Anxiety and Depression are Real.

[33Michael33]

The Word Helps Tremendously in the Moment. I don't want to think about Life Without Jesus. However My Anxiety alone is to much to bare and I can barely function the majority of the time. I still go home alone. And Honestly, It is OK if Nobody even responds to this post. Because the Truth is, It makes me feel better to put it out there to people who don't know me. I Already know that God is the only One that can Help Me. Maybe I am to Broken and Lonely to Open My Heart enough to let Him in. I am so Ashamed of Myself that it is hard to accept Forgiveness from the Lord. Much less forgive myself. At the End of the Day, I am Still Going Home to an Empty House All Alone Crying Myself to Sleep Hugging My Bible. Crying Out to God for Any Peace at All. JESUS PLEASE HELP ME!!!

 

[shittim]

Been going home alone for decades, peace is priceless.
Remember the proverb of how it is better to eat your supper on the roof in peace than in the house with a contentious woman?
Focusing on Jesus keeps one very busy if we do it right.
blessings

 

[33Michael33]

Been going home alone for decades, peace is priceless.
Remember the proverb of how it is better to eat your supper on the roof in peace than in the house with a contentious woman?
Focusing on Jesus keeps one very busy if we do it right.
blessings

I Understand that this is meant to be positive. And if you are truly happy alone then good for you. However, To Me, It is the Most Sad thing that I ever Read or Hear when Anyone says these Things. And to be clear about this Post at least. It is Not just about not having My Spouse in My Life Right Now. I am nothing but depressed and Anxious about Everything in my life right now. Even the good things that recently happened that I should be happy about. Change for the better should promote Happy feelings Right? I Feel So Lost and Scared like a Child. I Know that I am No Where near Ready for a Relationship. I Know that God has me in my Christian Singleness to bring me closer to Him and it has and still is Everyday. I Thank God for this Website and Everyone in it for an Outlet of Like Minded Christians that May Possibly Understand More than Most. Thank You for Sharing...

 

[shittim]

"But to me".....
If the words, I, me, mine are in the our vocabulary we are not where we need to be, that alone will open the door for the enemy to bring in distress.
We are no longer our own if we are in Him.
We all must stop focusing on ourselves and focus on Him as we continue to be conformed to the image of the Son.
best wishes

 

[shittim]

I Understand that this is meant to be positive. And if you are truly happy alone then good for you. However, To Me, It is the Most Sad thing that I ever Read or Hear when Anyone says these Things. And to be clear about this Post at least. It is Not just about not having My Spouse in My Life Right Now. I am nothing but depressed and Anxious about Everything in my life right now. Even the good things that recently happened that I should be happy about. Change for the better should promote Happy feelings Right? I Feel So Lost and Scared like a Child. I Know that I am No Where near Ready for a Relationship. I Know that God has me in my Christian Singleness to bring me closer to Him and it has and still is Everyday. I Thank God for this Website and Everyone in it for an Outlet of Like Minded Christians that May Possibly Understand More than Most. Thank You for Sharing...

Your "feelings" are your choice, and spiritually mature person must be able to control their emotions.
If you keep claiming sickness and distress you are showing you wish to keep it.
If you wish to keep it and not recognize it as an attack of the enemy who only comes to steal, kill, and destroy, He will let you keep it, sounds like you have been claiming distress for some time, without knowing the root and how to defeat it.
Your picture looks like you should be much farther along in your walk.
best wishes

 

[Snackersmom]

Your "feelings" are your choice, and spiritually mature person must be able to control their emotions.
If you keep claiming sickness and distress you are showing you wish to keep it.
If you wish to keep it and not recognize it as an attack of the enemy who only comes to steal, kill, and destroy, He will let you keep it, sounds like you have been claiming distress for some time, without knowing the root and how to defeat it.
Your picture looks like you should be much farther along in your walk.
best wishes

I'd be careful about deciding how far along a person "should" be in their walk, especially based off a picture.

We all go through trials and yes, God can and does use them for our growth. But @33Michael33 's walk is his alone.

We can also choose to disregard our feeings, but sometimes they are a window to deeper growth. God made us to have emotions. No, emotions shouldn't control us but they can help guide us to the heart of God. Jesus did not make emotional decisions but He did weep for Martha and Mary, even knowing that their distress would be reversed in a few short minutes. A little empathy can go a long way.

