lives -- whether they were kids or adults -- and that's never stopped.

I've had both grown men and women literally cry on my shoulder as they told horrifying stories about their abusers, who were sometimes highly regarded in their careers, community... and churches.

You can ask anyone here who's known me about a decade or more and has met me several times in person (Lynx, Cinder, Rod, etc.) -- I think I'm fairly open-minded and friendly to most anyone.

But I feel God calls me to certain people (especially other singles,) and I believe He holds me to being on high alert when it comes to trying to help the flock.

The people who talk to me about what really goes on behind the scenes do so because they usually can't find anyone who will believe them.

I’m not making light of any of the wrong doings. I trust you have sincere and legitimate concerns. I think we should all work on communicating, setting clear boundaries and expectations, and remaining firm on them. We cannot live in fear of the unknown or complicate tasks beyond our ability to complete them. You can’t have in depth conversation without the risk of hurting someone. Just accept it’s a possibility and recognize it is extremely unlikely, no matter how often it has already happened.

There is a fallacy of odds that people tend to think the odds get better/worse depending on the previous outcome. When in fact the previous outcomes have zero effect on the odds getting better/worse.

Driving a car is like 100x more dangerous than anything we could ever do. We can minimize our risk by partying attention, driving safely, being observant of other drivers, anticipating their mistakes and avoiding them. I am not smarter or better equipped to deal with every situation. I am confident I could talk to people and be able to walk away before things got out of hand. As should every adult be!

 

[snowbound]

Garden centers are the best place to find women. The woman to man ratio is like 10 to 1.

 

[seoulsearch]

I’m not making light of any of the wrong doings. I trust you have sincere and legitimate concerns. I think we should all work on communicating, setting clear boundaries and expectations, and remaining firm on them. We cannot live in fear of the unknown or complicate tasks beyond our ability to complete them. You can’t have in depth conversation without the risk of hurting someone. Just accept it’s a possibility and recognize it is extremely unlikely, no matter how often it has already happened.

There is a fallacy of odds that people tend to think the odds get better/worse depending on the previous outcome. When in fact the previous outcomes have zero effect on the odds getting better/worse.

Driving a car is like 100x more dangerous than anything we could ever do. We can minimize our risk by partying attention, driving safely, being observant of other drivers, anticipating their mistakes and avoiding them. I am not smarter or better equipped to deal with every situation. I am confident I could talk to people and be able to walk away before things got out of hand. As should every adult be!

Maybe you'd be interested in hosting some Singles Mingle chats if/when they get the live chat sorted out?

You seem to have a good grasp of what it would take to run one successfully, as well as the discernment to keep things under control.

If you'd ever be interested, keep the rest of us posted, as I'm sure we could help.

 

[Mem]

There is a difference in genuine concerns and turning a simple conversation into calculating the the re-entry and self landing on the rocket boosters.

I’m assuming you drive/ride in a car routinely. That is statistically the highest cause of death and most dangerous threat to us.

Re: concerns of the female regard. I've heard it told that men concern themselves in regard to respect and women in regard to security, but I think it goes without saying that all are concerned in regard to wholeness and there's more to respect than public standing and more to security than physical safety. Taking it back to the dynamics in the cat family, the king need not concern himself with anything but to guard his interests against threats while the queen tends to the day's catch and the rearing of cubs. She will make sure that he gets the lion's share in her interest of keeping him healthy to fulfill his mission, among which is, after that he has had his fill, guarding her while she vulnerable in lowering her head to eat.

Say, a rogue male approaches and, while he may not be able to intimidate you neither physically nor psychologically, a simple stare down would probably have a different effect on her. Even if she might be able to defend herself, her cubs would complicate her interest in doing so.

Surely, she would also notice if you brushed her concerns off as trivial.

 

[seoulsearch]

Garden centers are the best place to find women. The woman to man ratio is like 10 to 1.

This is actually an excellent point!!!

Same thing on the flipside for Home Depot and Lowe's... There are always TONS of men there, but I would have no idea as to how to start talking to one (especially since I know nothing about tools and handywork, and it would show as soon as I start to talk!)

But I do go there seasonally -- to check out the home decor -- and the plants.

 

[Levib]

Well! Ain't YOU just the holiest kind of saintly type person to ever grace a church membership with your divine and spotless presence...

