You're completely missing the point that I'm trying to show you here. It would be hypocritical for me to join a group like this if they themselves can't even agree among themselves as christians.
The thing is, you'll never find a group of Christians that agree 100% this side of heaven. If that's what you're looking for, I can almost guarantee you'll never find it.
Look at what was happening even in Jesus's day -- some people insisted on following Jesus, while others thought there was merit to following John the Baptist. And even though John tried to correct them, some people thought they were better for following one or the other, somehow missing that John's whole purpose was leading to Jesus.
Fast forward to after Jesus had ascended into heaven, others took pride in saying they followed Paul, as if Paul was a separate belief system from Jesus Himself.
I heard a sermon once pointing out that even Jesus had two unanswered prayers during His lifetime here on earth:
1. He prayed the that the cup of suffering would pass over Him (and the answer was no.)
2. He prayed for unity among believers (and the answer was either no, or else, not yet.)
If Jesus Himself prayed for unity among the church and never saw it in this life, I think we as believers have to accept that it may never happen here in our lifetimes either.
That leaves us with a choice:
1. Find a Body of Christ to join that we can at least have peace with being part of, even with all its flaws (which ALL churches will have,) but choose to learn and serve anyway if they are willing to accept OUR flaws, or:
2. Become a lone wolf, never joining anything or anyone but always pointing out the specks and planks in every one else's eyes -- leaving us dangerously and increasingly more unaware of our own.
Believe me, I understand your frustration -- I've felt it all my life.
But from my experience, people who go off on their own because they decide everyone is a hypocrite and they can't join because they miss their own hypocrisy only become more and more fanatical and completely out of touch over time.