Where to find Christian women 30-40

[Levib]

Looking for tips on where to meet and get to know Christian women in USA. I’ve tried going to different churches but that is not usually the a place to meet/talk to anyone. It seems like I’d have to go to a crazy liberal church or the bar to meet ‘Christian women’ in my area. What are some places real Christian women might be found?

 

[cinder]

Well this one goes to work and church and takes her dog to the park. And does yard work at home and goes shopping for groceries and stuff.

So yeah, other than getting more involved at church and maybe volunteering to head up a social comittee or singles ministry, not sure we're going to have much other advice. But then again we're single, if we knew where to meet people that might not be the case.

 

[Levib]

Well the majority of them are not in church. I’m optimistic that there has to be some in a city of 400k. They must go somewhere, have some hobby ect. Maybe I can set up a booth at a grocery store.

 

[ResidentAlien]

Well the majority of them are not in church. I’m optimistic that there has to be some in a city of 400k. They must go somewhere, have some hobby ect. Maybe I can set up a booth at a grocery store.

Have you looked into Christian singles dating sites in your area?

 

[Levib]

Have you looked into Christian singles dating sites in your area?

Thanks for the replies, I’m willing to be wrong and you can tell me if I am. I tried this in the past and found dating sites to be quite damaging to women (and probably men) and determined there were very few decent women on those sites.

Now the sites are much more of a scam wanting $40/wk and you can’t even contact people on the same continent! General advice on today’s interwebs suggest online dating as the least productive.

 

[ResidentAlien]

Thanks for the replies, I’m willing to be wrong and you can tell me if I am. I tried this in the past and found dating sites to be quite damaging to women (and probably men) and determined there were very few decent women on those sites.

Now the sites are much more of a scam wanting $40/wk and you can’t even contact people on the same continent! General advice on today’s interwebs suggest online dating as the least productive.

I've never used online dating; sounds like it's not for you. It's hard to pinpoint exactly where you'll find the right Christian woman; they're everywhere really. I'd just try to get out and socialize doing whatever you like to do. Something wholesome, definitely not a bar. You might get some T-shirts or hats with a Christian message on them. That lets others know who you are and they might find you rather than you finding them. Ask your friends if they know anyone, never hurts to ask.

 

[Lynx]

Looking for tips on where to meet and get to know Christian women in USA. I’ve tried going to different churches but that is not usually the a place to meet/talk to anyone. It seems like I’d have to go to a crazy liberal church or the bar to meet ‘Christian women’ in my area. What are some places real Christian women might be found?

Brudda... If'n I knowed dat, I wouldn't be heah.

 

[tomhillbilly]

Interesting topic levib. Something I was reminded of recently. Men alot of times seem to have very high standards, and or criteria when it comes to women. To the point almost that 'women must be perfect' and 'make the grade' as it were. perhaps the mistake alot of said men are making is not meeting all these same criteria themselves.

 

[Levib]

Interesting topic levib. Something I was reminded of recently. Men alot of times seem to have very high standards, and or criteria when it comes to women. To the point almost that 'women must be perfect' and 'make the grade' as it were. perhaps the mistake alot of said men are making is not meeting all these same criteria themselves.

Born female
Christian
Not currently married
Doesn’t drink / drugs

My standard filter removes 99.9% of women. Is this is ‘very high standards’?

Brudda... If'n I knowed dat, I wouldn't be heah.

I’m hoping the decent Christian women on this site would reveal some of their elusive ways.

 

[Edith]

Born female
Christian
Not currently married
Doesn’t drink / drugs

My standard filter removes 99.9% of women. Is this is ‘very high standards’?

Hello Levib, are you creating a group for single women in your city?
And they have to go through your screening standards? . What's the goal brother? I don't get? ahbeg explain.

 

[Edith]

Interesting topic levib. Something I was reminded of recently. Men alot of times seem to have very high standards, and or criteria when it comes to women. To the point almost that 'women must be perfect' and 'make the grade' as it were. perhaps the mistake alot of said men are making is not meeting all these same criteria themselves.

Exactly, it is vice versa. We expect a lot from others and most times we can't keep up to their demands too, What if we take our eyes from the short comings of others and work on ourselves to level up, spiritually, physically, psychologically and more. Then we will attract balanced people.