 

[shittim]

Our walk with Him is a process where we all start from the same point, in need of salvation and anointing, the end is intended that we will be so much like Him when people see us, they see Him.
Feelings lie, emotional decisions result from using emotion, reasonable decisions are made with reason.
Everybody's walk is their own walk and their own personal relationship or lack thereof.
best wishes

 

[33Michael33]

I'd be careful about deciding how far along a person "should" be in their walk, especially based off a picture.

We all go through trials and yes, God can and does use them for our growth. But @33Michael33 's walk is his alone.

We can also choose to disregard our feeings, but sometimes they are a window to deeper growth. God made us to have emotions. No, emotions shouldn't control us but they can help guide us to the heart of God. Jesus did not make emotional decisions but He did weep for Martha and Mary, even knowing that their distress would be reversed in a few short minutes. A little empathy can go a long way.

Yeah, I actually saw your Reply Snacker, before I saw the post. And it is OK, Everyone's Response whether Judgemental or Not is welcomed by me because it is honest. I know if I put my feelings out here some people are going to say whatever they are going to say for whatever reason. Maybe by, "picture", thay meant Age, Or My Christian Necklaces? Regardless, I probably should not retaliate or say anything at all. However, I am going to make a point. Saying what was said about my Picture, Is no different than me saying something about the first 4 letters of their Username. Just Saying...

 

[Snackersmom]

Yeah, I actually saw your Reply Snacker, before I saw the post. And it is OK, Everyone's Response whether Judgemental or Not is welcomed by me because it is honest. I know if I put my feelings out here some people are going to say whatever they are going to say for whatever reason. Maybe by, "picture", thay meant Age, Or My Christian Necklaces? Regardless, I probably should not retaliate or say anything at all. However, I am going to make a point. Saying what was said about my Picture, Is no different than me saying something about the first 4 letters of their Username. Just Saying...

No worries, and you are wise to take all comments into account. @shittim is a dear brother with a lot of faith, he does tend to oversimplify things but I tend to overcomplicate. Different parts for different functions.

Regarding your current situation, I felt very much the way you do 15-20 years ago. It was the feelings of loneliness and incompletion that led me to desperation, cosidered making a very serious decision to marry purely for emotional reasons. I did have the wits to ask God about it first though. He answered that it wouldn't be terrible, but wasn't the best and I would regret it for the rest of my life. I then asked Him to be my everything so I'd be OK even if I never had a human partner.

He did seem to answer that prayer, and in the months and years to come I realized that I had been trying to find my purpose and completion through a husband. God showed me that I was complete and purposeful through Him alone. I started working WITH Him instead of FOR Him, and found that we are a great team! Life doesn't feel empty anymore.

That said, spiritual partnership with another human is and always will be an amazing thing. I'm very thankful to have experienced some glimpses of it and can definitely see why God invented it! If He does bring me that kind of oneness with another human then I will feel very blessed indeed

 

[33Michael33]

No worries, and you are wise to take all comments into account. @shittim is a dear brother with a lot of faith, he does tend to oversimplify things but I tend to overcomplicate. Different parts for different functions.

Regarding your current situation, I felt very much the way you do 15-20 years ago. It was the feelings of loneliness and incompletion that led me to desperation, cosidered making a very serious decision to marry purely for emotional reasons. I did have the wits to ask God about it first though. He answered that it wouldn't be terrible, but wasn't the best and I would regret it for the rest of my life. I then asked Him to be my everything so I'd be OK even if I never had a human partner.

He did seem to answer that prayer, and in the months and years to come I realized that I had been trying to find my purpose and completion through a husband. God showed me that I was complete and purposeful through Him alone. I started working WITH Him instead of FOR Him, and found that we are a great team! Life doesn't feel empty anymore.

That said, spiritual partnership with another human is and always will be an amazing thing. I'm very thankful to have experienced some glimpses of it and can definitely see why God invented it! If He does bring me that kind of oneness with another human then I will feel very blessed indeed

Yes Ma'am, I Wish the Best for You. Thank You for Sharing and for Your Heartfelt Compassion. It means more than you know...

