I am sorry but I can't quite understand what you are saying. But this I know: The holy Spirit, once the gospel is presented, convinces the unbeliever of the truth of the Gospel and that the unbeliever is convinced that his eternal destiny is at stake. GJohn 16, Rom 1
Unraveling the issue of total depravity rests in how well our understanding of how the fallen flesh of the unregenerate dominates over the soul's ability to learn and know about God.
And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good.
As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.
For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells.
For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. Romans 7:16-18
Our flesh opposes God's Spirit, and the Spirit opposes the flesh.
The natural man is stuck with his soul being dominated by his body's desires.
The body is where the sin nature operates and maneuvers the soul to its demands.
In essence, our souls were slaves to the flesh before regeneration.
Even after regeneration it remains a conflict between the soul and flesh, but grace now gives us the power to have our soul
operating in freedom as long as we walk in the Spirit.
For the flesh desires against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh.
For these are opposed to one another in order that you should not do
those things you might wish. Galatians 5:17
Our soul is the real person we are.
The flesh is only a biological vehicle for our soul to get around with in the material world.
But, that vehicle operates on auto pilot and needs to be taken control over by grace!
So, if the natural man is run by his desires of his flesh?
How could God make a person's soul be free to make a decision concerning God?
God must take the flesh and neuter its power while our soul is presented Truth God wants us to consider.
That power God uses the neuter the dominating flesh is one of the functions of what we call "grace."
Grace is real spiritual enabling power we can receive from God when we are being humble before God.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may
rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
Grace is power, not simply God having favorable feelings towards us.
An alternative take:
"My grace produces contentment/sufficiency {arkeo} for you" ...
For 'the power [of God]' {dunamis}
Is fulfilled by means of helplessness/weakness.
When we are weak, is when He should be strong in us, by means of grace and knowledge of sound doctrine.
grace and peace ........