I'm gonna make a prediction here. And you're not gonna like it. In fact you will certainly think I am very rude and stuff. You may even say I am doing the work of satan to come against you in such a manner. But I'm gonna make this prediction anyway.

If you do find the woman for you, you will find a flaw in her. Even if she's perfect, you will look hard enough until you find something you can claim is a flaw anyway. I know it will happen because I've seen enough people - men AND women - like you to know it always happens.

I’m not surprised at all. I could see your previous trauma and unforgiveness assigning blame to me and winding up to take a swing. I know because I’ve been there. I’m not mad at all because it simply isn’t true.

I think I dodged that one and I’ll continue to watch my back just in case.

 

[Lynx]

I’m not making light of any of the wrong doings. I trust you have sincere and legitimate concerns. I think we should all work on communicating, setting clear boundaries and expectations, and remaining firm on them. We cannot live in fear of the unknown or complicate tasks beyond our ability to complete them. You can’t have in depth conversation without the risk of hurting someone. Just accept it’s a possibility and recognize it is extremely unlikely, no matter how often it has already happened.

There is a fallacy of odds that people tend to think the odds get better/worse depending on the previous outcome. When in fact the previous outcomes have zero effect on the odds getting better/worse.

Driving a car is like 100x more dangerous than anything we could ever do. We can minimize our risk by partying attention, driving safely, being observant of other drivers, anticipating their mistakes and avoiding them. I am not smarter or better equipped to deal with every situation. I am confident I could talk to people and be able to walk away before things got out of hand. As should every adult be!

Well if it's THAT simple...

christianchat.com/app is up and running, and you can start your own room. (I don't know if starting your own room is free or costs, because I have never messed with it myself. But I do know it is possible and permitted to start your own chatroom there.)

Go for it dude!

 

[seoulsearch]

Well if it's THAT simple...

christianchat.com/app is up and running, and you can start your own room. (I don't know if starting your own room is free or costs, because I have never messed with it myself. But I do know it is possible and permitted to start your own chatroom there.)

Go for it dude!

Show of hands as to who would be interested?

I know I would be.

Edit: I will be interested if they get it to where I can login on my laptop (easier for me to type.)

So far, I've only been able to login from my phone.

 

[Lynx]

Show of hands as to who would be interested?

I know I would be.

Edit: I will be interested if they get it to where I can login on my laptop (easier for me to type.)

So far, I've only been able to login from my phone.

Chrome seems to work better than Firefox, and it doesn't work at all on my tiny Unihertz Jelly Star, but works great on my Unihertz Tank. That makes ANTI-sense because the Tank is running a previous version of Android. The Star, with a later Android version and better processor, should be better able to handle it...

 

[RodB651]

If there is a singles chat, I'll stop by for a bit.

 

[Levib]

Cats don't give their affection to just anybody, and likewise this is the sort of woman that would interest you, I'm assuming. However, you can't just hold out a dish of tuna and expect them to eat right out of your hand, like you might a dog. I think the story of Ruth and Boaz reflects this analogy. He made sure that her concerns were 'left' for her, and she didn't fail to notice the care. Another aspect also reflective of the cat family, a kitten will be more apt to trust you if its mother trusts you. And Ruth was encouraged to lie herself at Boaz feet by Naomi.

You’re right, I’ll work on being less dismissive.

 

[Levib]

Maybe you'd be interested in hosting some Singles Mingle chats if/when they get the live chat sorted out?

You seem to have a good grasp of what it would take to run one successfully, as well as the discernment to keep things under control.

If you'd ever be interested, keep the rest of us posted, as I'm sure we could help.

We can totally set something up. It might be helpful to coordinate something in the forums like you suggested. Send me a message when once the chat is working for you.

 

[Lynx]

We can totally set something up. It might be helpful to coordinate something in the forums like you suggested. Send me a message when once the chat is working for you.

*Lynx goes off to start the popcorn.

 

[seoulsearch]

We can totally set something up. It might be helpful to coordinate something in the forums like you suggested. Send me a message when once the chat is working for you.

That sounds awesome, thank you!

I think it could help edify and encourage a lot of people.

I haven't been checking on the live chats much but will do so regularly.

I'll let you know if I find anything out.

 

[Texasgal]

Brudda... If'n I knowed dat, I wouldn't be heah.

You sure you’re from TN? Far east TN at least???