 

[33Michael33]

Your "feelings" are your choice, and spiritually mature person must be able to control their emotions.
If you keep claiming sickness and distress you are showing you wish to keep it.
If you wish to keep it and not recognize it as an attack of the enemy who only comes to steal, kill, and destroy, He will let you keep it, sounds like you have been claiming distress for some time, without knowing the root and how to defeat it.
Your picture looks like you should be much farther along in your walk.
best wishes

Whatever Motivation that You have for Your reply. I will assume that it is to help and I will reserve my feelings or opinions on it. Just know if it is for any other reason. You or Anyone else can not hurt me anymore than I already hurt myself. And I Hope that you are actually doing as well as you say you are as well. I don't wish how I feel in my life right now on anyone. I am getting Stronger Everyday in My Walk With God. But Obviously if I said that I was OK then I would be lying. And I would not be posting on here to other Christians trying to find some kind of Solace from my Negative thoughts from the Enemy I am sure. That being said, It is Still Very difficult to rewire a Lifetime of the wrong thought patterns. I am taking My Walk with Jesus Christ the Most Serious that I ever have. God Bless us ALL!!!

 

[shittim]

Nothing is difficult for the Lord, we must give it to Him and focus on Him.
Sounds like you don't grasp my post for you.
Yes, it was to help, should have been clear.
When turn and focus on Him, He guides us to all that is good, no torment, no hopelessness.
best wishes

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

The Word Helps Tremendously in the Moment. I don't want to think about Life Without Jesus. However My Anxiety alone is to much to bare and I can barely function the majority of the time. I still go home alone. And Honestly, It is OK if Nobody even responds to this post. Because the Truth is, It makes me feel better to put it out there to people who don't know me. I Already know that God is the only One that can Help Me. Maybe I am to Broken and Lonely to Open My Heart enough to let Him in. I am so Ashamed of Myself that it is hard to accept Forgiveness from the Lord. Much less forgive myself. At the End of the Day, I am Still Going Home to an Empty House All Alone Crying Myself to Sleep Hugging My Bible. Crying Out to God for Any Peace at All. JESUS PLEASE HELP ME!!!

I sub to this channel. It's one of two that has helped me understand more details about Depression and PTSD. One of my mentors, Dr Martin Gallagher, MD, ND, DC, Nutritionist said that PTSD is more common than most realize. It's not confined to battlefield traumas. It can affect people who experience all types of profound traumas. The brain actually gets rewired to responses that can be lasting (stuck in a loop.)

There's another channel that has been helpful in my DIY recovery without a therapist, a consoling friend or anyone else. However the Lord is our Comforter.

Dr Scott Elielers <
He gives a description here of what his pov on therapy is. It's worth listening to during a lunch break. Almost half an hour. Consider subscribing with notifications and listening to past videos. He doesn't seem to use the typical psychotherapy that secular treatment offers. I don't agree with most of the stuff psychology offers, having studied it formally from high school, college and continued Ed, BUT Dr Eilers helped me to learn a lot about the effects of many multiple traumas I've gone through the past 2+ years.
His approach is very different and practical.

It's been a spiritual war and a physical one brought upon me and destroyed my family. I'm developing a new start that strengthens and now going in the right direction by God's wonderful grace. I pray the same for you.
It's tough to say the least, but quite necessary to receive the Lord's help a day or two at a time.

 

[33Michael33]

I sub to this channel. It's one of two that has helped me understand more details about Depression and PTSD. One of my mentors, Dr Martin Gallagher, MD, ND, DC, Nutritionist said that PTSD is more common than most realize. It's not confined to battlefield traumas. It can affect people who experience all types of profound traumas. The brain actually gets rewired to responses that can be lasting (stuck in a loop.)

There's another channel that has been helpful in my DIY recovery without a therapist, a consoling friend or anyone else. However the Lord is our Comforter.

Dr Scott Elielers <
He gives a description here of what his pov on therapy is. It's worth listening to during a lunch break. Almost half an hour. Consider subscribing with notifications and listening to past videos. He doesn't seem to use the typical psychotherapy that secular treatment offers. I don't agree with most of the stuff psychology offers, having studied it formally from high school, college and continued Ed, BUT Dr Eilers helped me to learn a lot about the effects of many multiple traumas I've gone through the past 2+ years.
His approach is very different and practical.

It's been a spiritual war and a physical one brought upon me and destroyed my family. I'm developing a new start that strengthens and now going in the right direction by God's wonderful grace. I pray the same for you.
It's tough to say the least, but quite necessary to receive the Lord's help a day or two at a time.

Thank You, Very Informative and Motivational. I Really Appreciate You Sharing...

 

[jacko]

there is a season for everything under the sun. Maybe this is the season for you to be alone and grow.

 

[Jared_K]

To be honest…I’m worried about you, Michael.

It’s cool to come home at the end of the day and chat on here with fellow Christians, but you really need to get yourself out there, man. You’re not going to find the woman of your dreams looking at a computer screen.

