Do you know God’s laws on marriage and divorce?

[Beckworth]

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT
MARRIAGE:

—Genesis 2:24 - “A man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.”
—Matthew 19:4-6 - “…What God has joined together, let not man separate.”
—Hebrews 13:4 - “Marriage is honorable…but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
—Roman’s 7:2-3 - A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law; so if while her husband lives, she marries another man, she shall be called an adulterous. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law so that she is no adulterous though she has married another man.”
Conclusion:: marriage is for life. Be careful who you marry.

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT DIVORCE:

—MATTHEW 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 - “Whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
—1 Cor. 7:10 - “…a wife is not to depart from her husband but if she departs let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.”

Conclusion: There is only 1 scriptural reason for divorce and that is sexual immorality.

 

[NightTwister]

You left off verses 11-16 which changes the conclusion. The second scriptural reason is abandonment.

 

[tourist]

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT
MARRIAGE:

—Genesis 2:24 - “A man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.”
—Matthew 19:4-6 - “…What God has joined together, let not man separate.”
—Hebrews 13:4 - “Marriage is honorable…but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
—Roman’s 7:2-3 - A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law; so if while her husband lives, she marries another man, she shall be called an adulterous. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law so that she is no adulterous though she has married another man.”
Conclusion:: marriage is for life. Be careful who you marry.

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT DIVORCE:

—MATTHEW 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 - “Whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
—1 Cor. 7:10 - “…a wife is not to depart from her husband but if she departs let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.”

Conclusion: There is only 1 scriptural reason for divorce and that is sexual immorality.

I agree that marital infidelity is scriptual grounds for a divorce but there are other grounds as well, especially verbal and physical abuse. And also what @NightTwister stated - lack of financial support such as a husband who refuses to work to support his family and neglects them otherwise as well, in other words, abandonment.

 

[NightTwister]

I agree that marital infidelity is scriptual grounds for a divorce but there are other grounds as well, especially verbal and physical abuse. And also what @NightTwister stated - lack of financial support such as a husband who refuses to work to support his family and neglects them otherwise as well, in other words, abandonment.

Abandonment can take on many forms, both from the husband and the wife, including abuse.

 

[Tall_Timbers]

I agree that marital infidelity is scriptual grounds for a divorce but there are other grounds as well, especially verbal and physical abuse. And also what @NightTwister stated - lack of financial support such as a husband who refuses to work to support his family and neglects them otherwise as well, in other words, abandonment.

I've not found Scriptural support for the claims you're making.

 

[Mem]

Hardheartedness is at the core of the issue. Callousness is heartlessness, insensitivity, and its antonyms are compassion, sympathy, empathy, and sensitivity. If you can't understand why your spouse isn't as happy as you think they should be, then I'd say that selfishness is likely a factor somewhere within the relationship. Of course, one or the other has to possess the humility to admit that, however, and so that's where the complication enters. Very few are willing to accept their personal responsibility but are quick to address the failure to uphold the other's end of the venture. That is, the most common complaint is, "I've been nothing but wonderful and this is the thanks I get."

 

[tourist]

I've not found Scriptural support for the claims you're making.

Something in Proverbs about a man shirking his duty to support his family. Many passages in the New Testament about the husband should love his wife.

Not showing love by cheating on her, neglecting her emotionally, not working (if able) to provide financial support, etc.

I would not expect any woman to stay in a loveless marriage, especially being battered physically and verbally, and also having a husband who is a drunkard and dope addict.

If that is not biblical than I really don't know what is. My counsel is to get out of such a marriage, and if there is guilt afterward, then just tell God you're sorry and start moving forward in your life in a positive direction.

 

[tourist]

Abandonment can take on many forms, both from the husband and the wife, including abuse.

I fully concur with your estimation.

 

[Cameron143]

Something in Proverbs about a man shirking his duty to support his family. Many passages in the New Testament about the husband should love his wife.

Not showing love by cheating on her, neglecting her emotionally, not working (if able) to provide financial support, etc.

I would not expect any woman to stay in a loveless marriage, especially being battered physically and verbally, and also having a husband who is a drunkard and dope addict.

