Thank you for this very valuable advice. I will be mindful of how I pray. I have been trying to pray for solutions rather than my problems. Its just hard as the only solution I can seem to muster is confusing. I cant tell if its the right thing to do or not. I know that faithfulness and patience and endurance is what God would want from me. But as for what this looks like in this season, I do not know.
We treat eachother well when things are going well and im being positive and not mentioning my problems. The issue is that there has been betrayal of sorts and now I am not comfortable with certain things. When I mention how I still mistrust, things get foggy again. Im expected to accept and move on despite not having any answers.
Do I continue to just move on despite the betrayal and continuance of sketchy actions? Is this enabling bad behavior in my husband that is leading him into sin...when I do hes happy. We get along but im deep down dying inside.
Or do I voice things and whats neglected comes and rises up to the surface and causes division.
I know I cant change him or give him a heart that wants what I want for us. And it would be wrong for me to insist on my own way...but the one thing I do want is faithfulness and a sense of importance. Not only in word but in action.
I cant tell if this is wrong.
I do not have all the details, nor do I ask for them. But, I think there may be misunderstanding regarding what a "Christian wife" should be. The advice given to wives is to trust that the Husband will have their best interests at heart, but the Husband must actually fulfill their role in doing so. Nobody has any right to bring harm, suffering or abuse to another. A house divided cannot stand, and that truth is fractal, it scales up from an actual household to entire nations and continents.
Ephesians 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Christ is for us and never against. If the Husband is head of the wife, he should be for her and never against. Hence what 5:25 goes on to say; Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
What else could be given, Christ loved us that he gave His life and conquered death so that we may live and live fully!
John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
This is the mindset the Husband agrees to have, He is to protect and serve His wife.
The below summarises perfectly, benevolence is used here, a beautiful description of the goal. Note that each is responsible for the other, neither controls both, but rather with good intentions they are committed to the welfare of the other.
1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
. B romantic ? Just my thoughts , hope u r both talking to God together 
