It seems to me that you were probably a better wife than you think - respecting him enough to let him deal with it in his own way - supporting his decisions concerning his bodily afflictions - not trying to force him to act outside of his conscience - wow - sounds like he could not have asked for any better response from you...I urged my husband to go to the doctor for his aches, but he, being the tough guy, just said it was just traumatic experiences from the service. Turned out it was, from the service or not, terminal. I should have been a better wife.![]()
If my description closely matches the reality of the past - this is intended as a very highly rated compliment - please take it that way.
Sorry about your loss.