So throughout my life many things have set off my anger to a good point..
I was told it might be part of a disability like meltdowns.. What i am wondering does God understand this could be part of my disability and will it send me to hell?
While visiting with elders of my church today one of them was sharing what she had been reading in Isaiah 11 about Jesus.
Isaiah 11:3-4 NKJV
"[3] His delight is in the fear of the Lord, And He shall not judge by the sight of His eyes, Nor decide by the hearing of His ears; [4] But with righteousness He shall judge the poor, And decide with equity for the meek of the earth..."
To judge with equity means to account for differences in people. God knows even better than you where the lines are of what you are and are not capable of, and He judges you with real love.
I am going to partially disagree with another answerer. Yes, we can become angry with others because we are too prideful to judge with equity ourselves, but do realize that not all anger is bad. God Himself is described as getting angry in the Old Testament. In the New Testament Jesus overturned the table of the money changers. In fact it John 2:17 it says of this, "His disciples remembered that it was written, 'Zeal for Your house will consume me.' " That sounds like anger to me
Similarly, for those who have Holy Spirit, godly anger can burn in our hearts. Anger is something we experience as part of being made in the image of God, but like many other traits, it gets corrupted in the world and has to be refined by walking with God.
Realize that we get angry because we care about something. Anger can be rooted in positive traits like love, and/or the desire for truth, and justice. It tends to go off when we lose our proper perspective on assessing and valuating others (pride, as was noted before), or we fail to trust God, but I would say pride is more a corrupting factor than the source of anger.
Note too that whenever I have experienced intractable anger that I have taken to God, He has shown me a couple different possible sources over the course of my experiences. First, sometimes, usually even, the anger is actually a godly burden to do something about an injustice. Contrast this with an occasion I had where my mind was very angry but my spirit was at peace because the sin against me was so egregious that God Himself was going to deal with the injustice (known via prophetic word). The other possibility is that sometimes Satan can be affecting us in ways that exaggerate our hurt and therefore our consequent emotions. Ask God for guidance on how to deal with such things, but often it is just a matter of rebuking Satan (commanding that any and all dark spirits must leave and not be replaced). At other times it is more complicated but God can guide you if you let Him.