Sure its truly free. Designed that way to give God glory when anyone says "I do" without coercion or compulsion.
Despite your objections, this indeed is an intentional portrait of the Church, the Bride that God the Father is seeking for His Son.
Gen 24:8
And if the woman will not be willing to follow thee, then thou shalt be clear from this my oath: only bring not my son thither again.
Gen 24:39
And I said unto my master, Peradventure the woman will not follow me.
Gen 24:58
And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go.
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Aaaaand here is a hodgepodge of zingers for you to ruminate on.
Or curse (as is your habit), IF that happens to be your WILL.
John 5:40 is the scourge and bane and the undoing of all things Calvinist.
Jhn 5:40
“But you are not willing to ***come*** to Me that you may have life.
Exo 19:8
Then all the people answered together and said, “All that the LORD has spoken we will do.” So Moses brought back the words of the people to the LORD.
Lev 26:21
‘Then, if you walk contrary to Me, and are not willing to obey Me, I will bring on you seven times more plagues, according to your sins.
Isa 1:19
If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land:
Mal 2:2
If ye will not hear, and if ye will not lay
it to heart, to give glory unto my name, saith the LORD of hosts, I will even send a curse upon you, and I will curse your blessings: yea, I have cursed them already, because ye do not lay
it to heart.
Jhn 7:17
If any man will do his will, he shall know of the doctrine, whether it be of God, or
whether I speak of myself.
Luk 13:34
“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen
gathers her brood under
her wings, but you were not willing!
Mat 22:3
“and sent out his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding; and they were not willing to come.