Don’t take offense to this, but I would recommend looking into group therapy or at the very least individual therapy. I know some believers can think of it as a stigma, but seeking help is a never a sign of weakness. And who knows—you could go to to group therapy and meet someone there.

Have a history of alcoholism or something else? Go to AA meetings. Technically you don’t even need to be one to attend. The twelve steps involve God intervening in their lives to save people. You can meet people there.

You could also Google local matchmakers if you have the dough. Don’t be scared of their initial prices as many of them have discounts based on your needs, but it is going to be 4 figures no matter which way you spin it. Their job is to take your preferences into consideration and match you with someone to your liking, including Christians. The more open your options are, the more you’re willing to do, the more likely you are to get dates. Don’t make it too specific or you may get 1 or 2 dates that don’t go anywhere. At this point you may even want to consider dating someone who isn’t a Christian, but is cool enough to go to church with you.

Go to the park, go to meetup spots. Just get off the computer and get out there, man.

I can tell there are some strong feelings of loneliness coming from you. Women can sense that. Their instincts activate and they protect themselves and close themselves off. You have to be cool, calm and collected. Take some deep breaths, God is with you. Women are more receptive when you aren’t actively trying to pursue them. That said, most women still expect men to initiate. It’s cool to talk to them, just don’t stare and smile at them for too long. It’s a turn off. You see one you like, go up introduce yourself. Ask if she has a boyfriend. She says yes, you say nice to meet you. She says no, be brave and ask her out. It’s a numbers game man. You’re probably going to get 100 no‘s and 1 yes, and that’s pretty much every man’s reality these days. One of my fellow church goers who walks with a cane, is in bad shape, missing teeth, etc. He was nice to my mom (divorced) he was trying to get her attention but my mom was not having it. However he kept persisting until someone finally said yes, and now he’s got a girlfriend. If he can do it, so can you, and you’re far better off than he is.

 

[33Michael33]

I sub to this channel. It's one of two that has helped me understand more details about Depression and PTSD. One of my mentors, Dr Martin Gallagher, MD, ND, DC, Nutritionist said that PTSD is more common than most realize. It's not confined to battlefield traumas. It can affect people who experience all types of profound traumas. The brain actually gets rewired to responses that can be lasting (stuck in a loop.)

There's another channel that has been helpful in my DIY recovery without a therapist, a consoling friend or anyone else. However the Lord is our Comforter.

Dr Scott Elielers <
He gives a description here of what his pov on therapy is. It's worth listening to during a lunch break. Almost half an hour. Consider subscribing with notifications and listening to past videos. He doesn't seem to use the typical psychotherapy that secular treatment offers. I don't agree with most of the stuff psychology offers, having studied it formally from high school, college and continued Ed, BUT Dr Eilers helped me to learn a lot about the effects of many multiple traumas I've gone through the past 2+ years.
His approach is very different and practical.

It's been a spiritual war and a physical one brought upon me and destroyed my family. I'm developing a new start that strengthens and now going in the right direction by God's wonderful grace. I pray the same for you.
It's tough to say the least, but quite necessary to receive the Lord's help a day or two at a time.

I Just Finished the Video and I Took Notes and Also Subscribed. Great Stuff!!! Thanks Again...

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

I Just Finished the Video and I Took Notes and Also Subscribed. Great Stuff!!! Thanks Again...

I'm glad you were blessed.
I think the Lord led me to him because he spoke directly to specific details that I took to the Lord privately. Every week I would hear a class that was practical and helpful exactly what I needed for that time. I don't know if he's a Christian, but I know that God uses lost people too.

The Lord also takes me supernaturally to the exact passages I need throughout the week. I'll be reading His Word when a related verse will pop into my mind. I can't usually remember where it's at and the Holy Spirit literally has me open to the verse immediately and focuses my eyes upon it. Those miracles bring me to tears. I put an "M for Miracle" next to the verse and a brief note in the margin to remind me next time I read the passage about how awesome He is and His personal application to help me and others. I will pray with you that He will share those personally too, for healing, for the recovery we need from Satan's attacks.

It sounds like we both have absorbed some front line battle wounds. It takes time and physical, spiritual nourishment to heal. We are in God's MASH Unit with the Great Physician at our side. Take heart brother because we are safe in His care.

 

[33Michael33]

To be honest…I’m worried about you, Michael.