 

[Lynx]

Born female
Christian
Not currently married
Doesn’t drink / drugs

My standard filter removes 99.9% of women. Is this is ‘very high standards’?

This description fits about a third of the women I know. Less than half, granted, but certainly more than .1%.

 

[CarriePie]

Not that I'm looking to make the grade or anything, but I looked through the short list of standards and thought that I must be uniquely in this strangely rare 0.1% of women. I've was born a female, have been a Christian since childhood, never been married, never done drugs.

But! Then I remembered that sometimes I enjoy a lager or Pilsner (not at a bar).

Ah well lol.
Cheers everyone

 

[NightTwister]

30-40 women? Not quite Solomon, but that's way too many even for me...

 

[RodB651]

But! Then I remembered that sometimes I enjoy a lager or Pilsner (not at a bar).

Nothing wrong with that. I prefer a shot of whiskey. It's been a while since I had one though.

 

[CarriePie]

Nothing wrong with that. I prefer a shot of whiskey. It's been a while since I had one though.

Yes. Besides, a beer or shot once in a while for medicinal purposes isn't necessarily a bad thing.

 

[Levib]

This description fits about a third of the women I know. Less than half, granted, but certainly more than .1%.

That is the result on dating apps. Now days they won’t let you filter by drug use. I’m looking for the 30% like you know who aren’t on the dating apps.

Hello Levib, are you creating a group for single women in your city?
And they have to go through your screening standards? . What's the goal brother? I don't get? ahbeg explain.

Yeah that’s a bad blunder. Supposed to be 30-40 yr old women. I only need to attract ONE. I find I can go through my routine for years and never interact with any women my age. So I have to change something.

 

[RodB651]

Nothing wrong with that. I prefer a shot of whiskey. It's been a while since I had one though.

Check that...
Just had a shot of Southern Comfort...

 

[CarriePie]

Check that...
Just had a shot of Southern Comfort...

Smashing!

Southern Comfort is also a good movie (imo). One of my faves

 

[seoulsearch]

Has anyone been keeping up with the live chat here that they've been testing out?

I ask because back in the day, when they had regular live chat rooms, Lynx and I hosted a "Singles Mingle" chat once (a set day and time that we posted,) and as I remember, it went fairly well (good conversations and no one acting up.) Lynx is good on the mic and I prefer to "work the floor," trying to greet everyone in type as they come in, as well as try to facilitate a group discussion.

Depending on how this new system goes, maybe we could try to start up some regular Singles chats there. It might not seem like much, but at least it's something. We try to have "getting-to-know-you" threads here in Singles, Family, and sometimes Miscellaneous, but unfortunately, with so much else out there, we don't get nearly as much traffic here as we used to, nor do we retain many regulars.

Many people have met and dated from this site. However, we don't want to turn anything here into an actual "dating site" out of respect for the administration. But I've always seen the forums as a floorboard to try to meet people, no matter what.

If live chat works out and we were able to hold some live "Singles Mingle" chats, the first thing I start to think about is everything that could go wrong and how we would need to be prepared. I was raised around people who ran businesses so my mind automatically defaults into "problem-shooting" mode, particularly when it comes to safety and what could turn into legal issues.

For instance:

1. If we set a Singles Mingle chat (date and time,) how responsible are we for the crowd? We all know the internet is the wild west.

2. What happens if there are problems with stalking, people who can't take no for an answer, or those who want to preach to the crowd?

3. What happens if marrieds show up too, and there gets to be too much married/single interactions -- where lines get blurred? (I've read estimates of the percentages of people on dating sites, Christian or not, who are actually married, and it's no pretty.)

4. What happens when fights and drama break out, etc., because if it became a regular thing, conflict is inevitable.

I'm not trying to sound like a Debbie Downer but all these issues are brought up due to knowing people these things have actually happened to, and much more.

Since such a big portion of our lives these days are online, I'd like to think God also wants to use it in a meaningful way to help us meet people -- whether just for friendships, or for more.

I'm just not sure how to work around the myriad of issues that always pop up whenever we try.