I did help, no it shouldn't be received as brash, there is nothing brash about it, we can all make that mistake, and have.
We can't discern and point it out unless we have been there and gone through it ourselves.
As old as our brother is this should have been in the past for him decades ago, our God constantly puts people and situations in our path to grow us in Him, if we ignore them we get to keep our problems, focusing on self and not out on others is the lesson Christ modeled for us, we should have all learned this years ago.
He did nothing for Himself, all was for others, all of us.
We find Him and enjoy His love, joy, peace, etc. in humility and contrition rather than being self absorbed, that is the life Jesus modeled for us to follow.
Thank you for bringing it up.
best wishes
For future interactions - shoulding all over people rarely helps them. Usually it just makes them feel worse and like their situation is hopeless. If you want to help you can quit dropping a load of should in the thread and talk about the methods and strategies that worked for you to overcome debilitating emotional issues. If you've been so fortunate / blessed as to have had a life that's always been full of healthy emotion and have never had to overcome debilitating emotional issues, praise God and pray for your brother.