If that is not biblical than I really don't know what is. My counsel is to get out of such a marriage, and if there is guilt afterward, then just tell God you're sorry and start moving forward in your life in a positive direction.

No one is saying that women and children should remain in harmful or dangerous situations. What TT said was that he doesn't find biblical evidence in the Bible allowing divorce for such cause. I agree. But I would never want women and children to remain in an environment of harm or danger.

 

[tourist]

No one is saying that women and children should remain in harmful or dangerous situations. What TT said was that he doesn't find biblical evidence in the Bible allowing divorce for such cause. I agree. But I would never want women and children to remain in an environment of harm or danger.

If God does not expect the same in these circumstances, then there must a scriptural solution that promotes safety, and well-being for such a battered wife. I totally agree with your last sentence.

 

[NightTwister]

No one is saying that women and children should remain in harmful or dangerous situations. What TT said was that he doesn't find biblical evidence in the Bible allowing divorce for such cause. I agree. But I would never want women and children to remain in an environment of harm or danger.

Without diving too deep into this, there are complications from remaining married to a serial abuser.

 

[Cameron143]

If God does not expect the same in these circumstances, then there must a scriptural solution that promotes safety, and well-being for such a battered wife. I totally agree with your last sentence.

If there is a biblical allowance, show it to me.

 

[Cameron143]

Without diving too deep into this, there are complications from remaining married to a serial abuser.

A woman can leave and get custody of the kids. If there is abuse, there is a record. It can be used in court.
I don't expect anyone to be left in a harmful or dangerous environment. If there is allowance of divorce for abuse biblically, I'm open to it. Just show it from scripture.

 

[ImLova]

My mom tryed to stay in her marriage. She was abused by my dad. When I was 2 she died of a overdose. I was left alone with my dad who was looking more after drugs than take care of me. Im happy i came to a fosterfamilj who loves me.
I believe if my mom had devorce she would not neet to take an overdose to die

 

[tourist]

If there is a biblical allowance, show it to me.

I will do this, but it might take a little time to fit into my busy schedule. I just thank God that I am happily married to a wonderful, spiritual woman.

I feel bad about knowing that there are many battered wives in horrible marriages. If given the chance to offer counsel I would say the same things that I posted. If counsel is not aligned with God's will and desire, then He can charge that to my account. In the meantime, I would do my best to grow more spiritually in what to say in such circumstances.

 

[NightTwister]

A woman can leave and get custody of the kids. If there is abuse, there is a record. It can be used in court.
I don't expect anyone to be left in a harmful or dangerous environment. If there is allowance of divorce for abuse biblically, I'm open to it. Just show it from scripture.

I already gave the verses above. I Cor 7:10-16. We don't have to agree on what's included and what's not. I believe it's in there.

 

[tourist]

My mom tryed to stay in her marriage. She was abused by my dad. When I was 2 she died of a overdose. I was left alone with my dad who was looking more after drugs than take care of me. Im happy i came to a fosterfamilj who loves me.
I believe if my mom had devorce she would not neet to take an overdose to die

So sad to hear about your mother and neglectful father. I believe that you are correct in what your feelings are regarding bad marriages. Happy to hear though that you are now in a loving family. God Bless You.

 

[Cameron143]

I will do this, but it might take a little time to fit into my busy schedule. I just thank God that I am happily married to a wonderful, spiritual woman.

I feel bad about knowing that there are many battered wives in horrible marriages. If given the chance to offer counsel I would say the same things that I posted. If counsel is not aligned with God's will and desire, then He can charge that to my account. In the meantime, I would do my best to grow more spiritually in what to say in such circumstances.

I share your sentiment. I'm sure we have all met or know people who have suffered abuse.

 

[tourist]

I already gave the verses above. I Cor 7:10-16. We don't have to agree on what's included and what's not. I believe it's in there.

In the whole context of the Word of God, it is probably there, somewhere. God does provide wisdom for those that seek guidance for the situations that are pressed upon their hearts with a desire to help hurting souls.

 

[tourist]

I share your sentiment. I'm sure we have all met or know people who have suffered abuse.

Sadly, we have. Thank you for your valuable input regarding this.