It’s cool to come home at the end of the day and chat on here with fellow Christians, but you really need to get yourself out there, man. You’re not going to find the woman of your dreams looking at a computer screen.

Don’t take offense to this, but I would recommend looking into group therapy or at the very least individual therapy. I know some believers can think of it as a stigma, but seeking help is a never a sign of weakness. And who knows—you could go to to group therapy and meet someone there.

Have a history of alcoholism or something else? Go to AA meetings. Technically you don’t even need to be one to attend. The twelve steps involve God intervening in their lives to save people. You can meet people there.

You could also Google local matchmakers if you have the dough. Don’t be scared of their initial prices as many of them have discounts based on your needs, but it is going to be 4 figures no matter which way you spin it. Their job is to take your preferences into consideration and match you with someone to your liking, including Christians. The more open your options are, the more you’re willing to do, the more likely you are to get dates. Don’t make it too specific or you may get 1 or 2 dates that don’t go anywhere. At this point you may even want to consider dating someone who isn’t a Christian, but is cool enough to go to church with you.

Go to the park, go to meetup spots. Just get off the computer and get out there, man.

I can tell there are some strong feelings of loneliness coming from you. Women can sense that. Their instincts activate and they protect themselves and close themselves off. You have to be cool, calm and collected. Take some deep breaths, God is with you. Women are more receptive when you aren’t actively trying to pursue them. That said, most women still expect men to initiate. It’s cool to talk to them, just don’t stare and smile at them for too long. It’s a turn off. You see one you like, go up introduce yourself. Ask if she has a boyfriend. She says yes, you say nice to meet you. She says no, be brave and ask her out. It’s a numbers game man. You’re probably going to get 100 no‘s and 1 yes, and that’s pretty much every man’s reality these days. One of my fellow church goers who walks with a cane, is in bad shape, missing teeth, etc. He was nice to my mom (divorced) he was trying to get her attention but my mom was not having it. However he kept persisting until someone finally said yes, and now he’s got a girlfriend. If he can do it, so can you, and you’re far better off than he is.

I really appreciate your concern. However, The Problem is not finding a Woman. I actually get A lot of attention. The problem is the Wrong attention. As in Women looking for Sex Only. Which is what has led me to where I am at now. After my divorce, Which was lacking in the sex department for Me. I never Cheated despite that fact in the 18 Years that we were together, Married for 15. Well, Right after my Divorce a Woman threw herself at me only 2 Months later and I More than Accepted knowing that was all that it was. I am not that kind of person and I still let it go on for 3 Years. The Toll that it took on my Heart and Soul has left scars that I am not sure will ever Heal. What I Embraced that I thought and needed turned into something Very Vile to Me. And now I am so disgusted with myself that I don't know if I will ever trust anyone with my Heart again, Not Even Myself. And to be Clear, I don't blame her or have any bad thoughts about her at all as I am a Grown Man. I do hurt for her and I Pray for her constantly as well as Myself for Freedom from that kind of behavior. To find Peace and Self Worth through Jesus Christ and not embrace the Enemies Lies. God has Corrected me, That is why I am at No sex Until Marriage. God has shown Me first hand by grabbing my attention to the depths of my very Soul. That sex Outside of Marriage ONLY Leads to Destruction. So, Without going into even More detail than that. Thank You for your Concern.

 

[33Michael33]

I'm glad you were blessed.
I think the Lord led me to him because he spoke directly to specific details that I took to the Lord privately. Every week I would hear a class that was practical and helpful exactly what I needed for that time. I don't know if he's a Christian, but I know that God uses lost people too.

The Lord also takes me supernaturally to the exact passages I need throughout the week. I'll be reading His Word when a related verse will pop into my mind. I can't usually remember where it's at and the Holy Spirit literally has me open to the verse immediately and focuses my eyes upon it. Those miracles bring me to tears. I put an "M for Miracle" next to the verse and a brief note in the margin to remind me next time I read the passage about how awesome He is and His personal application to help me and others. I will pray with you that He will share those personally too, for healing, for the recovery we need from Satan's attacks.

It sounds like we both have absorbed some front line battle wounds. It takes time and physical, spiritual nourishment to heal. We are in God's MASH Unit with the Great Physician at our side. Take heart brother because we are safe in His care.

Same, The Lord our God Shows Me Signs ALL of the time to show me that I am now on the Right Path. That is why I feel even more unfaithful when I have anxiety and worry or lack patience in his timing. Just to name a few. Again, Thank You for Sharing!!! AMEN